Kuluntu lwethu, ayisiyonto yesiko lokuthetha ngokufa, ngokungathi le yinto elihlazo kwaye ayingomoya. Ngokutshutshiswa komntu okhathazekileyo, kubonakala ngathi, akunjalo, kubonakala ngathi ayikhumbuli kwaphela. Kodwa ukuphulukana nomntwana ongekazalwa, kwaye ngexesha elincinci, kwaye ngexesha lokuzala komntwana yinto enzima yengqondo efuna ingqwalaselo kunye nokujikeleza ngononophelo. Kuba ilahlekile. Nangona kunjalo, kwanobasebenzi bezonyango ekliniki okanye kwiSibhedlele iManzi ayisoloko belungele ukubonelela ngenkxaso efunekayo. Awu, mna ngokwam ndaphulukana nomntwana ngexesha lokuzala. Kwaye ndaxelelwa oku kulandelayo: "Akukho nto, unyaka siya kuthi kwakhona size kuthi, size sizale." Babesithi hayi kwinkohlakalo okanye ukungabonakali, kodwa akukho mntu wayefundiswe ukuba kwiimeko ezinjalo kukufanelekela ukuthetha, kodwa kutheni kungenjalo. Ukutyibilikwa kobungcali kuyaqhubeka.
Kwaye uthini?
Yintoni efumana umfazi ophulukene nomntwana? Kukho ibinzana - xa abazali besifa, ixesha lethu elidlulileyo liyahamba, kwaye umntwana ofela ikamva. Ukuphulukana nomntwana kukuwa kwehlabathi labasetyhini. Umama akaphumelelanga uziva ephelelwe lithemba, usizi, wakhupha. Wayesele echonge imeko yakhe entsha, umama, waxela kwangaphambili ngobomi bakhe kwizinto ezintsha, wayefuna ukucacisa amathemba omyeni wakhe kunye nosapho, kodwa eli lizwe litsha latshabalaliswa. Ngomgaqo-nkqubo wokomfuziselo, kuba indalo ayiboni into onokuyisayina, ibe wayenguye! Kwaye njani le ntlungu ixhomekeke kwinkxaso yabathandekayo kunye neqhinga labasebenzi bezonyango. Eyona nto ibalulekileyo kukunika umfazi ukuba aphile, ukuze aphile ngokweemvakalelo, akhumbule amanqanaba amane osizi.
1. Ukukhanyela. Umsebenzi wenqanaba lokuqala lentlungu kukwamkelwa kwengxaki. Kuyimfuneko ukuba uqonde ukuba kwenzekile.
2. I-toxian nomsindo. Oku kukhangela ukuphendula imibuzo kunye netyala. Umsebenzi kukujikeleza umntu osondeleyo onobushushu kunye nengqwalaselo, gcina kwizenzo ezizonakalisayo.
3. Ukucinezelwa kunye nokubandezeleka . Imvakalelo yokuba yonke into iwile. Akuyi kubakho ubomi obudala, akuyi kubakho mntwana, akuyi kubakho ulonwabo. Kwaye, kuya kubonakala ngathi ukuba ukuxhasa ibinzana elithi "Ulutsha, lizale ngokwakho" kubangela ukonakala okungakumbi. Eli binzana lihle kakhulu. Inyathelo lokubandezeleka kufuneka lisinde, injongo yalo kukufumana ubutyebi bokwakhiwa kwekamva.
4. Ukuhlaziywa kwakhona kobomi.
Ixesha lexesha ngalinye ngokwahlukeneyo kwaye intlungu inokuba yahlukile ngokubanzi. Kuxhomekeka kwiimpawu zomntu ngamnye, kunye nexesha lokukhulelwa. Sisoloko sicela umfazi: "Bekukhulelwa okanye ngaba ngumntwana?". Ukuba uyaligcina-le yimeko enye, kwaye ukuba umntwana wakho yenye. Amanqanaba angenam ukwahlula okwethutyana. Ukuba ilahleko yenzekile ngexesha leeveki ezingama-2-3-ukubuyela kwimeko yesiqhelo kwengqondo kuthatha malunga neenyanga ezintandathu. Ukuba le nto izalwa ngumntwana, umfazi wambona, ubuncinci iminyaka enye nesiqingatha.
Yintoni engasebenziyo
1. Okokuqala, akunyanzelekanga ukuba ungayihoyi ilahleko ye-perinatal. Ekuqaleni kusenokubonakala ngathi ukhathalelo lwenyani ngokusebenzisa iziyobisi zengqondo sisisombululo esilula. Kodwa ayizukuvumela ukuba uphile kuwo onke amabakala osizi eziyimfuneko ukuze ubomi obungaphezulu buya kuza.
2. Abantu abaninzi bacinga ukuba emva kokuba umntwana elahlekelwe, kufuneka ukhulelwe kwakhona kwaye yintoni eya kuba ngumama owonwabileyo. Kodwa oku akwenzeki. Kuba umntwana omtsha uyeza ngokubuya. Kodwa umntu ngamnye unebali lakhe, ixesha lokufika kwakhe entsatsheni. Iingcali zengqondo zisacetyiswa ukuba zikwazi ukumelana nokumisa phakathi kokusweleka komntwana wokuqala kunye nokuzalwa kwesinye kuya kudlula kwisiqingatha okanye iminyaka emibini.
3. Ukufuna ukugxeka. Ihlala yenzeka rhoqo ukuba kwimeko yosizi, ibhinqa liphosa yonke imikhosi ekukhangelwe ukuba ibike. Unokubagweba: Kutheni uye waphumla, kutheni ndingazange ndiphumle, kwaye ukugxeka umyeni wakhe, umzali, ogqirha. Ngapha koko, eli linqanaba lesibini - ukulangazelela kunye nomsindo. Kwaye uninzi lwabathandekayo luyakhutyekiswa, kufanelekile ukuphawula, kulungile. Kodwa kuyimfuneko ukuba uqonde ukuba lixesha nje lokuphila. Nika umfazi ukuba ayidlulisele ngelahleko encinci.
4. Yenza ngathi ayikho into eyenzekileyo. Inkcubeko, yenzekile ukuba asinakwamkela kwaye siqonde intlungu yomnye umntu - soyikisa kakhulu. Kodwa ukuthetha amazwi ovelwano "ndiyaxolisa ukuba kwenzeke," "Ndiyavela imbilini yakho," "ndingakunceda njani ngoku?" Okanye nje uthe cwaka kwaye ube kufutshane, hunga ngokumangalisayo. Sebenzisa indlela elula yokuthetha. Ngelishwa, kwaye phulaphula ngokuzolileyo, phendula ngokunyaniseka imibuzo.
Sukuzifihla iimvakalelo zabo, uvelwano olunyanisekayo, uvelwano lunceda ekuhlangabeleni ukwenzakala.
Eyona nto imbi kakhulu enokuthi ithethwe kule meko: "Ixesha eliphilisiweyo", "wathabatha uThixo," "Kulungile ukuba udle."
Yintoni onokuzabalazela
Ukuya kubeleka yeyona nto iqaqambileyo kwaye ke ngamava anemvakalelo kwaye anzulu kubomi bomfazi. Ukuphulukana nomntwana kwisibini kuthetha ukuba ubudlelwane babo bungakwazi ukufikelela kwinqanaba elitsha lophuhliso, akulula ukwamkela. Khumbula oku, xa uza kuba nomdla kuba kutheni abantu bengabi nabantwana. Ngeenzame eziqhelekileyo ezingapheliyo okanye ezingaphumelelanga kwi-eco, ukufuna ukhuseleko kunokubuyela kugqatso, hlula iziyolo ukunxibelelana kunye nesondo. Kwangelo xesha, ukuzithemba kokuzithemba kusela kakhulu - kutheni umntu eguquka, kwaye asinayo, "esi sibini sididekile? Kodwa namhlanje iingcali zeengcali zavela ezifundisa i-obstetrologitian-gynecologists ukuba zinike inkxaso yengqondo ngokuzalwa komntwana, kubandakanya nesiphumo esibuhlungu. Kubalulekile ukulwa nokudinwa kobungcali kwezakhelo, kwaye kunomdla, oku kuyabonakala kuphela ecaleni, umntu ngokwakhe akaqondi ukuba uyayitshisa, kuba ukudinwa kuyanxulunyaniswa nokuphuhliswa komntu.
Isihloko esikhethekileyo sisidali esiyindoda. Ke indoda ayifanele iqaqale, kodwa oku akuthethi ukuba akazihlambi iimvakalelo zakhe kwaye akabandezeleka. Ke ngoko, amadoda ngababini abaphulukene ne-perinatal bahlala beshiya iintloko zabo ukuba basebenze, bahlukaniswe ngemvakalelo kumfazi wakhe. Kwaye ukuthetha, kubalulekile ukuthetha ngamava akho.
Ungayivumela njani kwaye iyeke ukuhamba
Kuyimfuneko ukuvumela wonke umntu ukuba ebude obu bomi. Ukuze into afike kuyo, nokuba akakazalwa okanye aphile iiyure ezimbalwa kuphela. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba utsho kuye: Ewe, ubukwimpilo yakho, ndiyakukhumbula.
Kukho izithethe "zokukhutshwa", zisebenza kakuhle xa umfazi sele ebhalwa ngaphezulu. Unokwenza ibhokisi apho uza kubeka khona into enxulumene nokukhulelwa - inokuba yi-ultrasound okanye uhlalutyo lwe-hgg. Unokutyala umthi kwiyadi, yenza inqwelomoya kwaye ubaleke ezulwini. Elinye ibhinqa esilisebenzileyo, lafumana inkanyezi ezulwini yathi ngunyana wakhe lo. I-psyche yabasetyhini yanelisekile kukuba bhetyebhetye kwaye nexesha ngokwakhe uzimisele ukuqhubeka nobomi obungaphezulu. Kwaye emphefumlweni kukho ishelufu kwaye yasilela ubudoda.