Khumbula, ebuntwaneni sonke sithandwa sonke ukufumana izipho - zilinde usuku lokuzalwa okanye nayiphi na enye iholide enengxaki yokungakhathali. Kwaye ukuba intombazana encinci ayithembi ngenxa yokuba isebomini babazali kunye nabahlobo, kubudala kubalulekile ukuba siqonde ukuba ayizizo zonke izipho, zibiza kakhulu, zisixabise njengalonto. Kodwa akufanelekanga ukrokrela ukurhanelwa wonke umntu - abantu abaninzi baphinde bavuselelwa, belubona uvuyo emehlweni okufumana iringi okanye itikiti le-ballet elalileyo. Namhlanje sagqiba kwelokuba sithethe ngezipho ezivela ebantwini, kutheni zibanika kwaye bangabamba, ukuze bangabi sabangela ukungaqondi kumacala omabini.
Yintoni le yenzekayo kwindalo?
Ngapha koko, hayi kuphela umntu onokuqonda ukuba izipho ziyakwazi ukutsala umdla wabantu besini esahlukileyo: phantse kuzo zonke izilwanyana ngandlela-thile, ukubala ukuphindaphindwa. Ke akufuneki umangaliswe kukuba indoda, nokuba awukukulunge kakhulu, ifumanisa ukuba izilangazelelo zakho ukwenzela ukuba ungakushiya ungayikhathalelanga. Indoda izalisekisa inkqubo yendalo.
Isipho esivela kwindoda asisoloko sicenga ngesondo
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Kutheni sisoyika ukuthatha izipho
Zonke iingxaki zethu zabantu abadala kunye noloyiko zivela ebuntwaneni. I-psyche yethu ikhumbula amava adlulileyo. Masithi ubufuna nyani ukutyelela lo mtsalane epakini, apho abazali baphendula bathi: "Ewe, uya kubhala ulawulo ngokugqibeleleyo, hamba" kwaye nolo lonke lo moya. Uqala ukubona naziphi na iingcebiso ezenzelwe ukukunika iimvakalelo ezintle njengendlela yokufumana into. Kubi kakhulu, le ndlela isebenza ngokuchasene nabantu. Uqala ukrokrela nokuba yindoda oyithandayo kumnqweno wokukrokrela ebhedini, kungenjalo ukuba akunike idyasi yoboya?
Kwenziwe ntoni?
Ngoku sithetha ngamadoda onabo ukwenziwe mntu okanye ubudlelwane obuncinci obuzinzileyo. Namhlanje, amadoda ngamanye amaxesha asebenza kwimisebenzi eliqela, okuthetha ukuba uhlawula inyameko engaphantsi komfazi wabo kunokuba wayefuna. Ungaqalisa ukukhulula iiyure zabo zokusebenza phambi kwakho ngendlela yesivakalisi "banike imali ukuya kuthenga." Abafazi abaninzi baqala ukucaphuka: "Ufuna ukundithenga!" Hayi, ayifuni. Amadoda, axakeke ngokukodwa, anqabile ukuba athabathe phi into othanda ukuyithanda - unokungabi naxesha nje. Ngokunika imali, uyaxolisa ngokungabikho kokungakufutshane. Sukuvuka kwi-PARE kwaye ubonise ubundlongondlongo.
Ke amadoda onokuthi aqhelene naye kwaye aluqinisekanga ukuba kufanelekile ukuba kuqinisekile, yamkele isipho ongenakukwazi ukufikelela kuthi, ungakufanelanga. Uya kumnika umntu ithemba elingenanto yokuphindaphindwa okwenyani, nangona enyanisweni waphule amaphupha akhe kunye nokholo kwisiqingatha sobuntu. Nyaniseka phambi kwakhe nawe.