Imbono yanamhlanje ye-Psychology yosapho yelona lwazi lunomdla. Elinye ikhulu eladlulayo, i-Psychology yayifunda inkuthazo kwaye yasabela kuye, kwaye ngoku uhambo olude ludlule kwaye luphonononga indlela ekusichaphazela ngayo indawo ekusichaphazela ngayo izinto. Kwaye sihlala kuzo kwaye singayiqondi indlela esingazalisi ngayo ukuba silifa lenkqubo yethu yosapho.
Umzekelo, uBert waseBert owethu, owaziwa ngayo yonke indlela yolungelelwaniso losapho, wathi abantwana bangezazalwa ngenxa yezizathu ezahlukeneyo nangona kunjalo bahlala kwinkqubo yosapho. Kukho inkumbulo yabo, iimvakalelo ezinxulumene nazo, iimfihlo kunye nezithintelo. Ngamandla, zikhona kusapho, ngakumbi xa bezama ukulibala ngabo kwaye bangacingi. Ingabhekisa kule ngxoxo, njengoShamansism okanye nento engeyiyo. Kodwa ngaphambi kokusondela eli phepha, funda iphupha lamaphupha ethu. Mhlawumbi uya kukuvulela izinto ezinomdla:
"Ndifunde inqaku malunga nokukhwaza izolo izolo nendlela abachaphazela ngayo abantwana abazalelweyo. Ndacinga ngendlela aba-5 abangazalwanga abazalwa ngayo ngabazalwana noodadewethu abanokundiphembelela. Kwaye ndiphupha ndilale ekuseni, ngokungathi singumntu-mna kunye nabanye abantu aba-5, endingazaziyo ngokobuqu, kodwa ndiyazi ukubulawa kwenkosazana ye-piana (ingekho phantsi) . Kwaye ndibandakanyekile kuphela kwinto endiyaziyo ukuba ngubani nendlela endiyibulele ngayo, kodwa ayinanxaxheba kulwaphulo-mthetho. Ndilapha, ndingqina ngokuzithandela koku, ndifihle ekhaya isidumbu sakhe. Ngesizathu esithile, ulele kwibhokisi ende emhlophe, enjengaphantsi kwezihlangu, kunye nebhokisi yomzimba omxinwa emzimbeni, ke uvula lonke ixesha. Kufuneka sikhuphe isidumbu, kodwa asazi ukuba ungayenza njani loo nto. Ndikhathazekile, kuba ndisekhaya. Kwaye iqala ukunuka, ibole, kwaye ngokubanzi ngokubanzi kwaye yoyike. Kwaye ndiyaqonda ephupheni ukuba, ngendlela elungileyo, kubalulekile ukwenza yonke into njengoko inokuthi: Yingcwaba, kodwa ngenxa yesoyike, kwaye ngokungathi kunjalo ukuze kungabikho mntu waziyo. Kuthi thina, sinemvumelwano esiyisusayo isidumbu sandule ke bonke aba bantu bangama-6, ngenxa yokuba kungabikho mntu utyayo. Kwaye ndiyaqonda ukuba akukho wumbi ndingakhange ndiyenze, kodwa ngokungathi yonke into sele ichazwe kwangaphambili kwaye kuya kufuneka ife ngenxa yale nto. "
Ukulala kubonakala! Le ntombazana iyazi malunga nokubulawa, nangona ingazange kuyenzaki. Sithetha ngokukhupha isisu esenziwe ngunina. Uyazi ukuba akanguye kuphela umntwana entsatsheni, kodwa zithandathu zintandathu. Kweli qela, bazama ukufihla ukubulala. Yonke le "fihla" endlwini yakhe, kuba uyigcina ikhumbulo kubo, ucinga, amanqatha, ukuphakamisa umbuzo wempembelelo yabazalwana noodade abahlanu abangazalwanga. Kwaye kuphela kokuphela kokukhathalela le nkumbulo ngokwabo, kuba kuphela intombi engenalwe. Ngumntu owaziyo ukuba ibhokisi ephupheni incinci kakhulu kule mfihlakalo (isaphila kuye).
Inkqubo yenkqubo yenkqubo yengqondo yengqondo ye-Psychology iphakamisa ukuba wonke umntu uyazi ukuba uyazazi iziganeko ezenzeka kuyo, kunye nokuthanda abantu ababathandayo, bazama ukulungisa amathuba awo abuhlungu. Ngenxa yoko, iphupha lifuna ukwahlula-hlula isiphelo sabantakwabo noodadewabo kwaye siyayazi into ekufuneka sifune ukuyigcina imfihlo. Oko kukuthi, Ufuna ukunxibelelana nosapho lwakhe, ukubakhumbula, nokuba akazazi. Lo mnqweno unokuzibonakalisa ngexesha lokungakhathali, ukungakhathali, ukungafuni ukuphila ubomi babo, ukuzithoba kunye nemisebenzi yabo, ukungakwazi ukwakha ubudlelwane obuqolileyo, kwanezifo.
Amaphupha ethu kufuneka afunde ukwahlula kwikamva labo bantwana abangazalwanga. Ukwenza oku, kuya kufuneka amxelele njengesipelingi: "Akukho tyala lam kwikamva lakho. Ndinobomi bam. Andikwazi ukuphila ngomnye umntu. "
Kwaye, mhlawumbi, le yifomumu entle ayisiyo kuphela. Kwaye ukulala linyathelo lokwahlulahlula usapho olungazi nto.
UMaria Dyachkova, ugqirha wezengqondo, ugqirha wosapho kunye noqeqesho olukhokelayo kwiZiko loQeqsho loQhulelo loQeqesho lweMarika Khazin