Ebuntwaneni, asinakuba nakho iingxaki ukuze sifumane umhlobo-kuba kwakuyimfuneko ukusondela omnye umntwana esitratweni kwaye ubuze: "Ngaba uza kuba ngumhlobo wam?" Yonke into, kwimizuzu embalwa uyifumene umdlalo omtsha. Ukhubazeka, ngokuthe ngcembe satshintsha isangqa sabo sonxibelelwano, umntu ushiya ubomi bethu, abanye abantu beza endaweni yabo, abanokwenza ngokuthe ngcembe 'baye kutshona kwelanga ". Kodwa wenze ntoni, ukuba sele uneminyaka engama-30 kwaye uyaqonda ukuba akukho bantu bakungqongileyo? Namhlanje sagqiba kwelokuba sixoxe ngale ngxaki.
Sikhangela izimvo zabahlobo
Eyokuqala, apho kufuneka iqale khona, jonga emva kwaye "ujonge ngapha." Ngoncedo olukhulu uya kuqaphela ukuba ubuncinci umntu onokuthi anxibelelane naye rhoqo ukuba abathunyelwanga. Ukuba, ngaphandle komsebenzi, awuyithandi into, zama ukubhala kwizifundo ezinomdla okanye kwiziko lomzimba, apho ziqokelele khona ukumanyanisa abantu abaninzi.
Ke ngoku ufumene umntu omnandi kuwe, malunga nokubonakala ngathi ungakhathali ukuthetha ngento omele uyenze ngokulandelayo? Eyona nto iphambili, zama ukungayinyanzeli inkampani yakho - uthanda abantu abambalwa. Okokuqala thetha nezihloko ngokubanzi, ngokuthe ngcembe yiya kwisihloko sezinto ezinomdla kuzo, kunzima ukuyithetha apha ukuba umntu uyakukhumbula kuwe okanye uya kuba mdla kumdla. Ngayiphi na imeko, musa ukuthula, kodwa ungabizi ngaphandle kwesizathu. Yenza ngemeko.
Yiba ngumhlobo wam kuqala
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Ukuba yonke into ihamba kakuhle, loo mntu uya kuqalisa ukuthatha inyathelo lokuqala kwaye axoxe ngezihloko ngokubanzi okanye iindaba zamva nje ziya kuba sisiko eliqhelekileyo kuwe. Okwangoku, unganikezela ngemisebenzi edibeneyo yendoda, umzekelo, ukuya kwiimuvi okanye kwi-cafe ngempelaveki. Abafowunelwa abanobuhlobo banobuhlobo ngokufanelekileyo.
Zama ukuhlala ulwenzele umbono wakho, ubuncinci ixesha elide njengoko uqalile ukunxibelelana nomntu kwaye akakanalo ixesha lokuphonononga. Yintoni ebandakanywayo kumxholo "omangalisayo?" Okokuqala, zama ukungabikho emva kwexesha, ungaphazamisi, ungayigxeki. Okwesibini, unomdla kubomi bomnye umntu, ungatsho ngalo lonke ixesha malunga nawe kunye neengxaki zakho, kuba ubuhlobo buya kubuxhasa omnye komnye kwaye ufuna ukunceda umntu osondeleyo. Ukulibala malunga nayo, akufanele umangaliswe ukuba kutheni umntu enyamalala umntu kwaye akafuni kunxibelelana.
Yiba uhlala ungumntu onomdla. Kubalulekile ukuba apha khumbule ukuba abantu bahlala benomdla wokunxibelelana nabo banokuthetha into, bafundise okanye abo bangonwabi. Oku kunokufezekiswa, ukuphuhlisa rhoqo, ukuzibuza into entsha. Qiniseka ukuba nje emva kokuba ungumntu onomdla, abantu abasoloko beza kukwazisa.