Ukungachumi kwengqondo yinto enokwenzeka. Kukholelwa ukuba ezi ziimeko apho, ngaphandle kwempilo yomzimba, ukukhulelwa akunakwenzeka. Siza kuhlalutya ezona zixhaphakileyo.
Uloyiko
Iingcali zengqondo ze-Perchologatatal ziyaphikisana ukuba lo mfazi kuqala uya "ukhulelwe" intloko, emva koko sele enomzimba. Ukuba uziva ukuzithemba, kwiqabane, kwixesha elizayo, ingqondo ithumela i-Syscy Syscoul Syscy Syscy - "Unako". Kwaye ukukhulelwa kuyenzeka. Kodwa ukuba umntu obhinqileyo ukwimeko yokuxhalaba okanye uloyiko ngokwakhe kwaye ngekamva, thandabuza iqabane, emva koko i-adrenaline iqala ukuba iphuhliswe emzimbeni, etshabalalisa i-hormone enkulu yomama. Kwaye ukukhulelwa akunakwenzeka.
UTHANDO LOKUTHENGA
Ukuvelisa kwabantu namhlanje kubudala bokuzala, oko kukuthi, abo baneminyaka engama-30 ukuya kwengama-30, bazalelwa ngokupheleleyo kunangoku, inkqubo yokuphakamisa, ngamanye amaxesha inzima kwaye ayinenzi kwanelisa imfuneko yothando, ukuqonda kunye ukuthathwa komntwana abe ngowakho. Nanku umfazi obhinqileyo, masithi ubudlelwane bengxaki kunye noMama, abasebabuntwaneni abakhange bafumane umntwana kuye kwaye bathanda ukuzala umntwana, kodwa bafuna ukuzala amava amanyoko anokuba buhlungu. Esi sisizathu esiqhelekileyo sokungachumisi sengqondo esifuna ukufundisisa okhethekileyo.
I-Ekaterina Banskaya
Iinkonzo zonxibelelwano
Umsebenzi obalulekileyo
Okubangela umdla kukuba, icandelo elibalulekileyo lezigulana endisebenza nabo ziphumelele emsebenzini kwaye ndiyazi ukuba ungayenza njani imali. Nangona kunjalo, ngumsebenzi ongenakuphoswa ngandlela zonke, kwisandla esinye, ikhupha uloyiko lokuphulukana nalo, kwelinye - "imigca" imisebenzi yokuzala yomfazi. Uphulukana nesazisi sakhe, ayeke ukuziva kwaye asabele kwimiqondiso yomzimba, kuba ukuba umphefumlo uyakhala, ke ngumzimba osazisa. Umsebenzi uhlala ubalulekile kubafufeli abaxelelwe bubuntwana - funda, sebenza, bazuze, babonelele. Kwaye le yimisebenzi yamadoda, kunye nendawo yabo enkulu, inokuphazamisa umsebenzi wenkqubo yabasetyhini.
Ulawulo
Ukungakwazi ukukhulelwa ngokumbona umnqweno womfazi kuhlala kwaye yonke into ilawulwa - enye ingxaki eqhelekileyo apho kufuneka usebenze khona. Abafazi abanjalo bathetha bodwa- "Ndidinga umntwana kunye nenqaku." Kwaye xa umntwana engasebenzi, jika ubomi bakho, kwaye kwangaxeshanye ubomi beqabane, kwiqela lesihogo emhlabeni. Baqhelane nokuthi yonke into ihamba esicwangciso ifakwe kwangaphambili kwaye iphendule kubuhlungu ukusilela. Esona sizathu siphambili sokuziphatha okunjalo kukungathembeki kwehlabathi, ekwabeka ibhloko ukuvelisa inzala.
Inkuthazo engalunganga
Ndihlala ndicela izigulana zam: Kutheni ufuna umntwana. Kwaye nantsi into ebaluleke kakhulu ukuba iqonde ukuba zeziphi iinjongo zayo eziyinyani ebunjani. Kuyenzeka ukuba akafuni umntwana konke konke, kwaye umbono wakhe wemyeni wakhe okanye ootatomzana wakhe. Kuyenzeka ukuba umntwana abe yindlela yomfazi owahlulele kubazali, ukungqina ukuba sele ekhulile. Okanye woyika ukuhlala wedwa, uyazikhusela, ke ngoko, ukuba nesizungu, ufuna ukuba ngumntu ofanelekileyo. Kwaye yeyiphi inkuthazo echanekileyo, ubuza? Ewe, nikela nje ubomi obutsha, buzi uvuyo lomama kunye nokuba ngutata, ukutyhila iziqhamo zakho kunye neqabane lothando. Oku kuyakha. Kwenzeka ukuba le bhinqa lijongiwe ukuba likhulelwe, hayi ekuzalweni komntwana, ngakumbi ukuba lenzeki iminyaka emininzi. Kwaye ke, ewe, akukho tyala lokukhulelwa, kuba isigulana asiziboni, oko kukuthi, injongo apha ayizukuzalwa, kodwa inyani yokuchumisa.
Ezinye iintshukumisa ezonakalisayo:
-Ukukhulelwa njengomthetho womtshato;
-Isikhuthazo esibonakalayo (esamkela izindlu okanye isimo sosapho olukhulu);
-Ukugcina impilo, kukho uluvo lokuba ukukhulelwa "ukuphinda ufumane umzimba."
-Ukunga kwangoko (ndihluke ngokupheleleyo, ndingu-of).
Eco njengendlela yokuphila
Ewe, ezinye izigulana "ziqhele ukulwela ukukhulelwa kunye nomntwana ukuba yindlela yabo yobomi, indlela eqhelekileyo. Kwenzeka ukuba ukungakwazi kubantwana kubanika amalungelo kusapho okanye kwinqanaba elifanelekileyo 'ixhoba ", ukuba balale, abafuni. Kuba kule meko kuya kususwa kwi-penistal. Kwaye isizathu esinjalo kunzima ukufumana.
Kwenziwe ntoni? Yiba ngumfazi. Vumela ukuba ube buthathaka kwaye uthembele umhlaba. Ukuchaza unxano lolawulo lobomi kunye ngaphezulu kweqabane. Uze umamele. Zibuze: Ndifuna ntoni? Ndizibona njani kwiminyaka emihlanu? Kwaye ngale ndoda ecaleni kwale? Kwaye musa ukulibiza igama elithi "ukungachumi."