Cinga xa okokugqibela owamfumana ngandlela zonke onempilo abahlala sizinze kunye mikhwa zabo ukutya ekhangela kokukhona ndiziphendulela ngomxhelo owonwabileyo, liqiniswe yaye ezintle. Inyani yile yokuba, ukubonakala kwayo kwaye ujonge ecaleni, unokufumana umdlalo omncinci xa usenza ibhalansi yamandla emikhosi kwaye, phantsi kwemotto "?" Ukuba ne-flimsy, lixesha lokuba uvume ukuba kwezi ndlela, nokuba zinjani, ukoyisa kuqinisekisiwe. Ewe kunjalo, abanye baya kwindawo yokuzivocavoca, bahlala kwizidlo (kulungile, ukuba bekungahlali, bayabaqonda ngokugqibeleleyo), bayabaqonda ngokugqibeleleyo), basasaza abanye "kwabo" kwaye hayi indlela ababekhe ngayo ubudlelwane babo ngokutya kwabo . Ukutya kuyaphumelela. Unamandla phezu kwethu. Oku sinamandla amakhulu. UMXHOLO, Uyabona, nkulu. Ndicebisa ukuba ndiqonde-hayi ngesikhafu, kodwa ngokuthe ngcembe, kwiinxalenye ezincinci, izihlandlo ezininzi ngosuku.
Ewe, vuma ukuba yintoni kanye kanye onomdla kuyo ngelixa ufunda le migca? Indlela entsha "Ekugqibeleni yasusa amacala aphezulu anqabileyo kunye neendiza" okanye ipompo yakho esemngciphekweni i-EGO ukuba ne-EGO unelungelo lokuthanda kwaye uzixabise? Okanye mhlawumbi uqhuba umnqweno wokuhlengahlengisa into kwimfazwe yakho ye-epic enelungelo lokufumana emzimbeni wakho?
Kweli nqaku akuyi kufumanisa iingcebiso malunga nohlengahlengiso. Sithetha ngokwazi ngokwakho ngokutya. Abantu bafuna ukutshintsha ukutya kwabo - kodwa ngaphambi kokutshintsha into ebomini babo, kuya kuba kuhle ukufunda ukuba buqhubeka nathi. Kukutya okunokufumaneka kuwe. Ndingoonyango abangakholelwa ukuba ngokukhawuleza kufuneka batshintshe into. Endaweni yombuzo "Yintoni ekufuneka yenziwe?" Kungcono ukubuza: "Kwenzeka njani ukuba nditye njengam?" Koku kwaye i-psychology yokutya igqityiwe: Kwinkqubo yeengcinga malunga nayo, ukhetho, ukupheka, ukuhlafuna, ukwala ukutya, ukulahlwa kokutya, ukulahlwa kokutya, ukulahlwa kokutya, ukulahlwa kokutya, ukulahlwa kokutya, ukulahlwa kokutya, ukulahlwa kokutya, ukulahlwa kokutya, ukulahlwa kokutya, ukulahlwa kokutya, ukulahlwa kwayo ...
Ibali lam lobuqu liyinqaba enkulu. Kwasekuqaleni banikwa isikolo se-chereographic, apho ootitshala baqhuba iitalente zabo zendlela apha endleleni kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo babengaqhela imicimbi yempembelelo yamazwi abo kwiingqondo zabo. Apho, ndibandezelekile ukuba kukho into engalunganga kum, kwaye ndigxininisa olu lwazi kwindawo yobudlelwane nomzimba. Ukukhetha ukophulwa kwendlela yokutya, emva koko ndaye ndafuna indlela yokujongana namanxeba obuntwana bam. Oku kubiza kakhulu kunyango, njengesizathu sobomi bam. Ngoku emsebenzini wethu ndilandela indlela yokwazi wena ngobudlelwane nokutya.
Akukho mfihlakalo yokuba kukho abantu abatya yonke inkunkuma, umsi njenge-steam locomotive kwaye uhlale usempilweni (ngakumbi ngokuthe ngqo). Kwaye kukho abo batya "i-Prana ehlanjululwe" kwaye bayagula, abangapheliyo. Ewe kunjalo, ngoko ndifuna ukufumana iresiphi echanekileyo! Awu, akunakwenzeka ukufezekisa oku, ukutshintsha inkqubo yakho yamandla kuphela. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, "umxholo ofanayo" kukucofa kwayo yonke into ebomini bethu.
Ihlala yenzeka rhoqo ukuba ukutya kuqhutywa ngawo onke amanye amanqanaba. Umzekelo, ke: Ndizamile ukwakha ulwalamano olusondeleyo, andizange ndiphumeleli, ndandilahla - kwaye ngoku ndihlala ekutyeni okanye jerk ihlazo lam. Endaweni yokulwa inkosi yam yasedolophini, ndiyeza ndisela iti nepipi. Kunye nenkosikazi yesondo? Kulungile, siza kulandela i-TV enekekhe elimnandi kwaye isela ibhotile yebhiya ebandayo. Ndiziva ndinesithukuthezi kwaye akukho mntu wayefuna? Emva koko kufuneka ngokukhawuleza ukunciphisa umzimba kunye nokuqengqeleka. Ekutyeni! Ukusukela ngoMvulo! Hayi, ukusuka ngoLwesibini. Ndithenga ubhaliso lonyaka kwindawo yokuzivocavoca kunye neyona midlalo iphambili. Malale, isazela siya kuthoba ...
Siphila ngenene phantsi kwe-urnet. Luyabulisa ubomi bethu, ixesha lethu njengomnye umxholo. Ukuba ususa ukutya nesiselo, yonke into enxulumene nabo-ukuthenga, ukupheka, ukusebenzisa izitya, - ukwahlukana kwexesha, elingaqondakali le nto! Kulungile ukuba abo badlule indlala ende.
Ukongeza, izakhiwo zokutya ixesha, iphazamisa ubudlelwane. Nakuphi na ukuqhutywa kwabantu ngayo nasiphi na isizathu kubalulekile kukutya. Uba ngummelwane, ngokungabikho kwezinye izihloko ezikumphezulu, abantu ngamanye amaxesha banokulunge nje. Ukutya kuthatha indawo yokusondelelana, isebenza njenge-buffer kwiimeko ezihlazo xa kungekho nto yokuthetha. Kuzo zonke ezi meko zitya kunye, okanye kufutshane, okanye zodwa.
Ukutya kungenxa yokutya, kwaye akukho enye into. Akakwazi ukufaka ezinye iinkalo zobomi. Nangona ngamanye amaxesha ufuna ukuveza ngokoqobo ukuyiqonda. Umzekelo, ityala elaziwayo lonyango.
Umama wentombazana waguqukela kugqirha we-Therapist, enexhala lokuba emva koqhawulo-mtshato, umntwana waqalisa ukuzithanda ngokungazithandi amava akhe. "Ndifuna intombi yam incinci, kodwa nje ukuba ndiqale ukunyanzelisa," ndakhalaza. Kwincoko, kwavela ukuba le ntombazana inamandla ibotshelelwe kwi-cycolate ye-chocolate ngelow. Ufihla iilindle ngepipi phantsi komqamelo kwaye azitye ngokufihlakeleyo. Emva koko umnyango ucebise ngokoqobo ukuze ugcwalise umqamelo ngezi zinto zinxila. Yibeka nje le ngxowa ecaleni komqamelo wakhe, njengoko iipipi zincitshisiwe ukuba zizongeze kangangoko ithatha. Ekuqaleni, le ntombazana yayisityebile igcwele, ke-kancinci kwaye incinci, ide ingenzi ukuba ibingasamenzisi ipipi. Kwathi emva kokuhlaziya, ngequbuliso waqala ukulahla ubunzima kabukhali kwaye waqala ukumbuza ukutya okunempilo okuvela kumama.
Ulawulo lwakhe olubalaseleyo
Endaweni yokufumanisa ukuba ikhona, xa kukho kwaye kungakanani, kufuneka uyeke kwaye uzibuze umbuzo: "Kwaye yintoni, enyanisweni, yenzeka ntoni?" Apho kukho amagama athi "Shedyuli", "ukutya", "ukunciphisa umzimba", "ukuseta ubunzima" - emva kwako konke oku kufanelekile ukulawula. Kwaye apho ulawulo, lungenelelo olungafanelekanga kwaye, ngenxa yoko, uxinzelelo.
Ebuntwaneni, ngamnye kuthi kufuneka aphile ixesha lokulonwabela ubomi obungalawulekiyo, njengenqanaba lemfundo elifunekayo. Ukuba asikadlulanga, kunokwenzeka, siphazamisekile kuyo nobomi bonke sizama ukubuyisela le ndlela yokunqongophala. Abantu abangakhange baphumelele eli nqanaba lolonwabo, khetha ukutya. Hayi ngesondo, hayi iphupha- yiya nje! Olu lolona nyango luqinisekileyo lokwaneliseka kwangoko.
Ukuba ngexesha lokufumana amava okonwaba kuthi, safunga, sangenelela kwaye silawulwa, eli la amava liya kuqhagamshelwa ngonaphakade lihlazo. Kwimeko apho inkqubo yokutya inxulunyaniswa nehlazo elizinzileyo newayini, siphenduka kubathengi abangalawulwanga. "Sela" ngokwakho umzimba, ngokwenza oko ukwenze lula iingxaki zakho. Le yindlela entle yokujika ibe yinto yoxinzelelo kwicala lenkcubeko, ukugqwetha ukuphelela. Ngaba uyabona loo nto? Ihlazo ukuba ihlazekile ihlazo, kukho ukulungiswa, igcwele abantu ukuba bahleli ekutyeni, kodwa eneneni batya i-sly. Nakuphi na ukugxininiswa komntu ukuba ubunzima obugqithisileyo bakhulisa isikhundla sayo.
Ekuphela kwento esinokuyenza kukujikisa i-pendulum kwelinye icala, vumela ukuba ukonwabele ngokupheleleyo kwaye ujonge ukuba uphi omnye umda. Ubuncinci okwethutyana!
Nakuphi na ukutya kukuzama ukulawula ifom ecocekileyo. Yithi, Apha andiphathi nabunye ubukhulu bobomi bam, kodwa ndiyakwazi kwaye ndiza! Kwaye ukuba ngoku nditya isaladi, oko kuthetha ukuba ndilawula imeko, kuthetha ukuba yonke into ilandelelana. Kodwa uAmon uza ebusuku xa sizifumana ngaphakathi kwifriji. Kuloqeqesho kwam, ndinika abathathi-nxaxheba umsebenzi onjalo: Iidiliya ezinyanzelekileyo zikhokelela kwi-cunred kwaye zilahle ubunzima, zibala ukuba zidlula khona kwiikhilogramu ezidlulileyo ngexesha lokutya kwazo. Iinombolo ezimangalisayo zifunyanwa kubantu abasempilweni, apho iinwele zimi khona esiphelweni: kwiikhilogramu ezingama-45, kwaye elinye ibhinqa libaliwe ka-170!
Xa kuxhomekeka kwengqondo kukutya kokutya, ke umzimba ukhululwe. Lo mbono ndinguye, hayi umntu ovela ecaleni, iNkosi yomzimba wakhe isinika ithuba lokuphila ngaphandle kokuziva unetyala kunye nehlazo. Ke, awunakutya ukungayilungeli ukubamba uyonwabele umxholo kunye nemigaqo, kodwa kuba ngoku ichanekile into endiyifunayo.
Nawuphi na umntu ongayiqondi ngokuyinxenye indlela imizimba yethu, zeziphi iinkqubo ezenzekayo kuyo, nokuba injani na kwaye injani yona, nokuba yeyiphi na le nto, nokuba yeyokutya. Kwaye ukungabikho kokuqonda lilitye lembombo kuzo zonke iingxaki ngokutya.
Nangona ukutya kudala kunqongophele, izihlwele zee-adping zangaboni njengomhlambi ziya kumgubo ongenantsingiselo. Kwaye kuthekani ukuba ithemba elingazi nto lithathe ukutya-ngaba kukukhala koncedo? Eyona nto inokwenzeka, ngalo mzuzu wobomi, sishukumisela imfuno yomnye umyalelo. Kuyenzeka ukuba uqonde kuphela ngendawo yokumisa kunye netshekhi yefrank, apho sibaleka khona.
Owona msebenzi uphambili wendlela "edliwayo" kukhule kwibala lezinto ezingafunekiyo zobudlelwane nokutya. Kuyimfuneko ukukhulula imikhosi esiyisebenzisayo kulawulo lokuzilungiselela ngokupheleleyo ebomini. Khumbula isiqubulo? Ukutya sisidlo nje. Kwaye iimvavanyo zokwenyani zilindele kwenye indawo.
I-Ev Hazin yingcali yengqondo, ugqirha wezobugcisa, ingcali kwi-psychology yesondlo. Ukukhuthaza ukukhula komntu kwiZiko loQeqesho lweHazin Hazin