Khumbula ukuba uzama ukuthoba kwakho xa wawunomsindo kumntu osebenza naye, wazama kuphela ukuze uhlangabezane neengxaki okanye unamava othando osandula ukuphepha. Ubukrelekrele beemvakalelo buyinxalenye ebaluleke ngokwenene yobomi bethu, kodwa uninzi luyayiqonda into engeyiyo. Ukunyanzelwa kweemvakalelo kunye nokuvalwa kwimbonakalo yabanye yeyona nto imbi kakhulu yempilo yengqondo. Sixela isizathu sokuba ungaze uzinqande ukuba nomsindo kwaye ungakhathali.
Umfanekiso womntu olungileyo
Hlala ucinge, nokuba kuya kufuneka unciphise ukubonakaliswa kweemvakalelo. Owona mbuzo uphambili ekufuneka uyibuze yile: Ndilawula iimvakalelo, kuba ndiyifuna ngokwam okanye yamkelwe? Lo mbuzo awusondelanga - umfanekiso womntu ofanelekileyo uhlala uguqulwa ngokoluntu. Ngoku ayisiyiyo umphathi ophumeleleyo kuphela kwaye ofundileyo, kodwa nomntu owaziyo ukuba ungayibani na nentloko ebandayo. Nangona kunjalo, umfanekiso awusoze irobhothi ye-Cabot, esihlala sizama kuwe, sizama ukuba nexesha lokuqikelela, ngokufuthi alihambelani nobomi.
Sukuzithelekisa nabanye
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Ukwazisa ngengxaki - isiqingatha sesiphumo
"Inyaniso izelwe kwimbambano," utshilo wakudala. Akukho nto iphosakeleyo ngeembambano ukuba omabini amacala azama ukuza kwisiphumo esisebenzayo. Kucacisiwe ukuba ngexesha leengxoxo ezishushu, iimvakalelo zibilisa - kufuneka zibekelwe umda, zithi zibonakalise ukuba zibonakalise izinto zendalo zomntu. Oko kukuthi, sithetha ngendlela ebonakalayo yokubonakaliswa kweemvakalelo - ukulawula, okuqondayo unobangela, kwaye ukungazithembi ngokungazithandi. Nje ukuba uqonde kwaye usebenze ngalo mzuzu, impilo yakho iya kutshintsha ibe ngcono.
Zive ukhululekile ngokwakho
Umntu ngamnye uyindibaniselwano eyahlukileyo yeempawu. Ngapha koko, loo mntu unokuba luluntu kunye nomntu oncumisayo ngamini-nye, kwaye ufuna ukuba yedwa kunye naye. Musa ukugweba abanye ngendlela yokuqala kwaye ungazinxibelelanisisene neseti encinci yeempawu, uloyiko lokuthatha inyathelo kude nomfanekiso ovuthayo. Ukuba emsebenzini kufanelekile ukuba incitshiswe ngesazela iimvakalelo, emva koko xa unxibelelana ngokusondeleleneyo, akunakufakwa umda. Masithi uziva uyolo, uhlala ugona abantu abasondeleyo kwaye uthethe ngendlela ezindleleni. Kwangelo xesha, wagqiba kwelokuba ukubonakaliswa rhoqo kweemvakalelo kwenza ukuba amazwi engenanto kwaye axabiseke kakhulu. Ngoba? Ngubani owathi ufuna ukuthi "ndiyakuthanda" ngokuthe ngqo amaxesha ama-3 ngemini, kwaye hayi rhoqo? Sukujonga abanye kwaye ucinge intloko yakho. Abantu abakunye nawe baya kukhululeka ngakumbi. Thetha malunga nazo zonke iimvakalelo ezivayo ukuseka ukuzithemba nabantu bomthonyama.
Ukuzikhathalela - esona sipho sibalaseleyo
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Ibhloko Iimvakalelo ezinobungozi kwingqondo
Wonke umntu uyazi ukuba ingqondo yahlulwe yangamasebe, kwaye wonke umntu wenza indima yawo. I-hypothalamus inoxanduva lokuqulunqa iimvakalelo - kwangaxeshanye ivuselela ukubonakaliswa kweemvakalelo. Amasebe obuchopho aseleyo athatha inxaxheba ngandlela ithile ekubonakalisweni kweemvakalelo. Umzekelo, iWhiskey ayikho ilize, xa sineentloni, kuba zinoxanduva lwale mvakalelo. Khawufane ucinge ukuba kwenzeka ntoni ukuba uyayivala iimvakalelo zakho: umqondiso wokuba enye isebe lengqondo litshintshele kwenye, liyekile kwi-go. Imihla ngemihla, eli nyathelo limiselwe kwi-subconsion, ekhokelela ekuqaliseni inqanaba lokuphendula lokuphendula. Ingqondo iyeka impembelelo kude kube nakufuneka aqonde ingxaki. Oku akulunganga kungekuphela nje ngentembeko yeenkulungwane eziveliswa yindlela, kodwa ne-psyche yakho - ingxaki eyamkelweyo ihlala ikwi-subconsion, kwaye ingapheli.
Kuyathakazelisa ukwazi ukuba zeziphi iimvakalelo ozicinezela? Yabelana ngenqaku kunye nabahlobo, malunga nempilo oyikhathaleleyo.