Xa indoda ingangxami ukuba ithathe inyathelo lokuqala lokuphuhlisa ubudlelwane, umfazi kufuneka eze nalo, okanye abonakalise iphulo. Nangona kunjalo, amaxesha amaninzi amantombazana ayenza ukuba ithandeke, le ndoda isoyika uloyiko olunjalo. Cinga ngendlela yokususa ityala kwindawo efileyo, engayikhathazeki i-psyche eyindoda.
Amadoda aneentloni
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Ukubhala okokuqala kuyinto eqhelekileyo
Kunzima ukufaka ukuba kufanele ukuba ngowokuqala ukubhala / ufowunele ngqo ukuba yintoni, kuba umntu ngokuyintloko yakhe ekufuneka woyise. Nangona kunjalo, le nkqubo ingqongqo ayithathelwa ingqalelo kukuba amadoda aneentloni, ahlazisayo, othintela ekumiseni ukunxibelelana nomntu obhinqileyo. Ke ngoko, umfazi unokufumana indima ekhokelayo kuye. Kodwa kuyimfuneko ukuba uyenze ngononophelo: ungatyhali kakhulu, kungenjalo le ndoda ibaleka nje.
Ukuba awukayifumani impendulo kumyalezo wakho, ungabhaleli okwesibini
Ke, waqokelela ngoMoya ukubhala ubuncinci kwisithunywa, kuba ungayibiza. Ngaphambi kokuba ubhale, cinga ngento oyifunayo ofuna ukufezekisa lo nxibelelwano: Ngaba ufuna nje "ukuPhemba" emva komhla wokuqala okanye ubhale umntu okokuqala? Nokuba kunjalo, ukuba awukayifumani impendulo, akufuneki kwakhona: Unikwe ukuba uqonde ukuba unxibelelwano ngesizathu esithile alinakuqhubeka. Ngapha koko, akusafuneki ukulinda "idini" lakho ukuba lifunde ngokunyanzelekileyo ukuba unyaniseke. Iya kukubonisa ngecala elibi.
Cinga malunga nokuba ngubani ohlala esenza inyathelo njengokuqunjelwa kweziphumo zakho
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Yeyokwenyani
Zininzi iitemplate zemiyalezo "kwimeko yothethathethwano olubalulekileyo" njalo njalo. Yile nto kufuneka uyiphephe, ungahlukanisi indalo ukuba iqabane lakho lingayiva ngaphezulu kweshumi elinambini amaxesha ebomini. Ngapha koko, imibuzo efana 'Kutheni ungabhali? "," Ngaba uyafuna ukubhala? " Ekuqaleni icebo eliphumelelayo. Ngala mabinzana onika isithembiso esinobundlobongela sokuba ndifuna ukungahoyi ngamandla amakhulu. Akukho nto imbi ukuba ubuza nje "unjani?" -Indlela elungileyo yokuqalisa incoko kwinqaku elingathathi cala.
Uhlala ubonakalisa njani inyathelo lokuqala?
Hlalutya imeko yakho: Kutheni le nto unxibelelwano lwakho luqale, owenza ukuba umntu oqeqeshiweyo aphuma ebomini, owayesebenza ngakumbi. Ukuba impendulo yakho ikuthabathele kuwe, kufuneka ucinge kakuhle apha, oko kunokukhokelela ekubeni baqale kwaye baguqukele kwinto engaphezulu. Eyona nto inokwenzeka, indoda ekuvumela ukuba ucombulule ngokupheleleyo yonke into ayinamdla ngokunxulumene nawe okanye uthanda ukuba umntu obhinqileyo ayonakalisi yonke into ukuba utshata, kuba kufuneka uthathe Uxanduva okwangoku kunye nomnye umntu. Ngaba uyayifuna?
Musa ukoyika ukuthatha inyathelo lokuqala
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