Ngokweenkcukacha-manani, enye yeengxaki eziphambili zabahlali bezixeko ezinkulu kukungabikho kweqabane elisisigxina. Ngamanye amaxesha ukuphelelwa lithemba kukhokelela kwinto yokuba umntu obhinqileyo anele ukuba umntu wokuqala osoloko ilungele ngokupheleleyo, ngenxa yoko - uqhawulo-mtshato olukhawulezileyo kunye nayo yonke into kwisangqa. Sigqibe kwelokuba sifumanise ukuba ungayintoni na umbuzo wokukhetha iqabane kulwalamano olunzulu ukuze ungazisoli kwisigqibo sakho.
Eyona nto ifanelekileyo ayilunganga
Ukugqibelela akukho, kodwa oku akuthethi ukuba akuyomfuneko ukuba uzame. Kunokutshiwo okufanayo malunga nokukhetha kwendoda ngendima yomyeni wakhe. Ewe kunjalo, ndifuna ukulindela kwindoda yakhe indibaniselwano yokungahambelani: Ngobukrelekrele kunye nokuthamba, ukumiselwa kunye nokuthambeka, inkanuko kunye nesisa. Fumana indoda eya kwanelisa zonke iimfuno phantse ayinakwenzeka. Abafazi abaninzi banqwenela ukungayivumeli le nto, ukuhlala bekulindele "omnye", ngeli xesha ngeli xesha zilahlekelwe ngabagqatswa ngokwenene. Zama ukwenza uluhlu lweempawu ezibalulekileyo kuwe kwindoda kwaye ucinge ngenye yazo- nokuba ngokwenene kufuneka ukuba nayo okanye unokwenza isaphulelo.
Awunakuyithanda le ndoda
Enye impazamo eqhelekileyo kukuba "itye" kwindoda okanye nkqu na ezimbalwa ezingathandiyo ngokungagungqiyo. Yenzeka, sonke sinohlobo lwethu, ayisoloko ingumntu okhonkrithi. Ebona ukwahlukaniswa kwendoda njengesizathu sokunqongophala kwesondlo, umfazi uguqula ukungakhathalelwa kwendoda kwimvuthumelo: bambalwa abathanda ukubonwa kumntu ongathandekiyo. Ubudlelwane abunakwakhiwe emazantsi eqabane elinye kuphela kunye nokungabikho komdla ovela kwelinye. Kubalulekile ukuba uqonde ukuba uyaliwe entliziyweni yomntu. Ngaphandle koko, ngelishwa, akukho ndlela.
Eyona nto ayikho
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Uqhelene nemeko engafanelekanga
Impazamo edumileyo yomfazi oxakekileyo kukukhathalela indoda xa ibhinqa ngokwakhe lelokiswa kakhulu. Uninzi lwenzeka rhoqo, lokuthambisa kubulala kwikhefu, apho kuthunyelwa khona ishishini lethu emva konyaka osebenza nzima. Ukuzama ukuphumla, uqala ukubonisa amathanda abantu, apho bengayi kunikela ingqalelo kwisiqhelo kwaye bahlanganisene. Ngaba kufanelekile ukutsho ukuba imitshato inamahlakani afanayo ayisilele, lumka xa ufika "ukudumba" elunxwemeni. Guy othandekayo.
Cima umtya "oqhubayo" emehlweni
Vumelana, umfazi okhangela umyeni ubonakala kwangoko. Oku akunanto imangalisayo: Ayisiyo nayiphi na ukuba ummeli wakho womgangatho omnandi unokufikelela kwingcinga yomtshato ongakhuthazayo. Kwimeko enjalo, umfazi uqala ukuthatha amanyathelo asebenzayo-uyayibona indoda yakhe kuyo yonke indawo yokuqala, iyenzeka ukuba le ndoda iyayithanda, kodwa nale meko ayithinteli umfazi oqhubekayo. Amadoda ahlala esoyikisa abafazi 'iintloko ", kwaye ke bahlawule i-jikelele ukuba bazibone kwinkcazo, kodwa bangashiyi imizamo yokufumana umntu ofanelekileyo, kodwa awufuni kuyisike?