Ichaphazela ntoni ingqumbo yabantwana?
Iingxaki ezininzi zengqondo-ukusuka kwi-Edleleni kubomi bakho, ukukhetha iqabane elingafanelekanga ngaphambi kokuhamba ngenqanaba lomsebenzi kunye nokuzimela - iingcambu ziya kubudala babantwana. Ibinzana eliveliswe emntwaneni linokuvelisa ukungakhuseleki kwehlabathi, ukuba bonke bobomi babo baya kuchaphazela indlela yokuziphatha komntu omdala. Iminyaka yobufazi inokufumana ukungathandeki xa ukudibana nabantu kuba kanye umama wakhe ebike, ngokungathi akalunganga ngokwaneleyo. Ingozi kubazali inokuphumelela ukholo kwinto oyithandayo. Umntwana unokutyezwa ngabazali ngokunikela ingqalelo ekuhlaleni kuwe, umzekelo, xa babenomntwana wam. Ke ngoko, bakhula benemvo yokwahlukana, bodwa kunye nabo, bengaziva uthando, benemona. Ebudeni, awukaze ube nolwalamano olusondeleyo nabazali bam, okanye kunye nomntakwethu okanye udadewethu, ngaphezu koko, kwaye ubomi bobuqu abufumane bhetele, ekungekho namnye uthandayo.
Elena Sheripova
Oku kukhokelela ntoni?
I-Caeden abantwana bengqumbo iguqula umntu omdala ngedini. Indoda iqinisekile ukuba ayilunganga. Ke ngoko, abantu abanjalo ngalo lonke ixesha beba ngabathathi-nxaxheba kubudlelwane obutywala. Ixhoba kwinqanaba elingenasicalulo likhangela Lowo uya kuyicinezela, ukuba asebenzise izilangazelelo zabo, ukhubekisa, kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo uya kuyifumana. Ubomi bomntu, ngaphakathi kwengqumbo yomntwana, yindawo evaliweyo.
Kwenziwe ntoni?
Ukuphindaphinda kweemeko ezingenaxabiso, ubukho bobudlelwane obunetyhefu- konke oku kukukhangela okuhle ukuza kufumana imvume kwi-psychotherapist kwaye ujamelane noko kwenzekayo. Ingcali iya kunceda ukubhenca isizathu sengcambu, khumbula ukuba yintoni kanye kanye owakhubekayo ebuntwaneni, indlela yokwamkela kwaye uhambe.
Khumbula ukuba abazali bakho babekhona nabantwana
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Kukho indlela elungileyo yokuphelisa ingqumbo kubazali. Khumbula ukuba nabo babenabazali abakhulisiweyo njengoko babenako. Ke, ngelishwa, yenza uninzi. Funda ngokuxolelwa nokuqonda: Ngaphandle kwale nto akunakwenzeka ukoyisa ingqumbo. Jonga umbuzo kwaye uphendule ngokunyaniseka: Ngaba abazali bakho babeziintlaba zenyama esenyameni okanye ngento elungileyo kubomi babantwana bakho? Kwaye ukuba awukhumbuli ingqumbo kuphela, kodwa kulungile, zama ngokunyaniseka ukuba uthi: "Ewe, andiyithandi into, andiyi kuyenza nabantwana bam. Kodwa ndikhulele kakhulu ukuba nombulelo kubazali bam. " Ukunyaniseka ngokwakho yinto eyimfuneko ukuze ufunde.
Kwaye uyeke ukuyeka ukurhuqa kwenziwe njengemovie embi. Zama ukuyeka ukujonga iingcinga zakho malunga nesi sithuko kwixabiso elikhulu. Iimvakalelo kunye neemvakalelo zihlala kwangoko, ezilapha kwaye ngoku. Zama ukuqonda ukuba ngoku ingqungquthela yomntwana wakho ngoku iyindlela engathandekiyo yokuphendula kwenzeke kwiminyaka emininzi eyadlulayo kwaye akukho nzuzo kuyo. Xa niyazi yonke le nto, akuyi kubakho ntsini yokukhubekisa.