Eyona nto imbi kakhulu onokuyenza nomntu ophethwe ngoxinzelelo kukwenza ngathi awuboni nto, kwaye unethemba lokuba uya kujamelana nengxaki. Iingcali zengqondo azikhathaleli into yokuba uxinzelelo kufuneka lunyangwe. Kungekudala unganikela ingqalelo kule ngxaki, kuya kuba lula ukujongana nayo. Sixelela, kuba zeziphi izinto ekuboneni uxinzelelo.
Yintoni uxinzelelo
Uxinzelelo sisifo sengqondo, esisungulwe lixesha elingaphekanga, elihamba kunye nokungabikho komdla ebomini kunye nokungazinzi ngokweemvakalelo. Ihlala ivela kwimvelaphi yamava amade ngenxa yokuphulukana nomntu omthandayo, ukusilela kubomi bakhe, utshintsho olubukhali lwendawo yokuhlala okanye izicwangciso eziphazamisayo. Ekuqaleni, umntu ovela kwi-chrielecle kwaye osebenzayo uguqukele kudiniwe kwaye ungakhathali, ke iya kuba yimvakalelo engaphantsi. Inqanaba lokugqibela loxinzelelo alunakukhathazeka kwindalo kunye nokuthandabuza. Ngeli xesha, abanye abantu bahlala becinga, kanye nje ixesha lokuvelisa iinkumbulo ezibuhlungu kwinkumbulo, abanye abacingi ngayo nantoni na kwaye bachitha iiyure ebhedini, bengafuni ukuya ngaphaya kwendlu. Rhoqo, abantu bantywiliselwa kuxinzelelo bayanyamalala - abaziva belamba, bagcwala ngamacandelo amancinci okutya kwaye batya ngokwenyani iziphazamiso.
Indoda ekuhlambuluka kuyo ihlala ikhala
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Amanyathelo anqabileyo
Akukho kwimeko yokuba ungazisebenzisi-chaza amayeza anamandla ngaphandle kwemiyalelo kagqirha kuyingozi kwimpilo. I-psychoperapist ingabala idosi enqwenelekayo ye-antidepresstant kunye nenkqubo yokusetyenziswa kweziyobisi. Ngaphandle koko, kunokwenzeka iminyaka emininzi ukuba 'unamathele "kwiindawo ezikhulisayo, ngaphandle komntu ongaphiliyo. Kwakhona, awunakuze alawule umntu-makasinda kwintlungu kwaye avume ukuhlangula. Akukho sidingo sokumnyanzela ukuba aphume endlwini, ahambe nabahlobo kwaye aye kwiindawo zikawonke-wonke ukuba akayifuni. Sukuzama ukuqonda iimvakalelo zomntu othandekayo wakho, esithi: "Ungakukhathazi!" Akukho sidingo sokuthelekisa iimeko kwaye unike imizekelo yendlela owazi ngayo okufanayo - iimeko ezifanayo zenzeki. Kwaye uthelekiso luya kwandaphula imvakalelo yakhe yokudakumba, yahlulwe kuwe kwaye inyanzela ukuba isondele kuwe.
Eyona nto uyenzayo
Elona nyathelo lichanekileyo libonisa ukhathalelo lwakho kunye nothando. Ejikeleze umntu onothando kunye nengqwalaselo-hugn, jonga iimuvi zakhe ezithandwayo, nceda usebenzise izipho ezincinci kunye namanqaku amnandi. Kwaye uchithe ixesha elininzi kwikhaya lakhe, kuba indlu yomntu onengqondo elonakeleyo ithwala ixabiso elikhethekileyo njengendawo ekuphela kwayo kwaye ikhuselekile.
Yibe kufutshane kwaye uhlale usondele
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Ndikholelwe, ndintywiliselwa kuxinzelelo, umntu uziva eneemvakalelo ezifanayo njengabanye, kuphela kwinqanaba elincinci. Usonakalisile kwaye ahlangabezana nabo ngokusondeleyo kwintlungu kunye nemvakalelo yakhe, kodwa akanakwenza nantoni na de kuphele ixesha. Iingcali zengqondo zigxininisa ukuba ibinzana elithi "ixesha liphatha ixesha" alibi ngamagama angenanto, kodwa iNyaniso. Ke makayibuyisele amandla. Nje ukuba uqaphele ukuba umntu othandekayo wakho unenzala ebomini, makayilungelelanise kwaye anike uncedo kwingqondo. Ngokwanokwenzeka, uya kuvumelana naye, njengoko eqonda ukuba kufuneka asebenzele ingxaki yakhe nomntu onolwazi.