Kubonakala ngathi ukuzalwa komntwana kade kuya kuba yinto epheleleyo yexesha lethu. Ukulungiselela ukuba ngunina we-orvice olga cabo. UChristina Orbakayte Matshi 30 wazala intombi uClaudia, kwaye uEvelina Bronds 4 wembewu yembewu. I-Arkady noNatalia Ukupeniki, ukubukela oogxa kwiworkshop yokuyila, baxhase: Kwiminyaka eqolileyo, akunakwenzeka ukuba uqonde ukuba abantwana ziintyatyambo zobomi.
Ngokwenene yonke iminyaka elishumi eline yomtshato yahlala nemvakalelo yokuba zilungile kwaye zinye. UNatalia noKrestudy babechithwe ngokupheleleyo omnye komnye, phantse bangabi nanxaxheba. Ukongeza, iArcadiya sele ikhulile abantwana ababini kwimitshato yokuqala, kwaye bathi umbuzo wokuqhubeka kohlobo lunomdla kuye, akunakwenzeka. Endaweni yoko, bakholelwa ukuba bobabini baphilile, ke kubo bonke baya kuyenza phezulu, njengoko bekwenzeka, kwaye iya kwenzeka ...
I-Arkady Ukpnak: "Ndikhumbula kakuhle ixesha apho uNatasha waxela ukukhulelwa kwakhe. Siye sakhwela kwaSirayeli kwikonsathi yam - i-buddy yandimemela ukuba ndithethe e-Eilat ngomhla wakhe wokuzalwa. Ndaya kuye, ndivuyisana ngayo intsebenzo yam, kwaye wasimema kwiNatasha ukuba ihlale naye iintsuku ezimbalwa. Sahlanzela iintsuku ezine, sabhabha eMoscow, nakwiveki kamva uNatasha undixelela: "Mhle! Ngokoluvo lwam, sikumanenekazi! "Ekuqaleni bendiyiqonda. (Uhleka.) Emva koko wandicacisela ukuba sikhawuleze saya sasabela kumaSirayeli kunye, saza sahambahamba. Ngaba kunokwenzeka ukuba ulibale ?! "
UNatalia Ukuphononongo: "Kungawo nawuphi na umntu obhinqileyo emtshatweni ophumelelayo, ezi ndaba lulonwabo olukhulu. Ngokwam, bendinemvakalelo yolonwabo. Awukazi ukuba yintoni, kodwa sele i-euphoria kunye nendiza. "
I-Arkadad: "Esona sikonwabisayo kangangemizuzu emihlanu emva kokuba ndivile ukuba siza kuba umntwana, saqala ukuxoxa ngaso ukuba uza kuphila njani. Ndikhumbula, ndathi: "Yiyeke, okwesibini! Ngokoluvo lwam, ngaphambi koko, kude kakhulu! "Kodwa uNatasha wakuthi:" Hayi, masixoxe yonke into! "Oko kukuthi, sivela kumzuzu wokuqala, yonke indlela yobomi bakho iyatshintsha. Uqala ukucinga iindidi ezahlukeneyo ngokupheleleyo. Kwaye ayiqhelekanga kangako - emva kwayo yonke into, ngaphambi kokuba yonke into ihambe iminye imitya, zonke izicwangciso zahlukile ngokupheleleyo. "
Basabela njani abahlobo bakho kwiinguqu ezizayo kusapho?
I-Arkady: Wonke umntu uvuyisekile. UNatialia emtshatweni phantse waneminyaka elishumi elinesihlanu ubudala, kodwa uYehova akazange anike abantwana. Yonke into ibingekho, yayingekwenzekanga, kwaye yenzekile ngequbuliso! Mhlawumbi, ke wonke umntu wonwabe kakhulu. Kwakungekho mntu ungatshatanga owawujija umnwe wakhe etempileni. Kodwa xa kwavela ezi ndaba kwi-Intanethi, kwafuneka ukuba amagqabantshintshi afundile eyahlukileyo. Kodwa le yi-Intanethi ... "
Ngaba nyhani lo mzuzu?
I-Arkady: "Kwakukho izinto ezingathandekiyo. Kodwa babhalela abalinganiswa, ngokungeyomfuneko kum kwaye kungabikho ngokupheleleyo ukuqonda.
Ifoto ye-Arkady Ukuphononongwa: Indawo yogcino lwakho lweeNtsapho ze-e-Ukupnikov.
Ngexesha lokukhulelwa kweNatalia, wena uqhubeke nokuvela kumaqela oluntu. Kwakungekho nkolelo kule nto?
I-Arkady: "Ngokunyaniseka, ngaloo ndlela, umntwana osemva uyalumkisa. Abantu basahlukile. Andikholelwa kulo naluphi na uhlobo lwe-him, kodwa ukumamela. Ke ngoko, sambamba olu lwazi ixesha elide kangangoko kunokwenzeka kukhuseleko. Kodwa emva kwayo yonke loo nto, ndingumntu osemgangathweni, esidlangalaleni, ke ngoko, kwithuba elithile, yonke into iye yabonakala. Akunakwenzeka ukuba umfazi wakhe uvaleleke, kwiindonga ezine! (Ihleka.) Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, unokufaka ingozi enkulu emntwaneni: ukuba umama wexesha elizayo ucinezelwe kwaye engenanto, konke okudluliselwa emntwaneni. Ke ngoko, siyekile 'ukufihla kabini' kwaye saya kuzola kwiNtengiso, yabonisa i-tumm yethu enokuzithemba eqinileyo: Akukho nto imbi inokwenzeka! Ke kaloku, omnye komnye wathi: Ukuba yonke into yenzeke kuthi, yonke into iya kulunga!
UNataliya: "Ayibonakali ixesha elide ndikhulelwe. Siyifihla le nyaniso nakubazali. Kodwa emva kwayo yonke loo nto, xa uvuyo lucacile, inkolelo inyamalale. "
ILizwe Lesithembiso
Ngaba kungenxa yokuba umntwana wathatyathwa kwaSirayeli, ngaba uye wagqiba kwaye uzala apho?
I-Arkady: Yonke into eyenzekileyo ngokweemvakalelo. Sasikwinyanga yesithandathu kwaye sakhwela ukuze siphumle ngoMeyi. Ubushushu. Vala. Akukho visa. Kwaye ngelixa baphumla, bathathele ingqalelo iikliniki ezahlukeneyo zaseYurophu, bacinga. Sigqibe kwelokuba sihlole imeko kwaye kwaSirayeli. Kwaye kufuneka sithi, ndiyithandile kakuhle. Ndiyithandile yonke into. Kwaye Sondela kubafazi abasebenza nzima, kwaye ubakhathalele, kwaye bathobele abasebenzi. Sonke sabonisa khona, saxelelwa. Ewe, kwaye umgaqo-nkqubo wamaxabiso waphuma waba nolwandle. Kungamaxesha amathathu ahamba ngexabiso eliphantsi ukuze abelene kunakwiikliniki zethu ezibonakalayo apho oomama baseRussia bazale. Kwaye emva koko sacinga: Umntwana wethu ufanele azalwe ekupheleni kukaJulayi, engcono kakhulu kwaye iluncedo ngakumbi ukuchitha eli xesha elwandle kwimo entle, endaweni ye-moscow enothuli. Kwaye isimo sengqondo esifanelekileyo esandulela ngokuzala, ndandiqinisekile, ndidlale indima ebalulekileyo xa kwakuzalwa umntwana. Kuyinyani, salinda intombi esekupheleni kukaJulayi, kodwa kukho ukulibaziseka. Ngenxa yoko, wazalwa ngokuqala zero. Kwaye ibaluleke kakhulu. Okokuqala, ndazalwa ngokweshumi elinesibhozo, kwaye ndedwa kwaye ndineminyaka esibhozo, okwesibini, siphila kwishumi elinesibhozo leshumi, kwasekwekuqaleni, ngo-Agasti ngoMhla woMtshato wabazali bam. Inkolelo yayingakholelwa, kodwa wazalwa ngexesha. "
Ukuzalwa komntwana ...
I-Arkady: Yonke into ihambe kakuhle. Ndaze ndaya kwisinyaso ngayo yonke loo nto ibalulekileyo. "
Luhlobo luni lokuhamba?
Ikhwele : "Kutheni? Ukusika intambo ye-umbilical, ulwamkelo lwabantwana. Ndanikwa intombi ezandleni zam ngomzuzu nje emva kokuba ebuze! Zonke ezi zezona zimvakalelo ndizothusayo ngokweemvakalelo kwiminyaka yam. Ukubonakala kwesidalwa somthonyama, esikumzuzu emva komzuzu ndijonge ngamehlo amakhulu, kwaye kubonakala ngathi kufanelekile kunangaphambili, yenye yezona zinto zibalulekileyo, zezona zinto zinamandla ebomini bam ebomini bam. Ungena nje kule ohwood-kwaye yiyo loo nto! Ungabhabha njani ukuya kwindawo! Ayidluliswa ngamazwi. "
UNataliya: "Ewe, ngethamsanqa, ukuzala kwahamba ngokulula. Andikwazi ukukhalaza ngempilo yam, okanye kwindalo okanye ngoogqirha. Kwaye, ngaphandle koko, ndaziva ndixhaswa yiNqaba. Yena, yena, esala ngokuzalwa komntwana, wandixhasa, ndinexhala. Kwaye iya kuba nentembelo yokuba yonke into izakulunga. Ukuzalwa kokuqala kuhlala kungaziwa, nangona ufunda kakhulu kwaye ufunde kwi-Intanethi ... kodwa ayinakwenzeka ukuba icinge kwangaphambili. Ekubeni uSofia ngumntwana wam wokuqala, ndandingazi kakhulu kule nkqubo ngokwayo. Akukho mfihlakalo yokuba umntwana ebonakala emgubo, ngoko ke ulindelo lwala mgubo wasetyhini, kunjalo, onokoyikisayo. "
I-Arkady Ukuphonya nenkosikazi nentombi yakhe. Ifoto: Indawo yogcino lwezabo yokuluma kosapho.
Arkady, ngaba uye wagqiba kwelokuba uye kwindibano yomntwana okanye ngaba uNatasha wacela le nto?
UNataliya: "Andibuzanga, yabonakala ngokucacileyo kuthi. I-Arkady yandicenga ukuba ndixhase, kwaye ndibalwa ngenene kwinkxaso yakhe. Ke ngoko, umbuzo wokubuza, unyanzelekile, akami.
I-Arkady: "Ewe, sithethe ngalo mzuzu. Luhlobo olunjani lwesono, abafazi abaninzi abalufuni ubukho bamaqabane abo ngokuzala umntwana. Kodwa sagqiba kwelokuba. Ngapha koko, ndaqonda: Uwatata ufuna ukuba ndisondele. Ewe, mna bendiqinisekile, ndisaya kuhlala ndinyamezele. Kwaye andikhange ndibone mntu woyikisayo. "
I-Arkady, sele unabo abantwana kwimitshato yangaphambili. Kodwa ukushumayeza inkangeleko yomntwana ekukhanyiseni wena okokuqala?
I-Arkady: "Ewe, abantwana bangaphambili abantwana bazalelwe, oko kukuthi, ngaphandle kwam. Bakhutshelwa emva kwexesha elithile sele bengabaguquki. Zizo ezinye iimvakalelo. "
Umntwana ongu-Aliol
Igama lentombi laqalwa xa babejonga ngamehlo akhe?
UNataliya: "Sasicwangcisiwe igama esilucwangcisile. Kodwa xa le ntombazana yazalwa, kwabonakala ngathi ukuba ayilungelanga kuye. Yayiluhlobo lovavanyo. Ixesha lacinezelwa. Ungachazwanga umntwana ovela kweli lizwe akunakwenzeka. Iintsuku ezilishumi zidlula, kwaye akukho gama kwaye hayi, sibize abahlobo, abazali, sacebisa into, kodwa andiyithandi kwanto. Apha yaqala ukothuka. Asizange sivele kwisigqibo. Kwelinye icala, siye sazama ukungahlali kwingxaki yokuphazamiseka, kwaye kwelinye, umntwana unikwe igama lobomi. Igama luhlobo lwekamva. Besifuna ukubiza intombazana ukuze ibe neqhayiya ngabo. Kubonakala kum ukuba ekugqibeleni sifumene inguqulelo entle-sofia. Sityhalelwe ileta ethi "C", ngenxa yokuba i-Arrisidy inegama eliphakathi le leta "C". Thina negama lokuqala lalikule leta, kodwa andiyi kukuchaza ukuba liveze-mhlawumbi siseza kubasebenzisa. " (Uhleka.)
Ifoto ye-Arkady Ukuphononongwa: Indawo yogcino lwakho lweeNtsapho ze-e-Ukupnikov.
I-Arkady: "Ewe, ngegama kukho ingxaki. Kwakuyimfuneko ukukhupha amaxwebhu okuzalwa, kwaye asinakuthatha isigqibo. Kodwa ngeenzame ngokubanzi, ngosuku olude kunye neengxoxo zobusuku, seza kwi-disnomineyitha eqhelekileyo kwaye wanika igama lokuba yi-Sofia. Ngokoluvo lwam, mhle! "
I-Arkady, abantwana bakho abadala bakuvuyela ngokutsha?
I-Arkady: "Ewe, wayengalindelanga ithuba elinje ebomini bam. Kodwa, ngokwendalo, sonwabile! Ivuyisiwe. "
Ngaba uze ujonge eSofia?
I-Arkady: "UNyana wafika eJamani. Ndadibana nodadewethu. Ngokubanzi, ndabona indoda encinci, aya kuyinyamekela ikamva. Yonke into iilungile! "
Ngubani na intombi ijongeka njani?
I-Arkady (ikrati) : "Njengoko besitsho, uyintombi kayise! Enye yentombi yethu, ejonge eSophia, wathi: "Umntwana we-alwimim!" Ewe, awuyi kubala. " (Uhleka.)
Ngaba ningabaphambukeli?
I-Arkady: "Njengoko yayikhutshiwe, ndandiba yikhulu leepesenti utata. Ndizibandakanya kwintombi yam, ndihlambe, ndisuse, ndihambe naye. Kwaye okona kubaluleke kakhulu, ndenza oku ngokuzonwabisa. Kwaye ndiza kuzama kwiminyaka ezayo ukuze anikele emntwaneni ixesha elininzi kangangoko kunokwenzeka. "
UNataliya: "Nangona ndingumntu ozolileyo, andiweli kulo naluphi na ukothuka, ukonakala okungafunekiyo, kodwa kwavela ukuba ibe nye ngomama ophambeneyo. Umzekelo, ukuba uSofia uyakhala, ndiyaqonda: ayifani nje, ifuna into. Kwaye andiyithobeli imbono enjalo: bathi, makayibhatale, emva koko uya kumisa uSam. "
Emsebenzini wakho ngandlela thile ichaphazele imbonakalo yentombi?
I-Arkady: "Ewe kunjalo, kubonisiwe. Ndandinzima ngakumbi ukubandakanyeka emsebenzini. Kodwa ezi ziinyanga zokuqala. Ndingutata onamava! (Zihleka.) Ndiyaqonda kwaye ndiyazi ukuba yintoni enzima kwinyanga okanye enye, emva koko ... umntu uyasetyenziswa kuyo yonke into. Akuzange uvalelwe, hayi kwinkampu yoxinaniso. Ezo mvakalelo, ke ulonwabo, ulonwabo olufumanayo, olungaphezulu kokutshintsha ixesha lokusebenza. Ewe, andinalo ixesha, kwaye siye saxabathanga kunokuba sihambe kancinane, kodwa sinexesha elinesimo eligqibeleleyo! Safudukela kwiSixeko. Umntwana wethu ngandlela thile "wakha". Sasihlala kwindlu yedolophu ixesha elide, nangona bekunokwenzeka ukuba uye kwindalo. Bakuba bakufumani, ukuba bakhulelwe, bamitha, ngoko nangoko baqala ukulungisa endlwini yelizwe. Ngokufika kwentombi yakhe, wafudukela emadolweni. Sele ndiyiva ngokupheleleyo yonke imitsalane yobomi belizwe. Uzolile apho, ngaphandle kokuphosa izitrato zaseMoscow. "
UNataliya: Akunakwenzeka ukuba uvavanye utshintsho, kuba uhlala kuzo, ukuyo. Kubonakala ngathi wenza yonke into eyenzekileyo. Kodwa kukho into engenamida. Siye saba sekhaya. Sichitha ixesha elininzi nomntwana. Kwimpelaveki yekhwele engathathi ntshukumo. Kodwa ngokufuthi, njengoko uyazi, ubomi bemvumi ayichazi uphila ubomi bemihla ngemihla. Ngoku yonke into itshintshile. "
Ngubani ovutha umntwana ebusuku?
I-Arkady: "Kunye. Okanye kamva. Kuyaxhomekeka!"
Kwaye unxibelelana njani neSofia? I-Syshishi?
I-Arkady: Ayiluncancisa. Ndiyaqonda ukuba kungcono ukuthetha nomntwana oqhelekileyo, njengabantu abadala, kodwa awuphumi. Uyintombazana evulekileyo ngokweemvakalelo. Intle kakhulu. Kunqabile ukulila. Xa uvuka, uhlala encuma. Kwaye ke, xa ujonga kwaye ubone eyakho ibonakaliso, ungayenza njani! Sifana kangangokuba imvakalelo iphakama endizijonga esipilini. "
I-Cradle yentombi yam sele ibhaliwe?
I-Arkady: "Hayi, andithathi inani labo babhali ababonayo abayibhalayo. Ngequbuliso. Ukuba oku kuyasebenza. Kodwa nangayiphi na imeko, iilwimi zelile sele zibhaliwe, zezaphindi. Kutheni ukhuphiswano? "
Ukuba ushwankathela, abantwana bade ba ...
UNatalia: "... Olu lolunye uthando, esinye isimo sengqondo, enye imbono. Isicelo somntwana sivakala kuwe ngendlela eyahlukileyo. I-Akakhrisi inyibilikile kwintombi yakhe. Ndiyayibona. Kwaye ndiyamthanda umfazi wam, indlela umama umhle ngayo. Ndiyathemba ukuba uSofia uya kuluxabisa uthando esimnika lona. Abantwana, bazalwe kubazali abaqolileyo, baninzi ngakumbi, baphumelele ngakumbi, baphumelela. Bafumana ubunzima obukhulu, sukubona ukuba nosizi lwendawo yangaphandle, kuba ixesha elide lukhuselekile. "
I-Arkady: "Xa usemashumi mahlanu, emva koko ubomi bungabonakala buhleli. Ke ngoko, ukuvela kwesidalwa senkumbulu kushukumisa itreyini. Uyaqonda ukuba ayisaphulukani nobomi bonke! (Uncumo.) Ubuncinci unenjongo. Umntwana ukunika ithuba lokwakha ubomi bakho kangangexesha elithile amashumi phambili. Uyaqonda ukuba kufuneka wenze ntoni into. Yhule, phakamisa umntwana wakho. Ke ngoko, ndicebisa wonke umntu: ukuba unalo, ukuba ninamashumi amahlanu, nithabatha abantwana, niyisebenzise, kwaye ubomi bakho buza kuhlala. Kwaye ngaphandle koko, uya kuziva wena hayi indoda ehamba kancinci kwenye indawo kumgama, kodwa umntu oqhubeka ngokuzithemba. "