Ukuziphatha okungafunekiyo kubudlelwane kunezizathu ezininzi - ukusuka kwi-intanethi ukuya kwikliniki. Nangona kunjalo, xa uqala ubuhlobo nje, iiglasi ezipinki zinokufihla imiqondiso ebomvu ebomvu, ekhokelela kwiimpawu ezinokuziphatha ngendlela engamkelekanga. Ewe kunjalo, abantu abaninzi ngamanye amaxesha baziphathe kakubi, kubandakanya ukubonakalisa iimpawu ze-egosm, ukungakhathali kunye ne-evocentrism. Kodwa izifundo zibonisa ukuba kukho uhlobo oluthile "lobuntu obumnyama", ezinokungabi kubi kwisizathu esibi ngakumbi - kusonwabisa. Sicacisa ukuba kutheni le nto yenzeka kwaye njani ukuba babone loo miqondiso kwiqabane lakho.
Inqaku elingu-Dearism
Xa ucinga nge-sinizma, unokucinga nge-marquis edumileyo uMarquis de Garta okanye oonobumba abafanayo ababewaziwa ngotyekelo lwethu olungaqhelekanga. Kodwa ubusizi bungaphezulu kokubangela iintlungu zomzimba. Olu lonwabo lokwenzakalisa omnye nangayiphi na indlela. Inzululwazi ye-Delleta L. Polhus kunye noogxa abaphanda ngeendlela ezinxibelelana ngawo. Bacacisa ukuba "i-triadi emnyama" ibhekisa kwi-Aggregate ye-Contregate ye "I-Guardly Ortivery yobuqu", engu-Psychopathy, i-narcissism kunye namagqwesiso. Baphawula ukuba, nangona ngamnye kubo efakwe ngendlela efanayo namagama okwenyani zeklinikhi, nabo bavela kwaye babonakalise umahluko obalulekileyo kwiisampuli ezivela kumaqela eekliniki zabemi.
Ubundlobongela abuquzekwe nje kuphela, kodwa nengqondo yengqondo
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Yintoni onokuyijonga
Ukuthetha ngokulula, zonke iimodeli zokuziphatha zifanele zibe yimiqondiso yakho, apho umntu azibeka njengeziko lendalo iphela kwaye akayithobeli iminqweno yabanye abantu, kwaye ethambekele ekwenzeni amanyathelo kwabanye, nokuba yintoni. Umzekelo, incoko xa udiniwe kwaye unqwenela ukuphumla, okanye ukusetyenziswa kobundlobongela obuphathekayo. Nazi iindlela ezintlanu zamadoda ekufuneka zilumkele:
I-blackmail. Unelungelo lokufumana inxaxheba nomntu onobudlelwane obulungileyo, musa ukuva ukuphendula ukukhathazeka kunye nezisongelo. Ukuba umntu uqalisa ukuxhaphaza inyani yokuba imbalelwano okanye ifoto esondeleyo "iya kuthi", lo ngumqondiso ongenakwenzeka ukuba ubuyele kwindoda enjalo.
Ukucaphuka. Ukuba indoda iyakhawuleza, emva koko iguquke, phambi kwakho, nawe, umntu onengqondo ekhathazayo. Nawuphi na umlinganiso wengqondo okanye womzimba awufumaneki kwintsebenziswano esempilweni.
Ukuziphindezela. Umnqweno wokwenzakala okanye into embi ngakumbi kunemixhego egulayo - nayo ayisiyophawu. Nokuba incitshisiwe endleleni, i-offeotion emgceni, ithukeni emsebenzini, yonke le asiyo isizathu sokuposa kwinto engalunganga ebusweni bakho. Ngalo naluphi na uxinzelelo lwengqondo, unokujamelana neendlela eziqhelekileyo - kuqeqesho okanye ngexesha lencoko nomntu osondeleyo.
Inkohlakalo. Ngokunxulumene nabantu, inkohlakalo ayifanele isetyenziswe ngendlela efanayo ngokunxulumene nezilwanyana. Ukuba indoda iyavumela ukuba abetha isilwanyana sasekhaya sokuziphatha kakubi, ke uneengxaki ezibonakalayo entloko. Nika ingqalelo kwiimpawu ezinjalo-zibaluleke kakhulu.
Ngokunxulumene nezilwanyana, inkohliso ayimkelekanga
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Ulawulo. Kuphela uyazi ukuba ufuna ntoni kwaye ufuna ntoni. Ukuba iqabane ligqiba izigqibo ezimbini ngaphandle kokuthatha inxaxheba kwakho, oko kuthetha ukuba akabekeki nto. Kwisibini, abantu kufuneka bathethe kwaye bafikelele kwisigqibo ngokubanzi, kwaye bangazenzi sodwa xa kuziwa kwinkululeko yakho, kodwa babini ngaxeshanye.