Fumana umphefumlo onomtsalane-yinto enzima xa ungumntu omdala kunye nomntu osebenza naye. Sele uneminyaka eli-15 ubudala xa ubuhlobo wanele ukuba nephulo lokudibana kwi-cinema kunye nengxoxo yemicimbi ka-Amoma, eneminyaka engama-40 nangabantu abadala banononophelo malunga nokukhetha abahlobo. Chaza ukuba kutheni ufumana ubunzima nabantu abaqhelileyo.
Abantu baxakekile nosapho lwabo
Mhlawumbi esona sizathu siphambili ekunzima ukuba senze abahlobo emva kweminyaka engama-40, kukuba ngeli xesha abantu abaninzi banezinye iimbophelelo. Kwiminyaka engama-40, abantu badla ngokuba nabantwana abakhulileyo (oko kukuthi, abakwishumi elivisayo), kwaye aba bantwana, njengomthetho, bafuna ixesha elininzi ekukhuliseni kwabo. Ke ngoko, ukuba awuzifikeleli kwiingxaki ezifanayo, kuya kuba nzima ukukuqonda ukungabikho kwexesha kumhlobo.
Ngobudala, sihlala sithanda usapho, kwaye hayi abahlobo
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Imijikelezo yentlalo emva kweminyaka engama-30 ingaguqukanga
Izifundo zibonakalisile ukuba ekufikeleleni kwiminyaka engama-30, abantu baqala ukuxabisa ukufaneleka, hayi ubuhlobo obuncinci. Njengesangqa selinye ilizwe, umntu, unokubonakala ubonakala owoyikekayo "ukungena" kwisangqa esisele senziwe. Eyona ndlela ilungileyo yokuhlangabezana noku kukujoyina iiklabhu ngomdla. Fumana isizathu sokumanyanisa naba bantu, kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo uya kufumana abantu abanengqondo efanayo nabo.
Ukonyusa i-egodism
Ngobudala, siqala ukuqonda iminqweno yakho kwakhona, kwaye hayi abanye abantu, kangangokuba sivuma ukuthobela nabantu esibathandayo. Le yindlela eqhelekileyo yokuphendula engqina kwi-psches ephuhlisiweyo. Nangona kunjalo, akufuneki ubekeke kuyo yonke into: Zama ukuthathela ingqalelo iminqweno yazo zonke kwaye ufumane indlela yokuphuma kwimeko yengxaki.
Ukunqongophala kweZakhono zeNtlalontle
Ukuba ujonga kwi-Intanethi, zininzi iibhloko zokuncedisa ukwakha ubudlelwane bothando, kodwa bambalwa abantu abafuna ukudala unxibelelwano olunamandla nabahlobo. Nangona kwiimeko zokusasazeka kwe-Intanethi, lixesha lokuba enze lo mba. Abantu bayakwazi ukunxibelelana ngakumbi kunye nenethiwekhi yoluntu, kwaye bangaphili, oko kuya kuba nzima ngakumbi izakhono zabo zonxibelelwano.
Nxibelelana nabantu abanemidla efanayo
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Iimfuno ziyanda ngakumbi
Akwanelanga ukuthwala iqela lemiculo elinye okanye libe ngabantwana eklasini ukuba baqalise abahlobo, njengabuntwana. Eyona nto iphambili kubuhlobo emva kweminyaka engama-40 iyakwazi ukutshintshiselana ngolwazi oluxabisekileyo kwaye ilusebenzise omnye komnye neminye imicimbi. Ngoku uyaqonda ukuba ukungqinelana kubalulekile nakulo naluphi na uhlobo lolwalamano lwentlalo. Kungenxa yoko le nto esona sicwangciso silungileyo sokujoyina iiklabhu kwimidla kwaye ngokuzithandela benza into efana ngayo. Oku kuyakuvumela ukuba unxibelelane nabantu abanomdla wezinto ezifanayo njengawe.
Ukunqongophala kwemali
Umbuzo wezinto ezibonakalayo unakalisa naluphi na ulwalamano, nokuba lupholile kangakanani. Ukuba umhlobo uthe wabiza ikomityi yekofu okanye iphakamisa ukuhamba neentsapho kwiholide phesheya, kodwa awunayo imali, kungekudala uya kuyeka ukunxibelelana. Olona khetho lukuphela kwelokuqalisa ukufumana umvuzo ngaphezulu ukuze uqhubeke nabahlobo.