Unobangela wokuqala: I-Stereotypes elahlekileyo
Xa udibana, intombazana nomfana omncinci ziziphatha ngokwezithethe zentsapho yabo. Masithi umama womfana oselula ngumfazi kwigumbi lokuhlambela ekhitshini ekhitshini. Utata weza emsebenzini enomsindo kwaye ediniwe, isidlo sangokuhlwa, waya kwi-sofa kwaye wabukelwa umabonwakude. Kwaye intombazana yoSata yoSata yayikholelwa ukuba lo mfazi ufanele ukuba abe mhle, dibana nendoda yakhe ngoncumo, kwiingubo zasekhaya ezingenamakhaya. Buza kubuya njani ubudlelwane phakathi kwabathandi kule meko? Umfana usetyenziselwa ukubona umfazi ekhaya eBhatsherbe. Kwaye intombazana idibana nentanda yakhe ngoncumo, ipeyintiwe, inxibe kakuhle. Indoda icinga: Uhlanganisene phi? Iqala ukuba nekhwele. Rhoqo ukuze silondoloze ubudlelwane, umfazi uyala iinkolelo zakhe kwaye uvala. Ukuphendula, abantu babonakala ngathi bavutha. Indoda icinga ukuba elinye ibhinqa liya kumnika ingqalelo engaphezulu, liya kuxabisa kwaye likhathalele.
Kwenziwe ntoni? Ukuqala, yenze ngokwakho. Vumela amandla akho ukuba abhekiselele ukuba angayigcini usapho, kodwa kuwe. Yintoni enokuthathwa kwinqanawa engenanto? Akukho nto. Inqanawa kufuneka igcwalise amandla, ulwazi olutsha, impatho, ukuzithanda ngokwakho. Ukuzigatya ngokwakhe kunye nezabo kunye nemikhwa, ulahlekelwe bubuntu bakho, ukholo kuwe, nomntu okufutshane uziva. Ukuba awuzithandi, omnye umntu angakuthanda njani?
I-LALISA SEMIKOVA
Yenza isibini: inkosikazi
Umyeni waqalisa inkosikazi yakhe, nangona, mhlawumbi, kwangaxeshanye uyamthanda umfazi wakhe. Kumadoda amaninzi, imodeli enjalo yolwalamano yinto eqhelekileyo. Njengomthetho, loo madoda akhokelwa ziimvakalelo. Mhlawumbi ingxaki iphinde yabuya ebuntwaneni xa inkwenkwe ibone indlela yokuziphatha koYise.
Kwenziwe ntoni? Eyona nto inokwenzeka, umfazi ekuqaleni kobudlelwane wenza impazamo ngaphandle kokubhekisa kwimida yabo. Isihloko sokunyaniseka sekuze sixoxwe, kwaye le ndoda yagqiba kweyokwakhiwa ukuba kunjalo ngezinto zezinto. Ukuba ufunda ngenkosikazi yakho, kuya kufuneka uthethe nomyeni wam kwaye kufuneka uqonde ukuba kutheni le nto yenzekile kwaye iqabane lakho linelungelo lokucwangcisa. Mhlawumbi uyayibona impazamo. Ngayiphi na imeko, unokuthatha isigqibo sokuba ungaphila na umntu okanye hayi. Kodwa ukuya kumaxhoba ngenxa yabantwana okanye izindlu, zicinezela, azifuneki.
Isizathu sesithathu: Umyeni wakhala
Ngamanye amaxesha umntu obhinqileyo uxakekile kwinkathalo yoomama, sebenza okanye ozonwabisayo, olibale ngentanda yakhe. Indoda kule meko ivakalisa ukusondela kwakhe kwaye iqala ukufuna izinto ngaphandle kwendlu. Ayibandakanyeki kwinkqubo yokudala usapho, ngoko ke ayizifanelanga ngaye amaxabiso. Ixesha elingaphezulu, ubonakala ezonwabisa, nabahlobo, ngenxa yoko, unxibelelwano ecaleni.
Kwenziwe ntoni? Zama ukucwangcisa impelaveki kunye. Soloko ubuza umyeni womyeni wakho kwaye ubonise ukubaluleka kombono wakhe ngawe, indoda ive imfuno yayo kwaye inokwenzeka kubudlelwane. Ewe kunjalo, kunzima kuwe ukuba unomdla kwibhola ekhatywayo okanye yokuloba, kodwa ukubonisa ukungalingani kwe-chalilibribribribribribribribribribribribribriblies kwizinto zokuzonwabisa zomyeni wakho.