Ukufezekiswa kwempumelelo kweli xesha lethu sele kwenziwe enye yeeparadesi eziphambili, ngelixa ukuzaliswa kwegama elithi "Impumelelo" kuye wonke umntu lingahluka. Kukho umntu osebenza ngenkuthalo ukufezekisa impumelelo kwishishini, umntu akacingi impumelelo ngaphandle kokuqonda ukuba ungumzali okanye ubuchule, umntu ovunyiweyo kwiinethiwekhi zentlalo. Nokuba yeyiphi na into yokuphumelela, indlela yokufezekisa kwayo ihlala ingalula. Kwindlela yokuzoyisa yonke imiqobo kwindlela eya empumelelweni, sathetha nogqirha wezengqondo ngu-Anna Smetanenica.
UAnna, impumelelo-ingcinga ibaluleke kakhulu. Yintoni impumelelo enye, omnye unokusilela. Ngaba uza kuba njani thina iinjongo zobomi kunye neminqweno yethu ukuze phezu komthendeleko bakhokele kwimpumelelo, kwaye kwelinye, babeyinyani, bafikeleleke?
Kum, impumelelo yiyo yonke into endiyifunayo. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, le iyobuqu malunga nam, iinjongo zam kunye neminqweno. Akukho nto ixhaphakileyo kuyo yonke inkcazo yempumelelo. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, ayinguye wonke umntu ofuna isigidi seedola, umntu esi sixa siyinjongo kunye nenqanaba lempumelelo, kunye nephupha elingafumaneki. Kodwa akasifuneki esi sigidi.
Kukho ubuchwephesha obulungileyo be-NLP (i-Neuro-Lituestic) -iziphumo ezichazwe kakuhle. Ke eyona nto iphambili kunye neyona nto iphambili kuyo kukuqonda oko ukufunayo ngokwenene. Ngaba le njongo kwaye kuya kufuneka uyifikelele.
Inqaku lesibini elibalulekileyo kukulandelelana. Kunokubakho inqaku lehlabathi kunye nesicwangciso-qhinga, kunye neenjongo zesekondari, ukuphunyezwa kokuya kukhokelela kwiyona iphambili. Kwaye ukuba wawususa ngoko nangoko kwihlabathi jikelele, uya kuhamba, ungafikeleli, uphosa isiqingatha. Ngenxa yoko, kubalulekile ukuba uve kwaye umamele ngokwakho, ukungafihli impumelelo yomntu.
Ngaba kufanelekile ukulungisa impumelelo yakho ngokwesiko lithathwa njengempumelelo kuluntu? Okanye ngaba kufanelekile ukuhambela phambili kubuchule bobuqu bokufezekisa?
Ndiza kukuxelela ngomzekelo wam. Impumelelo yam iyandazisa i-vladimir presnyov kwiminyaka yabafundi, umzekelo. Ngaba imfuneko komnye umntu? Okanye, umzekelo, ukufudukela eMoscow evela kwi-orenjburg eneminyaka eli-17. Ngoku impumelelo yam kukuba ndaba sisithethi se-synegy sperm phantse isiseko esinye kunye ne-rany robbins. Kodwa ngaphezulu kwesiqingatha selizwe, eli ligama elingaziwayo, kunjalo, kunjalo, kufuneka sijonge iimfuno zethu. Nangona kukho ingxaki enkulu kule-uninzi lwabantu aluzazi, abaziqondi le nto bayifunayo, bambamba malunga nempumelelo yabanye abantu, emva koko bakreqile ukuba "kufuneka " kwaye nangokunjalo. Umnqweno wokukhanya okukuko kukuba impumelelo yabantu bethu, kwaye kwimpumelelo nganye kukho ilungelo lolwazi kunye nolwazi, amandla kunye nenkuthazo, iintshukumo kunye nokoyisa. Rhoqo, impumelelo yobuqu ngumsebenzi weqela ukuba sithetha ngezimpawu kunye namagama. Lo mzuzu uza xa umntu engasakwazi ukuphinda akwazi ukwenza iivolumu, kodwa ukukhuthaza kunye namandla kusoloko ngaphakathi kumsenzi, ubuntu.
Ukufezekisa injongo yakho, kufuneka uqonde ukuba yintoni, le njongo
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Ukusilela - icala elingasemva lempumelelo, bambalwa abantu abangazange bavele kuye ukusilela. Ungasinda njani, ngakumbi ukuba zenzeka emva kwenye?
Ukusilela kukuvavanywa kwengqondo. Ukuba siyeka ukuvavanya izinto, kwaye siya kwenza nje, senze kwaye senze, siphumelele kwaye abantu banethamsanqa baya kuba ngaphezulu. Siqhelekile ukuvavanya yonke into kwaye sonke kwaye koku siphulukana nomsinga, intshukumo kunye nentlawulo ebiza ukuba siyibekele injongo. Kukho imfuneko enjalo kwi-NLP-akukho kusilelo, kukho ingxelo esihlanyisayo kwaye ikhuphe amava. Emva koko qhubeka kwiinjongo, unikwe la mava. Ukusilela ngakumbi, kokukhona kwanomeleleyo kwaye womelele umntu. Siphefumlelwe ebuntwaneni ukuba ukusilela kunye neempazamo kubi kakhulu, ngoko ke soyika kakhulu. Ke ngoko, olu loyiko luyinqanda ngendlela eya kunqwenelekayo.
Ukufezekisa impumelelo akunakwenzeka ngaphandle kwenkuthazo. Yintoni oza kuyifumana le nkuthazo? Uhlala phi unyanzelo kwindlela eya empumelelweni?
Inkuthazo sisiseko sempumelelo yakho. Ngaphandle kokugqiba kwakhe, kunzima ukufikelela kakhulu. Ngaphezu koko, ukuba uneqela, kuya kufuneka ucebise abanye kwinqanaba elithile. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, abantu baqhele ukusebenza ngomvuzo ukusuka kwi-9-18. Kwaye ukuze bafune ukwenza enye into, kufuneka uvuseleleke. Kubalulekile ukufumana amaxabiso kunye neemfuno ezingenamsebenzi, njengoko kulisiko ukuthetha kwintengiso-iintlungu. Eyona ndlela ilula: Akukho mali yaneleyo yendaleko yomfazi wakho othandekayo, yenza intengiso eyi-200 kwaye ufumane ibhonasi. Okanye ugxile kwimfuno yemfuno kunye nokubaluleka kwelungu leqela.
Kodwa ukuba ngenkuthazo yabanye okanye ngaphantsi inokuqondwa, kuya kukwazi, umsebenzi unzima ngakumbi. Kwaye ke sineemvakalelo, iimvakalelo, iimvakalelo, imeko esibambayo isiya kuncedo. Zonke iiyoyili zengqondo ziya kufa, kunye neemvakalelo kunye neemvakalelo ziya kusishukumisela, njengoko siqala kunye nento yokuphila. Iinjongo zakho kufuneka zikuqhekeze kakuhle kwilizwi, uyolo, zikhuthaze. Kwaye zonke ezi nkqubo zingaphakathi emzimbeni wethu, hayi ngaphandle. Lo mfanekiso sicinga ukuba uza kutyala iimvakalelo, kwaye ngenxa yoko ngenxa yokuphendula, siyaqhubeka.
Ngokuphathelele amandla, ndiyonwabela wena ngendlela yomsebenzi kunye nokuzonwabisa. Mna ndinoxanduva lobutyebi bam. Ukuba nditsala amandla kunye nokuphelisa, oko kuthetha ukuba andizi kakuhle. Ngapha koko, kumandla ethu ukulawula ezi nkqubo kunye nawe. I-Dodhaki yam liphupha elivela kwi-22-30 ukuya kwi-6-30, ixesha lokusa wena, isidlo sakusasa ngaxeshanye, emva kwe-19-00 - akukho msebenzi. Yindlela endiya kuphefumlelwa ngayo kwaye ibuyiselwe. Ukuba ndiphula imowudi, inkuthazo yam iyawa, kuba akukho bukhona. Fumana isitshixo sakho ngokwakho, fumanisa ukuba ukwimeko yokusebenza, oko kukuthi, kwincopho yomsebenzi wakho wengqondo kunye nomzimba.
Ungayilwa njani imithetho emithathu ephambili yokufezekisa?
Ukufumana umphefumlo.
Ukunyaniseka kunye nabanye.
Phila kumgaqo-nikezela.
Ngokoluvo lwakho, wonke umntu unokuphumelela? Ungakholelwa njani kuwe?
Ngokupheleleyo wonke umntu. Kubalulekile ukufumana into eya kutshabalalisa ingqondo nomzimba wakho, oko kukuthi, izakuzabalazela apho, kule mpumelelo.
Ukuze uzikholelwe ngokwakho, zibuze- Kutheni? Kutheni ndifuna ukukholelwa kum? Emva koko, buza kwakhona kwimpendulo nganye- kutheni? Ke uya kufumana inkuthazo yakho enzulu, kwaye kuya kukunika amandla, izibonelelo kunye nomnqweno wokuba kweli lizwe, zibonakalise. Njengoko uNlper esithi: "Yonke imihla inkulu." Into enqwenelayo.