Umzali ngamnye kuya kufuneka ajamelane nexesha elingalindelekanga kubomi bomntwana wakhe, njengeminyaka elishumi elivisayo: Umntu odlula ungabonwa, kwaye ezinye iintsapho iba luvavanyo lokwenyani. Ngapha koko, imeko ihlala iqaqambile kungekuphela nje kubantwana ngokwazo, kodwa nakwabantu abanengqiqo abazama ukungavumi, kodwa ukucinezela okwishumi elivisayo, ngaloo ndlela babeka ngaphezulu nangakumbi. Sasicinga kwaye sagqiba kwelokuba sifumanise ukuba zeziphi iimeko kuphela kukususa kumntwana okwishumi elivisayo.
Uhlala ugxekwa
Impazamo enkulu yabazali abaninzi, ngakumbi ukuba umntwana ngowokuqala kwaye uphela. Ebuntwaneni, imiyalelo yabazali inesizathu sokungabikho kwamava emntwaneni kunye nomnqweno womvuzo womzali kumava amabi. Kwimeko yolutsha, icebo elinjalo lokuziphatha linokubangela ukuba bangakhathali kuphela, kodwa nolwalamano luvela kumfana. Eyona nto imbi kakhulu ukuba umzali anokuyenza kwimeko apho umntwana omhlekayo akaceleli ingcebiso, - qalisa ukugxeka izigqibo nokukhetha umntwana. Zama ukuhlala ufumana isizathu sokuba umntwana eze ngandlela-thile okanye omnye, ukugxeka yindlela yokungabikho ndawo.
Ngamanye amaxesha inkanuko inokuba yinto yobomi
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Ngaba uqhuba i-stereotypes malunga nolutsha kumntwana wakho
Ngamnye wethu ngumntu, okuthetha ukwenza isigqibo esinganyangekiyo, ngakumbi xa bekhathaza umntwana wakho - baphulukane nembeko. Kukholelwa ukuba bonke abakwishumi elivisayo bahlukaniswe ngomnye umntu ongafunekiyo, whims kunye nokungavelisi kwabantu abadala. Kuyenzeka, nangona kunjalo, ukubeka wonke umntu kumqolo omnye-umsebenzi omdala ongafanelekanga. Ulutsha oluninzi lunokuqhayisa ngakumbi kwaye luphumelele ukukhulisa kunabantu abadala abaninzi. Cinga ngento enomdla kumntwana wakho okwishumi elivisayo? Mhlawumbi oko ukuqwalasela inkcitho yexesha kunokujika kube yinto yobomi.
Awungekhe usukele
Ewe kunjalo, akufanelanga ukuba ubomi bomntwana wakho eSamotek, ukuba bakrokrela umntwana ngembi kakhulu, engafanelekanga- njengommiselo, olona lonwabo lubi luhlala lusilinde, ngakumbi ukuba silinde oku. Nika umntwana wakho abe lithuba lokuzibonakalisa kwicala elilungileyo, akayithembi ukuba "akukho nto isenokukhululwa kuyo." Khumbula ukuba ukufakelwa kwakho kunokwaphula umntu ubomi.
Awukamkeli ubuntu bakhe
Enye yezona ngxaki zinkulu zabantu abadala banamhlanje kukungafanele kwabanye abantu. Umhlaba uyakhula kwisitrato esikhawulezayo sokuba abazali bakwesiphi na isizukulwana esiya kubakho emva kwemikhwa, kwaye amaxesha angaqinisekanga kwaye engaqondakaliyo esenza ukuba umntu abe noloyiko, uloyiko kunye nokucaphukisa. Yiyeke. Umntwana wangena kwiminyaka eli-develeccentcy kubalulekile ukufumana amava akhe, sele ezama ezizonwabisa ezintsha, ekhulisa iitalente zayo. Njengoko besitsho kwinqanaba lokugxeka, zama ukuqonda izizathu zokuba umntwana wakho enze njalo, kwaye kungenjalo, ngaphandle kwenkanuko yomntwana wakho okwishumi elivisayo ayinamsebenzi, njengoko unokubona okokuqala. Sukungxama kunye nezigqibo.