Eyona ngxaki iphambili endiyifumanayo emsebenzini kwisondlo semvakalelo kukuziphatha okungaziyo, ngokungakhathali kunye ne-visseus kunye ne-visseus yabantu ababonakaliswa kubudlelwane bokutya. Esi sihloko sinzulu kwaye sinomdla, sigcwele imingxunya kunye nemiqobo, ke ngoko ayinakwenzeka ukuba iphumelele ithiyori yengqondo kuphela. Kwintliziyo yokuzibandakanya, "ukubekwa kwengcuka" ekutyeni kubandezeleka kakhulu kwezona zinto zibalulekileyo. Abathengi abangabasebenzi abangonwabanga.
Intlungu ephumeleleyo
Kuncinci kuphela ukuba ususe imaski yengqibelelo, impumelelo engaphandle, ubuhle obungenakuthelekiswa nanto, ubutyebi, inkululeko kunye nemvelaphi yengozi yengozi ekhanyayo ngokukhawuleza. Ukuxhaphaka kolu sulelo phantsi kwegama elithi "Ukubandezeleka" kunamanqaku angaqhelekanga. Jonga kokukujikelezile. Zijonge esipilini, kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo uya kufumanisa ukulandelwa kwakhe.
Isidingo sothando yifirmir yakho esisiseko, kwaye kungenxa yayo sisesichengeni. Uthando lukhulisa abantu esixhomekeke kuzo. Emva koko, thina, abafundi abanetalente, sisebenzise ukuqhubela phambili ngendlela ephuculweyo kwabo baxhomekeke kuthi. Iincwadi ezininzi ezigqwesileyo zibhalwa malunga nobume bemidlalo. Thatha, umzekelo, i "Manipilator i-wipilator" ye-shostome, okanye "abantu abadlala imidlalo kunye nemidlalo apho abantu badlala khona" E.
Ukukhutshwa kwentliziyo ukuphelelwa ziimvakalelo. Iveliswa yimvakalelo yokuba ebomini bam ngomzuzwana onzima akukho namnye kum. Ndindedwa kwaye ndifuna inkxaso. Ndidinga uthando, ukuthatha inxaxheba, ukhathalelo, ukusilela kwam.
Ngokuzenzekelayo ngokwakho, xa sifuna uthando silithemba kwaye sahlulwe sithi. Sinda ngendlela esingena ngayo. Umntu othile uphosa imali yokwenza imali, umntu odlwengula okanye avuselele umzimba wakhe, umntu othile ubalekela ekuthengeleni, asuswe kwizinto zokubala yonke into. Kwaye umntu ozingela amaqabane ngolwalamano lothando, kulungile, okanye ngesondo nje. Ukuba iindlela ezinjalo zokugcwalisa uthando azisebenzi, ungabhenela kutywala, iziyobisi, ukungcakaza okanye ukuphela kwesifo esinganyangekiyo! Zininzi iindlela, kodwa siya kuhlala nanamhla ngokutya okutyebileyo.
Kutheni ukutya? Ewe, ngenxa yokuba esi sesona sixhobo silula sinezoneliseko kwangoko. Ukutya kwakufumaneka xa sasingenabo abazali kufutshane. Ukutya akuvuki kwaye akusishiyanga, njengoko uBawo wenzayo. Ukutya akuzange kubenzakalisa usizi kunye nengxaki. Khange athi "hayi." Khange ibethe. Ukutya kwakunganxili. Ihlala ifumaneka, nokuba inqabile kwaye ilinganiselwe. Wayenencasa. Sifudume xa sineflethi, epholile kubushushu. Ukutya kuguqukele kumhlobo osenyongweni, ohlala kufutshane. Kade wafana nothando esasihlala siswele. Nangona kunjalo, ukutya akuzange kubekho endaweni epheleleyo. Wahlala ethandabuza, engakwaziyo ukucima indlala yokwenyani.
Sweetie engalili
MILA, njengegama lakhe, endaweni yoko. Igqibelele iseti yayo, kwaye kwibhegi yakhe yezandla ezimnandi kuhlala zineelekese, itshokholethi, i-chockeisite okanye i-wafflka. Ujonga itafile eqhelekileyo esiyiqokelele ukukhulula isonka, kwaye iphoxe ngezandla - "akukho mntu ucinge ukuba uza nento entle-emnandi." UMila usisityebi, unomsebenzi ongumsebenzi, umyeni kunye nabantu abadala abazimeleyo. Kodwa ngalo mzuzu ubonakala ngathi yintombazana encinci edidekileyo. Imvelaphi yokuphoxeka kwayo, ukudideka kunye nengcinezelo yomlomo ongezantsi kulele kubuntwana obubele. Xa utata wakhe wafa ngequbuliso ubize ngesiquphe, basala yedwa kunye nentlungu yabo, besebandleni zabo, bezele ngamathemba aphukileyo. Ukusukela ngoko, iilekese zivele ebomini babo. Iilekese ezininzi. Akunakwenzeka ukuba ungabiliki kwaye ngelishwa: Umlomo wema ngenye ipipi. Namhlanje, akukho mntu uyalela ukulila kunye nokubonisa usizi olupheleleyo- liyazenzela, ukuba ngumntu omdala. Iilekese ezigciniweyo kwibhegi zinexhala lentombazana eqolileyo. Kwimeko, ukuba iba lusizi. Kwaye lusizi ngoku lixesha lonke, ngakumbi kuba abantwana benyuka baphuma endlwini. Kwaye imeko ayizi ukuba iphakama iinkumbulo zexesha elide zokuphulukana kade kade owona mntu ubalaseleyo kunye nomntu othandekayo - pope.
Abathengi abangabasebenzi baqhele ukusebenzisa ukutya njengothando sundrogate, engasakwazi ukugqiba ukuba yeyiphi na iimfuno. Asithandi ebuntwaneni kanye njengoko sisafuna. Kwaye ukuba ngabantu abadala, asikwazi kwamkela kwaye sibuyekeze kwaye sibuyekeze intsilelo yothando. "I-pizza kuphela konxantathu endiyifunayo ngoku," abathengi abathengi baya kukuxelela. Ngendlela yabo banyanisile. Kodwa ukucinga kunye nokuziphatha nokuziphatha akuyophuli ngokupheleleyo ekuhambeni kwexesha.
Umhlobo wam, Pole, umfazi othandekayo ohlekisayo. Ndimjonga kwaye ndincome: Umlomo wakhe uhlala uhamba ngomdaniso ongaqhelekanga. Udla lonke ixesha. Zonke. Nokuba umntu wethu wokuqala wayesazi: "Molo, igama lam ngu-Agniška. Intle kakhulu. Ngaba unayo into oyityayo? " Ngobugcisa, ngugqirha wengqondo. Ithetha malunga nobuntwana bakhe kunye nolwalamano noMama. Umzekelo, uMama uthi kuye: "Khohla yonke into, yiya kwipasta." Unguye: "Kodwa andifuni ukutya i-pasta, ngoku ndifuna ukuzoba!" Umama, ngaphandle kokuhamba ne-eyebrow: "Ufuna iPasta. Ndiyazi ngcono! " Agneshka kangangeminyaka engama-40. Umama uyaqhubeka nokunxibelelana ngendlela eqhelekileyo, nangona yedwa kwelinye ilizwe. Uhlala yedwa, uhlala kwindlu encinci ekhuselekileyo eYerusalem, ezama ukufumana umvuzo wokuhonjiswa kwekhaya. Ukutya kuphela kwento apho ebomini bakhe kungabikho ngokuchaseneyo. Kwaye, yena, ewe, amaphupha okuphulukana nobunzima.
Ithini imilinganiselo yethu?
Ukuziphatha ukutya okungafunekiyo kukubonakaliswa kwenkolelo ebhalwe kakhulu yokuba "asilunganga ngokwaneleyo ukuze sisithande njengoko sinjalo."
Omnye umzekelo. Ibhinqa elineminyaka engama-45 ubudala. Kuyinto ecekeceke kangangokuba xa ibonakala iyimvakalelo embi. Nokuba bangazicingi, bathobe kulowo wonke umkhondo uphela, Waphantse waphelelwa kwaye wayekho iminyaka eliqela, kuba umyeni wakhe wamshiya. Wayengayazi indlela yokupheka. Indoda ebomini bayo yayikukuthenga, kwalungiswa. Ngokomgaqo, watshintsha enyamekela umntwana wakhe ngenkathalo yendoda yakhe. Ndiqhelene nendlela ephuma kuyo umkhombe owaphukileyo, wahlala engenamthombo wothando kuzo zonke izinto ezibonakalisayo. Bakhule abantwana kwaye bahlala ngokwahlukeneyo. Uyedwa, ezikhokelela kwiiklasi ze-yoga. Kuyo, yiya kwivenkile enkulu, thatha inqwelo, khetha ukutya, hlawula, uze nekhaya kwaye upheke, emi kwiSlab ngumsebenzi onganyamezelweni. Ndicacisa lo mzekelo awuyohleki. Unengxaki. Kwaye ngendlela yayo ilungile, inokuqondwa. Ukuba ukutya luthando, akukho luthando ebomini bakhe. Kwaye nokuba uneminyaka emingaphi, ukuba besingafundanga ukuzinakekela.
Ukubandezeleka kusekwe kwiinkolelo ezinzulu ezingasinikeli ukuba sihambe ngaphaya kwabo. Ayikrokrela, siphila ubomi belinye ilizwe kwimeko yomnye umntu. Kule meko, nokuba umntu aze asithande nyhani, siyawutyhala ngokungazenzisiyo, kuba lo uthando olungacwangciswanga luya kuthintela ukuzithemba kwethu okungesisiqhelo.
Imilinganiselo yomzimba wethu ixhomekeke kwiinkolelo ezikhoyo malunga nothando, malunga nexabiso labo, malunga namathuba ethu. Ngapha koko, abo babhenela ekutyeni, bengenza isizungu, kwangelo xesha iphupha lokuphulukana nobunzima, baguqukele kwaye baqinisekile ukuba bayakwazi ukutshintsha into ebomini. Kodwa loo mizamo injalo ikhathazwa nguFiasco. Akunakwenzeka ukushiya isondlo esizimisele ngokweemvakalelo ngaphandle kokukroba kwentlungu, ukusuka apho kuye kwakholeka khona ngokutya.
Ngalo lonke ixesha esingavuli, esibangela ukungaziphathi kakuhle kokutya, akukho lutshintsho olunentetho olunokuba yintetho. Ukunqwenela ukutshintsha umzimba wabo kuhle kuya kuba kukufumanisa ukuba yintoni eyenze oko! Qhelana nomzimba wakho, funda malunga neefowuni zakhe kwaye ufumane izakhono ukummamela. Kwaye emva koko, ekugqibeleni, zithathe iimfuno zakhe zokwenyani. Umzimba wethu wahlukile kuba unengqondo yayo. Ilungisa ukucinga nokuzithemba rhoqo.
Ngokuqinisekileyo eli nqaku liza kukushiya lidanile, kuba aliyi kugqitywa ngamanqaku ayi-10 aneziqinisekiso (kwimeko engacacanga kwaye iphume ngenkuthalo) ekugqibeleni iphumelele kwaye ifumane inkangeleko eyonwabileyo. Ngalo lonke uvelwano lokufuna ukuphila kakuhle kwaye ungqubana, ngokobuqu, kunye nemeko enjalo, kukho ukunxulumana namangcwaba. Ndiyakholelwa ukuba ubomi buyinto enomtsalane. I-Mayay Plesetskaya ivakala indlela elula yokulondolozwa kwefom - "ungayityi." Ngaba ufuna ukuyeka ukuqhekeka? Vuka ngobomi! Zibhenele. Buyisela ubomi bakho. Yibanjwa ngokuqinileyo kwimfesane yakho kunye nemfesane. Anditsho ukuba kufuneka ushiye ezi zicwangciso. Bazikhupha nje ixesha elide kwaye babengazukunika nantoni na entsha kuwe! Lixesha lokumangalisa. Zama ngokwakho kwiindawo ezahlukeneyo. Khupha ifriji ekugqibeleni. Ngokukhawuleza kunye nokubonisa ubugqwetha kwidilesi, kwaye hayi ngaphakathi komzimba wakho. Ibonakalisiwe, endaweni yokufihla. Kwaye kukho, ukhangela, ukutya kuya kuba sisidlo nje, esiyinyani.
I-Ev Hazin yingcali yengqondo, ugqirha wezobugcisa, ingcali kwi-psychology yesondlo. Ukukhuthaza ukukhula komntu kwiZiko loQeqesho lweHazin Hazin