1. Uhlala uxabana. Iqabane lakho liyakukhathaza, i-quarrels ivutha i-quard kwangoko, ngokufuthi kwithuba elincinci. Umonde wakho udiniwe.
2. Awuzange ube nesondo ixesha elide, mhlawumbi ngenyanga okanye ezimbini. Kwangelo xesha, umnqweno awuzange unyamalale, kwaye iingcinga zamanye amahlakani ziyavuya nguwe.
3. Wena okanye iqabane lakho sele uzibophelele okanye ulungele ukwenza ingxabano. Ukwimeko yokukhangela, jonga abameli abanomdla wesini, ukuthandaza ngokuzithandela kwaye babonisa ukuba awuxakekanga.
4. Awunguye iqela kunye neqabane lakho. Awufuni ukuba kunye, andifuni kwenza into kunye okanye ndichithe ixesha. Uziva ukhululekile xa iqabane lingasondela. Ukuba iqabane lilibazisiwe emva kwexesha, uqala ucinga ukuba akazukuza kwaphela. Ukuba ubuqhele ukuzikhathaza: "Kuthekani ukuba imoto imbethile?" Ngoku thembeni: "Mhlawumbi imoto yakhe idutyulwe?"
5. Khawufane ucinge ngenye imini yobomi bakho ngonyaka. Kule mini, liqabane lakho ecaleni kwakho? Ngaba ikamva elinje lakho, ngaba ungathanda ukufika ngoku? Okanye lo ngumhla ulusizi kwaye uphoxekile, uxabana ngakumbi, iqabane lakho lingathandekiyo nangakumbi? Okanye mhlawumbi awunakucinga ngesiqingatha sakho okwangoku?
Ukwahlukana kuhlala kusesona isigqibo semeko, sivumelekile kwimeko egqithisileyo. Omnye unokungena kwindawo yomntu omnye, kodwa iingxaki ziya kuhlala zihlala zifana ukuba azisonjululwanga. Ukuba uzibonakalisile ubuncinci kwezinye zezinto ezichazwe apha ngasentla, nxibelelana nengcali yokufumanisa izizathu kwaye eyona ndlela isebenzayo yokubuyisa ulonwabo kubomi bakho bentsebenzo.