Iingcali zengqondo zikholelwa ukuba wonke umntu onesiseko esinezintshulubus ezikwiminyaka yobudala, ekubonakaliseni inkalo yakhe yobomi-ukuziva, ulwalamano nosapho, ukukhangela iMicimbi yoBomi, njalo. KuBantwana, ingxaki yoluntu iwela iminyaka eyi-7 neye-14: Ngeli xesha i-EGO iyenzeka ngenkuthalo, ngokuzithemba ngokwahlukeneyo eluntwini. Ukuba awusebenzisi isihloko sokuzihlola kunye nemeko eluntwini, kwixesha elizayo umntwana abe neengxaki zokwakha abasebenzi kunye nolwalamano lomntu.
Yonke iqala nosapho
Ekubeni umntwana unethuba elibalulekileyo elichitha ixesha ekhaya kwaye uhlala enxibelelana nesangqa esimxinwa njengezihlobo, kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuba aba bantu bakwenza ukuzithemba kwakhe. Kukho iimodeli ezimbini zobudlelwane obungenampilo, kodwa zombini zinxulumene ngokusondeleyo nokuthobela. Kwimeko yokuqala, umntwana uhlala elawula: Nika uluhlu olukhulu lomyalelo, sukubuza izimvo zakhe, ungabandakanyi abantu abadala kwiingxoxo, ukukhulula okuphambili, balawula ukuthotyelwa kwemini. Kwimeko yesibini, bakrazulwe kakhulu: Thenga iimpahla, balungiselele ukutya, ukudibana esikolweni, yenza izifundo kunye, landela usuku lwemini. Nokuba enye yenye okanye enye into inika isiphumo esihle-umntwana usoloko esinde isohlwayo kwaye uyayeka ukubuyela phantsi ngombono wakhe, okanye ucinga ukuba bonke abantu bakhe baya kumnceda - kubasebenzi basekhaya abasebenzi. Ukuya ngaphaya kosapho, ujonge abahlobo kwi-psychotica, hayi iminqweno, ukulungele ukuthobela.
Musa ukuqhuba umntwana kwikona, mnike inkululeko yokuzikhethela
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Thatha umntwana ozonwabisa
Izemidlalo yinto enamandla okukhuthaza ukukhula komzimba, ngokwengqondo nangokweemvakalelo. Akunjalo ngelize ukuba uqeqesho lulukhuni. Ukuzihlola kwenziwa, amandla okuxhathisa uxinzelelo ngokweemvakalelo, uxinzelelo lweziphumo kunye namandla omyolelo-yonke le nto inefuthe elihle kwi-psycher yomntwana. Ngokunxibelelana noontanga, akasayi kubavumela ukuba babalawule, kodwa kunokuba yinkokeli yeqela. Abahleki esikolweni, kodwa bayabahlonipha, ngenxa yokuba umzimba ophawulezileyo amandla alingane nemeko ephezulu yentlalo. Ukongeza, ngexesha leklasi kwiqela, umntwana uya kuqhelana nabantanga abaya kuba ngabahlobo bakhe.
Ukuthetha rhoqo
Xa umntwana ethembisa abazali bakhe kwaye ebaxelela malunga nokusilela kwabo noloyiko, kuya kuba lula kakhulu ukujamelana nabo. Cacisa ukuba umntwana ekwenzeni izigqibo makakhokelwe yingcinga kwaye angalibali ngeemvakalelo, nokuba akanyanzelekanga ukuba avumelane ne-adventure, nokuba "wonke umntu wenza inzala yabahlobo, kwaye angalindi inzala kuyo kwabanye. Ngokufikisa, sikucebisa ukuba urekhode umntwana ukuba athethwane nengcali yengqondo eya kuba nakho ukuxoxa ngeengxaki zakhe ngokweenkcukacha. Ingcali iyaqonda ukuba i-psyche yomntwana okwishumi elivisayo, kuya kuba nakho ukumnceda ngokuzithandela kwimeko enzima kwaye afunde ukulawula iimvakalelo zakhe. Kwiminyaka eli-14 ukuya kweli-15, abantwana sele benenkqubo yexabiso leweyo, iinjongo ebomini kwaye zimele, apho abafuna ukuba baphuhlise, ngoko ke ukubonisana kuya kongeza kuphela ukucaciswa kwezi zicwangciso.
Fundisa inkululeko
Ukukwazi ukulungiselela isidlo sakusasa, ukulayisha umatshini wokuhlamba, ungene kwigumbi lakho - ukusuka kweli nqanaba lamakhaya ukutshintsha komntwana ukuba abantu abadala baqale. Ukususela kwiminyaka eyi-6-7 ubudala, unganika isixa esincinci sokuthenga iilekese kunye neethoyi, qala i-piggy yebhanki yemali. Okulandelayo kuza kanye ngokuthe ngqo intlalo-vumela ukuba uye kubahlobo bakho ukuya kubahlobo, ubacele ukuba bahambe, bathumele imitshato yohambo kunye neklasi, yazisa isikolo sakho ekhaya. La manyathelo amancinci kwinani adlale indima enkulu ngokomntu. Eyona nto iphambili apha kukuvuma ukuba umntwana uya kukwazisa malunga nendawo yokufumana, ukubiza okanye ukubhala iSMS ngefowuni okanye kwifowuni. Kubazali abathusayo, "iiwotshi" ezikrelekrele "
Ukukhanya komntwana ngendawo yokulala ebusuku
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Ukuba ufuna umntwana ukuba akhule umntu obekrelekrele, ukusuka kubudala, afundise ngokuzimela kwaye ufunde umbono wakhe. Umntwana okhule kwintsapho eyonwabileyo, kwixesha elizayo akafumani ngxaki ngokuzithemba kunye nokwakha ubudlelwane nabanye.