Kubonakala ngathi kuye kwaba yimkhwa: ezitratweni, kwiipakethi kunye neepaki, zininzi nangaphezulu apho ibhinqa lincinci kangakanani iqabane labo. Mhlawumbi kukho izibini ezifana phakathi kwabahlobo bakho, okanye ngaba ngokwakho kulwalamano olunjalo? Masijongane nokuba kutheni oku kusenzeka kwaye nokuba kukho into ekufuneka yenziwe ngayo.
Ukubonakala okukhulu, cinga ngezibini apho umahluko kwiminyaka yobudala ibalulekile. Umzekelo, uneminyaka emalunga namashumi amathathu, iyasebenza, ngokunambitheka kokuzonwabisa, iqaqambile kwaye ihamba ngefowuni, kodwa ubudlelwane nabalingane okanye amadoda amadala angongezi. Lowo unyuliweyo wayengakhathalelwanga inkwenkwana engamashumi amabini anye, kwaye uziva okufanayo. Banobudlelwane obuzinzileyo, balungile kwaye banomdla kunye.
Jonga esi sibini sisondeleyo. Ihamba ntoni i-heroine yethu xa wanyula isithandwa sakhe? Eyona nto inokwenzeka, isizathu sokuvuthwa kwengqondo. Kuthetha ukuba akazange acingelwe ngokupheleleyo ukuba wayengumfazi, kutheni yena, njengomfazi, eli lithuba lakhe, okanye olu lwazi luyoyika kwaye uyakhanyela. Indoda kunye nebhinqa kwisibini zahlukile, kodwa zilingana, ngamanye amagama, oku kutsho njalo, ke, ngokusekwe, ngokuseka amadoda angcangcazela kwaye engakhululeki. Kodwa ecaleni kwenkwenkwe, ethi iqale nje ukuba yindoda, yena, ekuqaleni kokuqalisa komfazi, zivakalelwa kakhulu. Kwaye oku, enyanisweni, kuyamangalisa, kuba eyona nto iphambili kwisibini luthando nophuhliso. Ukuba iqabane kunye neqabane alibandakanyi ukubazala "ukubasana nokuzala kwabantwana", kwaye ziqale ukuhlakulela njengendoda kwaye njengomfazi, ulonwabo aluziphepha!
Elinye ibali. Yena, masithi, kancinane ngamashumi amahlanu. Unomtsalane, eninzi ebomini bakhe, owayebonile, okwazi kakhulu, osisilumko. Unenoveli enendoda emashumi amathathu anesihlanu. Yintoni emshukumisela ukuba enze ubudlelwane nendoda efanelekileyo koonyana?
Okokuqala, masiqonde ukuba iqhawe leli bali lethu lingumfazi omkhulu kakhulu. Kwelo xesha, xa abanye abanye sele bebiza oonomakhulu, uyakunqwenela ukutsala, ukuba anqweneleka kwaye anomdla kumadoda amancinci kunaye. Ngelishwa, amadoda, ngokwemigaqo, ngaphambi kokuba agqibelele abantu, kwaye kusenokwenzeka ukuba amadoda angabantu bakhe okanye angagungqiyo, awanakuhlala kwiindawo ezikuyo. Phantse kule okanye amadoda amadala amadala aselwayo, aqala ukungcambu, aphulukane namandla kwaye ajike abe ngabantu abadala. Ukuba umfazi akangomfazi mdala, uya kuba mbi ngesatellite enjalo, ngoko ke uguqukela kulowo usele ugcwele amandla kunye nobomi. Sele eyazi indlela yokuphefumlela lo mntu, uqhatha ubulumko bakhe, uyakwazi ukubathanda ngokunyaniseka kwaye ugcobe amandla akhe amthandayo ukuba aveze ubudlelwane bayo. Ngenxa yoko, kuyavela umanyano olufanelekileyo.
Kwaye okwangoku, isibini apho umfazi mdala-ayisiyiyo eyona ndlela yendalo yobudlelwane. Isibakala sokuba ngoku eso sibini siza kuphinda sizithethele, sithetha ngeengxaki kunye no-Adust odubulo lwengqondo koluntu. Amadoda nabafazi baya kufumanisa, beni na, ukuba bakwazi ntoni na, kubafazi, bathini na ukulikhalisa ngokupheleleyo ulwazi. Ngenxa yoko, kamva, abantu abaselula baqala ngobomi obuzimeleyo, kwaye uninzi lweentsapho ezakhiwe enkundleni ubudala ziyawa emva kweminyaka eliqela, kuba usapho sisifundo sengqondo. Ngokungafani nokuzalwa komzimba, sinoxanduva lokuzalwa kwakho, kwaye oku kuhlala khetho lwethu - ukuphila ubomi obonwabisayo okanye hayi.