Kodwa ngamanye amaxesha ixesha lethu elidlulileyo okanye elidlulileyo lesiqingatha sesibini liyinxalenye yobomi, ekhoyo kunye nekamva-inyani yokuba akunakwenzeka ukuba urhoxise, awunakula.
Intetho malunga nabantwana. Ewe kunjalo, abantwana lukhuni, iintyatyambo zobomi, kodwa ngabazali babo, utatomkhulu. Inqaku. Uluhlu alupheli. Abantwana baqhubela phambili kuhlobo lwe-genus kunye necandelo elibalulekileyo losapho olomeleleyo. Iintsapho apho uTata noTata bahlala kunye kwaye ngovuyo.
Xa, kubudlelwane babazali, kukho isiphazamiso kwaye sifuna ukuphila ngakumbi, yintoni kunye, njengoko kulusizi ukuba, kodwa kwimeko enjalo, xa umntu efuna ukuba umntu Ukuqhawula umtshato nenxalenye, abantwana batshiswa. Ngenxa yokuba inkqubo yokwahlulahlula iyaphazanyiswa - kuba incinci, kuba iya kuba nexhala lokuziphatha kwengqondo, ngenxa yokuthuthuzelwa kwesiqhelo kunye nokuthuthuzelwa kwengqondo, kubazali abaphilayo, ngothando. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, umntwana akayi kuqhatha.
Intlalo-ntle yangaphandle ayizukufihla imifuno kunye nemeko encancisayo. Ngokuqinisekileyo umntwana uya kuvakalelwa ukuba kukho into engalunganga. Ewe, ngokubanzi, kungekudala, abazali baya kuyahlukana. Iya kuqhutywa, kodwa oku akwanele. Kwezinye iimeko, iphupha langaphambili eliphuphayo lingazange libone, kodwa umntwana okanye abantwana bahlala bengumfundi, ke ngabazali abangakhathaliyo abangakhathaliyo, kuya kufuneka babonakale kwaye banxibelelane nomthwalo we I-voltage kunye nokucaphuka-umntu omdala onqabileyo kwimeko efanayo, yena) waye (yayi) umqalisi woqhawulo-mtshato - ukuze aqhubeke nomntwana ongathathi cala kwezopolitiko Omnye umzali. Ngokwesiqhelo uthando olugwenxa kunye nethemba elingafakwanga, ithemba elingafakwanga libonakaliswa ngeyona ndlela iqaqambileyo, kwaye umntwana emamela yonke ingxelo engakhethiyo ngotata wabo okanye ngomama wabo.
Ewe, abantwana banombono wabo, uthando okanye abathandiyo nangona yonke into axelelwayo, kodwa, njengoko wonke umntu esaziyo, amanzi kunye namatye abukhali. Ke, ukuthuka kunye nokukhupha okukhulu kwabazali kwabanye phambi komntwana, iinzwane zakhe zomile, zijongela phantsi uzinzo lwengqondo kwaye lolona thando lukhulu luqale ukuva. Kwaye ezona ndawo zisondeleyo, ezona zibiza kakhulu umntu, waba ziintshaba zakhe. Inye-kuba kuyinto evuyisa imithambo yomntwana, yesibini, kuba wayefuna ukonwaba ngakumbi, eshiya naphi na, okanye kwenye usapho.
Ngubani ofanelekileyo, ngubani omele abeke ityala nento ekufuneka yenziwe? Ukulunga nakwikamva kuya kuba netyala kumntwana owayeza umzali ozama ukumisela umntwana nxamnye noyise okanye ngunina. Abantu abadala kufuneka baqonde ukuba, ngelishwa, uthando ngamanye amaxesha luyadlula kwaye ukuba isiqingatha sesibini sifuna ukuhamba, unelungelo elipheleleyo. Kule meko, kuye (yena) kufuneka akhululwe, axole kwaye aqalise ubomi obutsha, mhlawumbi zama ukuphinda uthandane kwakhona. Abantwana abadibeneyo abanakubekwa ityala. Banelungelo lokunxibelelana nabazali bobabini kwaye kuhle, ukuba umzali oshiyele ngokunyaniseka efuna ukunxibelelana nabantwana bakhe, ukuba nenxaxheba kwimfundo, nceda.
Okubi okubi okubi kakhulu ukuba iqabane okanye iqabane, lishiya usapho, liphose nabantwana. Ewe, ngamanye amaxesha abo baphosa nzima ukubona kwaye banxibelelane nengqumbo okanye iimvakalelo ezingadlulanga. Ke ngoku? Niyabantu abadala-uya kuphatha. Kwaye ukuba ndiyaxolisa kwaye uyakuqonda ukuba kutheni yonke into yenzekile, emva koko isiphelo ngokuqinisekileyo siya kukunika ithuba lokuphinda uthando kwaye lufumane ulonwabo.
Kwaye isisidenge ukucinga ukuba awudingi mntu nabantwana ezingalweni zakho. Ewe, okanye nabani na wonke umntu akwazi ukuthatha uxanduva - ngumntu onamandla kwaye onesibindi, kodwa emva kwayo yonke loo nto, kufuneka nje ukuthoba umntu obekade engubani na (kuye), Mandincedise ekukhuliseni abantwana abakhuselayo kwaye ndilungele intlanganiso nomntu onokwakha ubudlelwane obutsha kwaye ndenze usapho olutsha.