Ngaba kuyayimfuneko ukulandela "ikhowudi yokunxiba" eyamkelweyo, oko kukuthi, ukuzama ukubonakala ngathi yeyona ndlela ilungileyo? Kwaye kuthekani ukuba uza kwi-jean yakho yemihla ngemihla kwaye uvavanye indlela awasabela ngayo kunye nokuhambelana kwakho nokuhlekisa? Ngakumbi ukuba ubudlelwane obukhulu bucingelwa.
Yintoni inqaku ngokwalo umgaqo ongagungqiyo, okuthile kwentombazana? Ukuba ufuna ukuza ngexesha, iya kufikeleleka. Kanye nje ukuba uthini kwaye uhambe ukuba yandidinisa okanye engathandekiyo.
Kukholelwa ukuba ngomhla aw ayisiko ukuthetha ngemali. Indoda "kufuneka" ihlawule kwindawo yokutyela, kwaye injalo zonke iindleko zithatyathwa. Kuyenzeka ukuba uxoxe ngesi sihloko kwimeko, kwaye akukho nto imbi kakhulu kangangokuba zonke iindleko zahlulwe sisiqingatha.
Kuhlekeka kakhulu ukukhangela imigaqo, luhlobo luni lomhla onokuthi uvumele ukwanga, kwaye kwenzeke ntoni. Into ephambili ngumnqweno wakho kunye nendoda ethe themba. Owona mgaqo ufanele ukulandelwa awuyo kuphela ngomhla-zama ukuba ngokwakho.