Njengomthetho, siphila ngaphandle kokucinga ngaphambili. Ayisiyo eyakho, kwaye idlulile umama wethu-cus kunye nootatomkhulu, sijonga ngoMeyi 9 kunye neparade ekuseni kwaye kuphela kwiifilimu ezingathandekiyo ezinokuqikelela ukuba kukho iminyaka eliqela eyadlulayo. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, imfazwe enkulu yezwe iphelile kwakudala. Into eyoyikisayo kunye neentlekele ezazisenzekile ukuze zisinde izizukulwana ezininzi ngaloo mihla ziya kudala zisaqaphela kuthi. Ezo zizukulwana ziye zazivelisa iminyhadala emininzi esekwe nzima: Indlala, uloyiko olusisigxina ngobomi babo kunye nokoyika abantu ababathandayo, isoyikiso esihlala sisoyikeka, isikhewu esibuhlungu, ilahleko, ilahleko, ilahleko. Yonke le nto ihleli kubantu abangazi nto, kunye nosapho kunye nomntu ongazi nto.
I-Angelin ye-Angelin Schitberberberger, umnyango wonyango obhale incwadi ethi "I-Syndrome yookhokho", ihlolisise indlela ezinzima kwimicimbi ephindaphindiweyo kwintsapho yalowo ngamnye kuthi. Okanye, umzekelo, amagama ahamba ngokweemvakalelo esidlulayo kwisizukulwana, ngokungazi ngokupheleleyo, njengoko oku kunxibelelana noonyazishini wethu. Kwaye ayinamsebenzi nokuba siyazi into esiyaziyo malunga neziganeko ezoyikisayo zeminyaka edlulileyo, malunga nendlela abaphila ngayo ooyihlo, siyazi kwaye siqikelela ooyihlo kunye namava ookhokho kunye nookhokho bethu.
Kubonakala ngathi oku kwathunyelwa kum iphupha.
"Ndiphupha ukuba mna nomyeni wam ekhaya kubazali bam. Kodwa isitya sendlu sahlukile, amagumbi abonakala ngakumbi, kodwa akafani nam ekhaya. Ubukhulu becala waphungulwa kwaye yonke into ejikeleze ipinki emnyama. Kwangelo xesha, ndinemvakalelo yokuba ndisekhaya kubazali. Kwaye ndibona abantu abangabaziyo abasemzini: Abafazi nentombazana encinci. Emva koko sizifumana sikwindawo, sifana kakhulu nomyezo wabazali bam. Phantsi kwemilenze yomhlaba, kodwa akukho nto ikhula kuyo. Kwaye esijikeleze sibiyelwe ngocingo. Kwaye abantu bangenziwa ngendlela engaqhelekanga kule ndawo. Kwaye apha esibhakabhakeni ndibona inqwelo moya. Uqala ukulahla iibhombu ezijikelezileyo eziya kuqhuma. Indiza iyandibhabha, umyeni wam kunye nenye indoda (esukuma nje ukusuka kuthi, ubuso bubuhlungu) kwaye baphose ibhombu enjalo kwiinyawo zethu. Ndiyaqonda ukuba ngoku uza kuqhuma, amba umyeni wakhe ngesandla kwaye amshiye ukuba abaleke. Siqala ukubaleka, emva koko kubonakala kum ukuba ndinzima kakhulu ukutsala indoda, kwaye ndiyeke isandla saKho, ndiwele emadolweni, ndisongele intloko yam, ndilinde ukuqhuma. I-LED, kodwa akukho nto yenzekayo. Umyeni wam ulungele mna, uthatha isandla esithi yonke into ilungelelene, kwaye sinokugoduka. Ekhaya ndibona ibhinqa elikhulileyo, lihamba ngebhanti kwaye lilele ebhedini esiswini, wenzakala. Inxeba esiswini, ngoko andimboni. Ngokulandelayo ubuxoki bayo yintombazana encinci, endiyibonileyo ekuqaleni kobuthongo. Isiqingatha semilenze yakhe siyadinwa, ndibona izixhobo ze-Hardware egazini. Ndiyaqonda ukuba bathwaxwa ziibhombu, ndoyikisa kakhulu kwaye ndivuka. "
Ngokuqinisekileyo ukulala kugcina iimpawu zobuqu zamaphupha ethu. Kodwa kumagqabaza e-Snu, wabhala ukuba amaphupha malunga nokuqhushumba kwiinqwelo moya ukuya kuthatha rhoqo. Kwaye ukuba uyoyika abo ubathandayo kwaye uzama ukubasindisa. Amaphupha aqhelekileyo, kwaye kuwo wonke umxholo opheleleyo. Ayiyazi imvelaphi yamaphupha.
Yiyo loo nto, kukho ingqiqo ukuba loo maphupha abubusuku bakhe, kodwa unokubangela nje kubo kwintsimi engazi nto yosapho lonke. Mhlawumbi ukupeyinta ngebhombu ngamava omntu kwintsapho yakhe. Into enye ngulo mfazi owenzakeleyo kunye nomntwana onomlenze ophantsi. Ukusasaza kwabo kwasasaza iindlela ezahlukeneyo zentlekele kunye neenkumbulo zomntu entsatsheni, kodwa ezizukulwana ngaphambili. Oku kubonisa indawo yokulala - indlu yabazali kunye nomyezo. Ayisiyongozi kuye, kuba umyeni wakhe uthi bagoduka. Zonke ezi zinto zoyikiso ziyimicimbi yeminyaka emide.
Kutheni iphupha iphupha ngoku? Mhlawumbi phantsi kwempembelelo yeziganeko ezikhoyo kwihlabathi lobusuku - kunye neentsapho zakhe-zaphinda zakhula.
Ingaba le nto inokuthetha ntoni ngephupha? Olunye ukhetho kukufumanisa emkhosini owadlulayo kookhokho babo, funda amabali abo kunye namava abo. Kuya kumnceda ukuba ahlukane noloyiko lwakhe ukusuka kumaphupha asebusuku bosapho. Umzekelo, ukuba izinyanya zakhe, njengookhokho uninzi lwethu, luphulukene nomntu wemfazwe, yatsho kakuhle kumaqabane abo, olu loyiko lunokudluliselwa kwintlekele kwaye luloyiko naphambi kolwahlulelo olulula olusondeleyo phakathi kwemini. Singakholelwa ukuba ubabambe, zama ukubakhusela kwiingozi ezingafakwanga (umzekelo, ephupheni, iqhawe litsaliwe kwenye indawo, elingayifuni kukhathalelo). Kwaye lo ngumzekelo omncinci, kwaye umahluko kwisihloko-ubunzima.
Ke sinqwenela amaphupha ethu ngethamsanqa kwisifundo sembali yohlobo lwayo.
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