Ukuvukela ubuchule-i-phenomeno engapheliyo evele ngaxeshanye ngokufika kweZiko loSapho eSocium. Inkcubeko yobugcisa yehlabathi iyaphuphuma ngamaplothi ahambelana nenkani yelinye lamaqabane, kwaye umntu anokuthi eyokhubazekile kule ntloko, akanakuze aqondwe ngumfundi okanye umbukeli wemeko yendawo . Ayiphelelwanga ukubaluleka kwayo kunye nombuzo ongapheliyo malunga nendlela yokuphatha le nto, yiphi impembelelo yobuncwane bomtshato buchaphazela ubudlelwane bosapho.
Kumajelo eendaba, inqaku lembono iqhelekile, kwezinye iimeko, ukuvutha konyango "lotywala", enceda amahlakani ahlaziyekileyo, qaphela kwaye ulungise iimpazamo zabo. Kodwa ngaba kunjalo?
Ngelishwa, nkqu nobona bantu bonwabe kwaye kunqabile ukuba bahlale bengenasithuba seminyaka emininzi. Ukuntywila kubomi bosapho, amaqabane kungekudala okanye kamva aqalise ukonwaba ngolwalamano oluqhelekileyo. Endaweni yenkanuko, ukuthandana nokudumisa kuza isithukuthezi, ukuphoxeka, ukudinwa kwemisebenzi yosapho eMonotonous. Umntu onjengeqabane lakhe elithandwayo nezihlobo, uqala ukubangela ukucaphukisa. Kwimeko yentlekele yosapho, ukuvukela kubonakala ngathi yeyona ndlela ibonakalayo kwaye ilula ukuyicombulula ingxaki.
Ngaba lufanelekile ukonwaba okwethutyana lwentsapho etshabalalisiweyo?
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Isakhono sokuqalisa ukungcungcutheka ecaleni kwaye sifumane yonke into kolu buselo yonke into iyasilela entsatsheni, ityhalela abantu abaninzi baphoxeka ebomini bomtshato, ukuya kuphononongwa. Le meko ikwaba nzima kwiipesenti zengqondo zasekhaya. Ngaphandle kwento yokuba, ngokubanzi, ibutho laseRussia leyombuso kunokuba yinto engathandekiyo, kwiindawo ezinobugwenxa kulomtshato, kubonakala ngathi luhlobo "olubi ngokulungileyo" luzimisele kakhulu. "I-Levak elungileyo yomeleza umtshato" - itsho intetho edumileyo. Ii-adping kule thithiyori zibonisa ngokunyaniseka kwaye aziqondi ukuba ingcambu iyonakalise yendalo, engalindelekanga ukuba yomeleze into.
Iingcali ze-Psychology yeKlinikhi yeKliniki yeDenver ize yabelwe i-pronomenon yokungathembeki: Uphononongo lubonise ukuba ama-44% abaphenduli abangama-484 abayekiwe, kwaye ama-50% aphindwayo. Kubantu abanjalo, ukuvutha ngumsindo ube "yindlela yobomi."
Ewe kunjalo, kukho iimeko ezikhethekileyo xa umntu sele enobudlelwane edibana nothando lwenene, ikamva lakhe. Kodwa kwiimeko ezininzi, njengoko kuchaziwe apha ngasentla, - ukuzama ukuqhuba imeko, ukusombulula iingxaki eziqokelelwe kusapho njengendlela engafunekiyo kwaye isebenze ngokwazo. Umgibe kukuba oku kulula kakhulu. Ewe, ubudlelwane obusecaleni buyayenza kangangexesha elithile ukulibala malunga nenkqubo yentsapho, zivakala iimvakalelo ezintsha, ezinqwenelekayo.
Ukoyisa ingxaki kubudlelwane kunokuba ziindlela ezincinci.
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Nangona kunjalo, indiza kule meko ihlala iguquka kunye ne-witch. Imeko ede ka-Ajalter ihlala ihleli, i-Dende ibe ngumngcatshi, kwaye kuya kuba nzima ngakumbi ukungqubana. Ukutshintsha, iqabane elingalunganga libeka endaweni yobudlelwane obukhoyo. Kuhlala kukho umngcipheko endikufundileyo malunga neqabane lokulandela iqabane aliyi kukwazi ukuxolela, ke, ukungena kubudlelwane ecaleni, umngcatshi kufuneka aphendule ngokunyaniseka imibuzo: "Ndikulungele umngcipheko wam umtshato kwaye ndilahlekelwe ngumntu endimthandayo? "Ngaba akukho nto ngeyonto yokunyanzelwa kukubandezeleka kwicala lethuba lokutshabalalisa yonke into edalwe ngaphezulu konyaka?". Kwaye ukuba ubudlelwane obukhoyo bungabuveli naliphi na ixabiso elibalulekileyo, kunokunyaniseka ngakumbi ukusasazeka, kunokuba ukukhohlise iqabane ngomqolo. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, kungekudala, inkohliso iya kutyhilwa, kwaye ihlala ikutyhileka kuphela ekuqikeleleni ukuba iqabane elifundileyo inyani ekrakra liya kubaphatha njani.
Ukuba umngcaphili onokubakho uyawuxabisa umtshato wakhe kwaye awufuni kuphulukana neqabane lomphefumlo, emva koko, njengoko sele kukhankanyiwe, kufuneka azi ukuba kwenziwe ingozi yengozi yenqanawa yosapho. Ngaba lukhona ukonwaba kwabantu abanjalo? Okanye mhlawumbi kukho enye, incinci, indlela yokwahlula ingxaki yosapho? Ewe kunjalo, sebenza ngokwakho kwaye kubudlelwane luyinto enzima, efuna ukubandakanyeka kunye nomdla ovela kuwo omabini amaqabane. Nangona kunjalo, ngokudibeneyo unokuzoyisa kakhulu, eyona nto iphambili kukunyaniseka, kukuthetha ngokucacileyo ngeengxaki ezikhoyo kwaye, kubaluleke kakhulu, funda ukumamela.
Isixhobo esisebenzayo esisebenzayo esinceda ukoyisa ukuphikisana nosapho luncedo logqirha wezengqondo onamava. Isibongozo sexesha elifanelekileyo kwiNgcalikhi eQhelekileyo kwiimeko ezininzi zinceda amaqabane okusombulula iingxaki ezikhutshelwe iminyaka ekhutshelwe iminyaka kwaye izuze ulonwabo olude nobomi babo.