Ingabonakala ngathi kwi-psychology yonke into ilula: umntu osempilweni ngulowo uphumayo aze azisebenzise iminqweno yakhe ukuba abayophula umthetho kunye nemilinganiselo yokuziphatha. Kuyinyani, yonke into iphosakele ebomini - abantu abaninzi bayathanda ukubandezeleka kwaye abafuni kufuna ukutshintsha nantoni na, nokuba bahlala bekhalaza ngokubandezeleka. Ukoneliseka ngobomi bakhe kwaye wonwabe yonke imihla, xelela ngemithetho yendalo iphela kwincwadi ye-PSYCHOLOGISH.
Yenza le nto uyifunayo
Ukuqala emsebenzini, ukuphela ngobomi bakho, kufuneka ukhokelwe nguMgaqo omnye: yenza indlela oyifunayo. Ukudityaniswa kokuqonda okuqinisekileyo kunye neemvakalelo kuya kukunceda ekwenzeni isisombululo ngaphezulu kwengcebiso yabantu oqhelileyo okanye imbali kwi-Intanethi - yenzani ngendlela yakho. Ugqirha wengqondo ukholelwa ukuba umntu ophila kwindalo akanakuvela "kwiingcinga ezingezondalo" ezenzakalisa iimvakalelo zabanye abantu.
Yonwabela ubomi
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Sukwenza into ongafuniyo ukuyenza
Ukuba awuyithandi imbono yokuqhuba ekuseni okanye emsebenzini ngaphandle kweofisi - kutheni le nto? Nayiphi na imeko inokutshintshwa kwicala elifanelekileyo. Kuyinyani, iyakufuna ixesha lakho kunye nokuthatha inxaxheba: Kuya kufuneka uqhubeke nokufunda, ukwakha umfanekiso wakho kwaye usebenzele ezinye izinto. Ukuba ukulungele le, isenzo!
Thetha kwangoko ngento ongayithandiyo
Kuyoyikisa ukucinga ukuba zingaphi ubudlelwane ezitshatyalalisiweyo ngenxa yesithintelo samaqabane. Sisoloko sicinga ukuba ngamazwi akho sinokukhubekisa okanye sikhuphe umntu omthandayo. Kuyinyani, ezi nkolelo phantse zingenanto yakwenza nenyani. Zicingele, hayi enye. Chaza ngokucacileyo ukuba awuthandi umntu ukuba abe nethuba lokusombulula le ngxaki okanye akuchaze ukuba kutheni engafuni kutshintsha nantoni na.
Sukuphendula xa ungabuzwa
Iingcebiso ezingekazalwa ziphathwa ngokupheleleyo wonke umntu, nokuba zibonakalisiwe ngendlela efanelekileyo. Umkhwa wokufunda indlela yokukhulisa abantwana, usasaze imali, uziphathe nabantu besini esahlukileyo njalo njalo - ithoni embi. Ukuba umntu unomdla kwimbono yakho, ucela oku: "Mama, ndixelele indlela endibhalela ngayo kule meko ..." Amateur kule nto ingumkhwa ombi onokuthi ulahle wonke umntu.
Phendula kuphela kumbuzo
Ngokuqinisekileyo ubonile kwimovie entle entle, apho umama athi emtshatweni: "wenze ntoni?" Emva kokuba eqaphele ukuba akafuni ukwaphula ivatha, nangona umama wakhe wayecinga i-sofa ichitha ijusi. Imeko yemeko isasazeka, nangona kunjalo, intsingiselo iyafana: Akukho sidingo sokuphendula ngaphezulu kunokuba ubuzile, kwaye ugqabaze ngemeko yonke okanye ukubeka phambili isityholo sokubuyiswa. Ukukhokelwa yile mgaqo, uya kunciphisa kakhulu inani leembambano nabanye.
Kwi-dialog, phendula kuphela umbuzo
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Ukufumana ubudlelwane, thetha ngawe kuphela
Amagama anje "ndiyandicaphukisa, kuba ..." okanye "Andiyithandi, xa ..." baya kumxelela ukuba imeko yempikiswano yedilesi yakhe. Awunokwazi ukuba umntu uziva njani kwaye kwakutheni ukuze enze njalo, kwaye hayi ngenye indlela, ade athi kuye. Ke kutheni umkhanyisela wedwa? Kholelwa ukubangena kubantu: iimpazamo zenza yonke into, eyona nto iphambili ngexesha ukubazibone kwaye usombulule ingxaki.