Xa ucinga ngolwalamano olukhululekileyo, into yokuqala eza engqondweni kukunqongophala kolawulo kunye nezithintelo kwiqabane. Nangona kunjalo, eneneni, bambalwa abantu abazi ukuba bacinga kwaye bathathe inyathelo ngaphandle kwesiqingatha sesibini. Ngesi sizathu, kubudlelwane bamanyeneyo ufumana ukuxhomekeka, apho umntu efuna ntoni, kwaye omnye uya kukunyamezela indlela aziphethe ngayo. Kule nto, cinga zonke izinto ezilungileyo nezingalunganga kubudlelwane basimahla.
Amahlakani ahlukeneyo kunye nekhwele elisebenzayo
Ukuba ukwimpilo ye-neurotic, esazama ukufumana iqhinga kwindawo efanelekileyo yokuziphatha, emva koko ulwalamano lwasimahla alukho kanye kuwe. Umgaqo ophambili apha yi-polygam engakhuli kubudlelwane bothando emva kwesondo. Ngaphandle koko, awukho ulwalamano lwasimahla, kodwa ngokulula "ngeempondo." Cinga ukuba ukulungele ukufumanisa ukuba ngubani na umntu wakho uchithe ubusuku, kwaye wadibana nabanye abantu abatsha. Nangona amaphupha engcinga yomfazi obulala umntu obulala umntu othandabuzayo, ebomini bakude konke konke ukuba alungele ukutshintshela kumntu omthandayo ukuze aqaphe.
Zilungiselele ukuthathela ingqalelo umbuso njengophawu
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Isidingo sokuhlanza yonke into
Ayizukuzifihla kwiqabane olilala nentlanganiso yokuqala emva kweqela kwiklabhu. Isiseko sobudlelwane basimahla kukuthemba kunye nokungavuleki kunye. Zilungiselele ukuxelela malunga neenkcukacha zakho ezinzulu, ukuba oku kufuna isiqingatha sesibini. Eyona njongo iphambili yamava kwelinye icala kukuzivocavoca kwaye i-adrenaline ukusuka kunxibelelwano olusondeleyo nomntu omtsha. Ke uyakuqonda into ofuna ukuyifumana kwiqabane lakho ebhedini, kwaye unokufumanisa ukuba luhlobo luni oluthandwayo lwenye yeenzuzo ezingafezekanga.
Musa ukoyika abagxeki
Ukuba ucekeceke ngumntu ongazi ukuba uza kuyikhusela njani isikhundla sakhe kwimbambano kwaye unentloni ukuze aqhelane nabantu, akunakwenzeka ukuba ukulungele ukugxekwa kwabo bathandayo. Wonke umntu kuya kufuneka achaze intombi, ebize phakathi kobusuku kunye nokuvezwa: 'Ndasibona isilwanyana sakho, kwiklabhu yenye intombazana!'
Xoxa ngeqabane yonke into ukuze ingabi nexhala
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Ukuzicingela-hayi i-soz, kwaye imfuneko
Nokuba upholile kangakanani, kodwa ngamanye amaxesha kuya kubonakala ngathi iqabane lakho litshintshele kumkhwa ovunyelwe kwaye lubekwe kuwo wonke umhlaba. Ikhwele kunye nomsindo ziimvakalelo eziqhelekileyo, eyona nto iphambili ngexesha ukubacinezela. Apha ngokwakho uza kuba ngoyena stresseres zengqondo Unxibelelwano lwasimahla lubonisa unxibelelwano oluqhelekileyo kunye nabo ukuze luqonde ukungcola okungenayo nokusombulula ingxaki kwinqanaba le-infiarder - kule nto kufuneka ilungiselelwe.