Umgaqo "Makhe ube, njengoko uza kuba", ukuba uzama ukwenza imanyano eyomeleleyo neqabane. Abanye ngempazamo bakholelwa ukuba ukulalanisa luphawu lobuthathaka, isabelo. Kodwa enyanisweni, ngesivumelwano sokudibana ukuze sinike, omabini amaqabane kufuneka anikele into, hayi enye. Kodwa kusekho iimeko ezinjalo apho impumelelo yokufezekiswa kwengozi ayiyondlela yokuphuma, nokuqala kwesiphelo:
Xa uzama ukususa
Ukuba iqabane lizama ukulimaza, ithi awukufanelekeli nantoni na, umdlalo wakho uyandidinisa, kwaye umsebenzi awusebenzi, kufanelekile ukuba ucinge ngolwalamano lwakho. Akukho sidingo sokuvumelana "Ukudibana" apho uphosa khona umsebenzi okanye izinto zokuzonwabisa ngenxa nje iqabane liyifuna. Ungalibali ukuba yindoda, nokuba kuthe kwakuthembisa ngaxeshanye iintaba zegolide, unokuhamba nangaliphi na ixesha, emva koko ubeke emngciphekweni ngaphandle komthombo wengeniso nophahla entloko.
Izithintelo azitshonga malunga nothando lwalo mfo, kodwa malunga neengxaki zakhe zengcali
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Xa umbono wakho wexesha elizayo ungahambelani
Umzekelo, ufuna abantwana, kodwa indoda yakho ayikho, okanye ngokuchaseneyo? Kwaye uyavumelana nokubethelelwa: "Yizani unyaka," "Ndiza kundixhasa kwaye ndizuze umntwana," "iprojekthi, emva koko azale." Ezo zivumelwano aziyi kukhokelela kwinto elungileyo, kuba akunakwenzeka ukuba unyanzele umntwana, ke ngonyaka okanye emva koko iqabane liza kunyuka nesizathu esitsha sokuhlehlisa ukukhulelwa. Ngokufanayo ngomtshato. Musa ukuhlala nomntu otyholayo ngokusemthethweni ngokusemthethweni - ukuya kwi-reso akunakulindeleka ukuba uphumelele. Kodwa ngokumshiya, awuyi kuphulukana nexesha kwaye unokufumana umntu onesifo esifanayo ebomini.
Xa bekuthatha isigqibo malunga nawe, enokunxibelelana naye
Ukuba indoda ithi iintombi zakho ungalingani kwaye uvumelekile ukubabona, ngokuxhomekeka ekubeni iya kubakho-ayisiyonto yokulalanisa, kodwa ukophula umthetho. Okanye, umzekelo, unabahlobo abangamadoda, kodwa iqabane lizohlwaya kakhulu kwaye linomona ngomona, kwaye ngenxa yoko, ukuthintela ukuba unxibelelane nabo. Kusenokwenzeka ukuba ngokudibene nosapho kunokucaphukisa umthandi. Zonke ezi zinto zingasentla lungenelelo kwithuba lobuqu, imiqondiso yokuqala yolwalamano oluhlukumezayo. Akufanelekanga ukuba uthatha naziphi na izivumelwano malunga nabantu abasondeleyo - kuphela othatha isigqibo xa ufuna ukunxibelelana naye.
Sukuhlala kubudlelwane apho ungakhululekanga
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Imigaqo ifakwe kuphela kuwe
Umzekelo, awungekhe udibane neentombi ngeempelaveki, yiya kwiiklabhu, nxiba "ngokugqibeleleyo". Kodwa kwangaxeshanye iqabane likhululekile ukuba liye kwimivalo yabahlobo ukuya kubukela ibhola, ukukhwela okanye unxibelelane namanye amantombazana. "Umdlalo kwisango elinye" awuyi kukhokelela kwinto elungileyo. Akukho bume apha, kuphela kukuzincama kuphela kwintombazana. Kuyimfuneko ukumisela imida yobuqu "elunxwemeni", kwaye ukuba ayisebenzi, ukugqiba ubudlelwane.