"I-Syndrome ebalaseleyo" ligama lasekhaya lenqanaba lokugqibelela - umgangatho owenza umniniyo okanye umniniyo ulwela eyona nto kwaye akunandaba. Kwelinye icala, ukuzabalazela eyona nto ilungileyo ayilunganga, nokubalula kwabo banomntu othembekileyo ekufutshane. Inkqubo yokufeza i-syndrome yeyona ndlela ifanelekileyo kuye nawuphi na umqeshi, kuba ungawuxhoma umsebenzi weqela lonke, kwaye iya kuyenza, kuba ayinakwahluka. Ke ngoko, kwelinye icala, ubomi bomntu ozabalazela ukuba ngokugqibeleleyo, bufana nesihogo.
-Iimpawu ezahlukileyo zenkqubo yokufezekisa kunye nesifo semigqaliselo:
-Umnqweno wococeko ogqibeleleyo, iodolo (kwaye unokujongwa kwasebuntwaneni - izithambisi kwi-intanethi, iidosi zokukhula, iimveliso kwifrijini ye-alfabhethi, njl.).
-Indlela ebuhlungu nakuphi na ukugxekwa okunokuzisa uxinzelelo, i-hysterics. Kwaye ngokuchasene nemvelaphi yokuchasene nekhwele, xa omnye umntu edunyisiwe.
"Umnqweno wokwenza yonke into" yesihlanu ", thabatha iimbophelelo ezandisiweyo, zama oko, ufe, kodwa wenze.
Ukulungela ukuzincama, zombini kubudlelwane kunye nomsebenzi. Kwakhe, thina "sigqwesile" asizixabisi, asikukhuseli, kubaluleke kakhulu ukufezekisa okona kulungileyo nangayiphi na indlela. Ke ngoko, ukulungele ukwenza into ukuze ube nengozi yempilo yakhe yomzimba nengqondo, sebenzela impahla.
-Ukthelekisa ngokwakho nabanye, esingasoloko sikho kwinkoliseko yayo - "igqibelele" ihlala imbi ngakumbi kunabo bathelekisa nabo, bamqhubela ekubeni aphumelele ngakumbi.
Vumela ukuba wenze iimpazamo
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Bafumana njani abantu ukuba bafakwe kakuhle?
Ngokwesiqhelo ebuntwaneni, xa abazali benikela ukuqonda intombazana ukuba kungabikho namnye, okokuqala, akazukumthanda kanye kanye. Imele ifumane indumiso kwaye, ngokuchanekileyo, uthando. Ngenxa yoko, kufuneka kubekho iithoyi zamazinyo, zingabi zinkunkuma, ziziphathe kakuhle, zifunde ngokugqibeleleyo. Intombazana iqhele into yokuba uthando lwabazali alunamda kwaye lubonakalise kuphela xa ulungile. Kwinqanaba lezinto ezingenantsingiselo, limisiwe: isenzo esihle + sidumisa + uthando. Ke ngoko, le ntombazana ikhula ngokuqonda ngento elungileyo, yazama - kwaye emva koko uya kuthanda. Apha, njengommiselo, ukugxekwa rhoqo kongeza kwidilesi yomntwana, ukungoneliseki kunye nabo, kuba akufani nabanye, into ayiyenzi into, ayifumani mpumelelo. Umntwana ufumana iimvakalelo ezimbi ngaphakathi kuye, unomsindo kangangokuba akazange afune into nabazali bakhe, kwaye azama ukungqina ngaye zonke iindlela ezinokuthandwa nguye. Ngokwesiqhelo kwiintsapho apho "ibalaseleyo" ikhula, omnye wabazali uyatyalwa kwaye ehlala ecinezela umntwana.
Bubuphi ubukho besifo somntu?
Umnqweno wokuyingela ukuphazamiseka kwexhala, ukudakumba, ukungcola ngokwasemzimbeni, izifo zengqondo. Kwaye, mhlawumbi, eyona nto ibalulekileyo kukuba abasetyhini abanemifanekiso ye-syndrome bahlala basebenzisa ngeenjongo zabo - abaqeshi, amadoda, iintombi, abantu abahlala nabo, bonke abanamavila kakhulu. "Kulungile" - into elula onokuthi ulahle ngayo wonke umsebenzi, kubudlelwane bakho aba bafazi bahlengahlengiswe ngonaphakade kumadoda, abahlobo, oqhelene nayo, umntu kufuneka rhoqo. Ukukhathazeka kakhulu ukuba uthando lunokufakwa kuphela, kubi kangangokuba akukho mntu uya kundithanda kakhulu, umfazi ukuvumela ukuba uphinde usule imilenze kunye namahlakani ohlala enyula i-Axhamli, ukuba ikhona Imfutshane, kodwa bunetyhefu.
Awuyidingi ngomnye wam, ngaphandle kweyakho
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Kuthekani ukuba ufumene ezinye iimpawu zesifo sobuxoki?
-Kuqondwa ukuba kubi kwaye akulunganga. Akukho nto ifezekileyo kweli lizwe, ukuze uphumle kwaye ufumaneke amanqaku: Umhlaba awuwanga. Ke ngoko, zimise ekunqweneleni ukuzisa yonke into kwimeko yokugqibelela.
- Vumela ukuba wenze iimpazamo. Yiyeke ngokwakho ngaphakathi ukuze uphose.
-Unyanzelekanga ukuba uhlangane nayo nayiphi na imibuzo kunye nezimvo. Kwaye, ngaphezu koko, baziqhelanisa nazo. Funda ukwenza, ngokusekelwe kwizinto eziphambili, hayi abantu ongabaziyo.
- Qaphela ukuba awudingi enye imvume, ngaphandle kweyakho. Wena ngokwakho.
-Ukuba awukwazi ukuzitshintsha ngokwakho kunye nobomi bakho, nxibelelana nengqondo yoncedo olufanelekileyo.