Unokuba neyona ndoda ilungileyo kwimo yakho, kodwa oku akuthethi ukuba yonke into iyakukholisa ujikeleze iwotshi. Ngokuqinisekileyo uyayazi imeko xa unxibelelana nomntu kwaye uzibamba ucinge ukuba lo mntu uyakukhathaza, kwaye ngoba kutheni - akucaci. Ingabonakala ngathi yeka ukunxibelelana nayo kunye nonke, kodwa ngokutsho kwezengqondo, isizathu soko siphuphuma ngumchasi wakho, kodwa ke, ukuba ungaphumi kakhulu, kodwa awuyi kuba nakho ukuqhekeza konke Abafowunelwa. Kule meko, kufanelekile ukuba uziqonde kwaye ufumanise oonobangela bokucaphuka kwabanye abantu.
Kutheni le nto isenzeka?
Kubonakala ngathi umntu ulungile, wonke umntu uyamthanda kwaye unxibelelane kakuhle, kwaye awunakuyinyamezela. Masizame ukufumanisa ukuba yintoni ingxaki.
Abantu abanyanzelekanga ukuba balingane uluvo lwakho malunga nabo.
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Singazi soyise
Ewe, le mvakalelo ingazalelwa kuwe ngaphandle komnqweno wakho. Ungenze njani ukuba uthethe ngokuchaseneyo, impethu yomona yayisele ihlale emphefumlweni wakho, ungafuni ukuyivuma.
Nangona kunjalo, nkqu nemvakalelo engalunganga enjalo inokusongelwa ngokwayo, umzekelo, kunokukunceda uthathe umbono wakho: Yintoni eyahlula umntu onomona, kwaye kutheni ungafezekisi iziphumo ezifanayo? Ndikholelwe, kubantu abaninzi, iimpendulo zale mibuzo zaba sisiqalo sotshintsho olululo ebomini babo. Eyona nto iphambili kukuba umona ungayiphathi ngendlela yokuphila-apha awukwazi ukufumana amaqela afanelekileyo.
Ayifanelanga ukuqhawula abafowunelwa
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Sizibona emntwini
Kukangaphi sidibana nabantu, kubonakala ngathi kulungile, ngaphandle kokutsiba. Nangona kunjalo, kokukhona sinxibelelana nomntu onjalo, kokukhona eqala ukuthwala, nangona ingenzi nto ikhethekileyo koku. Yintoni ingxaki? Kwenzeka ukuba sidibane nomntu ozikhumbuza, oko kukuthi, uneempawu eziphindiweyo, kwaye oku kubhekisa kwiimpawu zomntu ngokwazo sithanda ukuphelisa. Sikulungele ukunyamezela "Iimpawu" zethu kwaye sihlale kunye nabo ixesha elide, kodwa musa ukunyamezela nantoni na enjalo komnye umntu, kuba uyasikhumbuza ngento esiya kuyonwabisa ngayo ukususa, kodwa ngenxa iimeko ezithile, ngesizathu esithile aniyiyo.
Hlonipha abahlobo
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Umntu uyala ukuthobela
Ngokwesiqhelo unxibelelana, kodwa ngequbuliso uqale ukuqonda ukuba yintoni na ofuna ukuyiva rhoqo ukuva izwi lo mntu, chitha ixesha elincinci kunye naye, nangona kungekho mpixala. Kule meko, uphazamisa ulindelwe olindelo oluphezulu lokuba lo mntu akazange ahlangane, kwaye ngekhe abekho - akukho mntu unyanzelekileyo ukuba afune abanye - ukwahlulahlula. Kholelwa ukuba kulula kwabanye abantu, musa ukulindela nantoni na kwimbuyekezo kwaye imvakalelo yokucaphukisa iya kuba ngokwako.
Wena ngokwakho utsala abantu abanjalo
"Ndixelele ukuba ngubani umhlobo wakho, kwaye ndiza kuthi ungubani ungubani" - eli binzana livile. Ngapha koko, abantu banxibelelana nathi njengoko sibavumela kwaye njengokuba siziphathe kakuhle, ngoko ke akufuneki umangaliswe ukuba uyakhwaza kumhlobo, kwaye uye wakhubeka kuwe. Qala nawe kwaye utshintshe umoya ojikeleze wena.
Ungaqhubeka njani?
Xa ufumanisa unobangela wokucaphukisa kwakho, inokuthathwa njengeziqingatha zempumelelo. Zama ukukhumbula ukuba uqalise ukuthimba lo mntu kunye nokubangela ukuba umsindo wakho, emva koko ungathatha inyathelo nomntu, okanye ujonga ukuba kutheni lo mntu usenza ukuba umntu ophendule, kwaye Zama ukulungisa ukuqala isimo sakho sengqondo kwimeko.