Kodwa kungekudala, umntwana okhuthaza inkululeko uya kuhlala. Ke ngoko, kuyimfuneko ukwenza imithetho ebhalwe ngokucacileyo indlela yokuziphatha kwayo kwangaphambili, kuba ukhuseleko lwayo kunye nokuzolile kuxhomekeke kubo.
Uninzi luphikisana ngokuba mdala kangakanani umntwana ekhaya. Ukuphendula ngokungazi kakuhle lo mbuzo akunakwenzeka. Umntu ngaphandle kweengxaki unokushiya umntwana oneminyaka emibini ixesha elide, kwaye umntu kunye nomntwana oneminyaka esibhozo ubudala abashiyanga mzuzu umzuzu.
Iingcali zengqondo zabantwana zikholelwa ukuba ezona zinto zininzi sele zinokuqaliswa ngumntwana ukuba zihambe ukuya kwiminyaka ukuya emihlanu. Malunga nobudala, abantwana sele besazi kakuhle into "engenakwenzeka" "kwaye yazi ukuba kutheni. Ukongeza, kweli xesha, umntwana uyakwazi ukuqaphela ngokupheleleyo yonke into omcacisayo, ufezekisa yonke imiyalelo yakho kwaye usebenzise ifowuni ephathekayo. Nangona kunjalo, kunjalo, kunjalo ukuba iminyaka emihlanu ngumgangatho ongumzekelo. Kule meko, okuninzi kuxhomekeke kwiimpawu zomntwana-ukusuka kwisimo, izakhono, ubushushu. Abazali abanenzondelelo nabasengqiqweni banokwazi ngokulula "eli lixesha". Kodwa umntwana ongaphantsi kweminyaka emihlanu yakheleka endlwini enye, engazange imile, nokuba imeko ebezibonakala njani kwinkohliso, kwaye umntwana udidekile nakweyiphi na imeko engaqhelekanga.
Ukwenzela ukumisela inqanaba lenkululeko losana, uJlady.ru oosomashishini bovavanyo lwengqondo, apho zonke iimpendulo ezilungileyo zibonisa umntwana:
1. Ngaba umntwana angadlala ngaphezu kweeyure ezimbini ngokulandelelana ngaphandle kokuphazamiseka?
2. Umntwana wakho akasamoyiki izithuba ezivaliweyo kunye nezakhiwo ezimnyama?
3. Umntwana uyayiqonda intsingiselo yegama elithi "ayinakwenzeka" kunye neziphumo ezinokubakho?
4. Umntwana wakho unokuyisebenzisa ngokuzithemba ifowuni kwaye uyazi ukuba uza kukubiza njani?
5. Umntwana sele enomsebenzi wakhe aze andivumi?
6. Umntwana unamathela kwinkqubo ethile yemini ngokuzimela?
7. Umntwana uyazi ukuba kwaye njani ukuba babize i-fireffici, i-ambulensi kunye namapolisa?
8. Umntwana ufuna uncedo kubamelwane?
9. Umntwana uyaqonda ukuba kutheni ngamanye amaxesha kufuneka ahlale yedwa ekhaya?
10. Umntwana ngokwakhe ujonga umnqweno, okanye ungabi naluthi nxamnye nalo?
Ukuba, ngokoluvo lwakho, umntwana wafakwa nenhlama, ke kufuneka ukuba uqalise ukulungiselela ukuba ahlale eyedwa ekhaya.
Apha sifuna ukuphumelela. Sukwenza oko ngokuzenzekelayo, ngaphandle kokuyilungisa kwangaphambili. Kwaye zilungiselele inyani yokuba lo msebenzi uza kuthatha ixesha elininzi. Nangona kunjalo, musa ukucaphuka - khumbula ukuba ukulungiselela okungakumbi kuya kuba lixesha lokuqala, kwaye xa umntwana eqhubeka eqhele ukuhlala ekhaya, iya kujika ibe yinto ekhutshiweyo.
Into yokuqala neyona nto ibalulekileyo kukuba abazali bathathe inyameko- olu lukhuseleko olupheleleyo lwe-chad yabo. Ngelishwa, abazali abaninzi bakholelwa ngempazamo ukuba umntwana wabo ngumntu omdala ukuba aqonde zonke iingozi azisongela, ngenxa yoko akazukuchukumisa imikhosi, isikere, umdlalo kunye ne-SCISSORS.
Ewe kunjalo, abazali kufuneka ngokuqinisekileyo bachaze emntwaneni kunale okanye enye kuyingozi. Veza umntwana ukuba isikhafu, isikere okanye inaliti inokwenzakalisa - weba umntwana kancinane emntwaneni ukuze azive kuye. Veza loo rhasi, umdlalo kunye nokukhanya kunokukhokelela emlilweni kwaye kutsha, ndixelele ukuba amayeza kunye neekhemikhali zamakhaya angakhokelela kwityhefu eqinileyo kunye nokugula. Ngapha koko, unokufumana iividiyo ezifanelekileyo kwi-Intanethi, eya kuba yimifanekiso eqaqambileyo kumabali akho malunga nengozi. Kodwa iividiyo kufuneka zithathe ngokucocekileyo - akuyimfuneko ukwenzakalisa iidrato zabantwana ezikhawulezayo. Qiniseka ukuba uqiniseke ukuba umntwana uyakuqonda kakuhle-mayitsho onke amazwi akho ngaphandle, kwaye kungakhethi ukuba akukho namnye okanye kabini. Kwaye emva koko phinda rhoqo nomntwana wakho.
Kodwa ayisiyiyo yonke loo nto. Ukuqinisekisa ukuba umntwana wakho ufunde kakuhle yonke into kakuhle, uqokelele zonke izinto ezinokubakho okungenani kuye, kwaye uzifihle ngokuthembekileyo. Intsha. Njengoko besitshoyo, UThixo usibalekile.
Ngapha koko, yenza uluhlu lwento yonke enokumela ingozi emntwaneni. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, nokuba ngoyena uqhelekileyo, ekuqalekeni kokuqala, i-kettile yombane inokubangela ukuba ukutshiswa okukhulisayo ukuba umntwana akayibambi ezandleni zakhe. Ke ngoko, yisuse kwaye uthenge i-thermos, apho ungashiya umntwana ngamanzi afudumeleyo amaqondo obushushu afunekayo.
Ngokuqinisekileyo umntwana wakho uya kufuna ukubukela i-tv-qiniseka ukuba ukwimeko elungileyo, kwaye i-wiring ayiguquki ekungabikho kwakho, kwaye umntwana wakho akazukukhwela okwenzekileyo apho. Ukongeza, ungaze ushiye naziphi na izixhobo zekhaya ezifakiweyo. Ngendlela, i-wiring nombane xa ndisonke: Phambi kokuba uhambe umntwana, kufuneka uqiniseke ukuba kunokwenzeka ukubakho kwesekethe emfutshane.
Ayinqweneleki ngaphandle kwesidingo esikhulu sokushiya umntwana ekhaya enye ebumnyameni. Ngelishwa, ukunqunyulwa kombane ngokuhlwa - intlekile ixhaphake kakhulu. Kwaye nawuphi na umntwana ohleli ngeli xesha uwedwa, onokoyika kakhulu. Ngapha koko, kwanomntu okhulileyo kwimizuzwana yokuqala awayi kuba ngokwako. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba unezizathu ezifanelekileyo zokushiya umntwana, mnike umthombo wokukhanya. Ayithanga ingathethi, ayifanelanga ukuba yikhandlela, kodwa isibane. Nangona kunjalo, isayilungele into yokuba kwimeko enjalo, umntwana usenokuba woyika kakhulu kwaye kuya kufuneka undwendwele ugqirha wezengqondo, sukuma ungamki mntwana ngokuhlwa nobusuku, ulele, kuba yena Ungavuka.
Xa uceba ukumshiya umntwana, yiza nomsebenzi onomdla wokwenyani. Ungamthenga i-disc ngekhathuni, ebefuna ukubona imibala emitsha ngepensile, iipuzzle. Gxila kumntwana wakho uthanda! Eyona nto iphambili kukuba umntwana enze ntoni xa ungekho, kuba xa enesithukuthezi, angaqalisa ukuzijonga. Kwaye akukho siqinisekiso sale nto, uya kufumana into efanelekileyo, kwaye ingabi nasiphako okanye imbi kakhulu, iyazenzakalisa, hayi.
Ingqwalaselo ekhethekileyo kufuneka ihlawulwe kwiifowuni. Iingcali zengqondo zabantwana zicebisa kubazali ngaphambi kokuba bahambe banqunyulwe ifowuni yasekhaya, baze bathenge umntwana osemphefumlweni. Bacacisa icebiso labo kuphela - kuphela unokufowunela ukuba babize, kwaye abafowunelwa bongezelelweyo kwifowuni yeSixeko, ngakumbi xa umntwana esekhaya yedwa, akadingi. Ukuba akukho mathuba, awusoze uxele umntwana kuye nabani na kwifowuni ukuba akukho bantu badala. Ngobulumko obuninzi baya kuba, ukuba uyaphendula uMama ngoku oxakekile kwaye abuyele emva kwexesha elincinci. Kwaye ungalibali ukubiza umntwana rhoqo kangangoko kunokwenzeka. Okokuqala, zama ukubiza umntwana ngalo lonke ithuba, kodwa ubuncinci amaxesha amane ngeyure. Mxelele ngento oyenzayo ngeloxesha, ndixelele ukuba uyaphoswa kwaye uzame ukubuyela ekhaya ngokukhawuleza.
Ngokungqongqo useto lomntwana kungekuphela nje ukuvula umnyango, kodwa naye uye kuye. Mxelele ukuba wonke umntu ngaphandle kwamalungu osapho anezitshixo kwaye aya kuba nakho ukufika ekhaya ngaphandle kweengxaki.
Kwaye khumbula ukuba umntwana usoyika ukuhlala wedwa, akakulungelanga okwangoku. Akukho sidingo sokukhawuleza! Yima kancinci!
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