Ukuzola, ukuvumelana, uzinzo kunye nophuhliso oluhlanganisiweyo aluqondi kakuhle ubudlelwane bakho? Kwindibano yemanyano, umzali okanye umhlobo, uziva unexhala, umnqweno wokuzithethelela, ucele uxolo, nceda ungakhubekisi? Sivuyisana, ulixhoba lobuntu obunetyhefu, obizwa ngokuba yimphengululi, okanye umdlwenguli onomdla. Ivakala isoyikisa, kwaye kuyinyani.
Umzimba omkhulu weminyaka yakutshanje kuluntu lwethu luye lwamkeleka ngakumbi, lungabonakala ngathi le nyaniso: Ixabiso elihlala liyibali le-MORDE, kunye noxinzelelo lwengqondo luya kutshintsha kakhulu ubuntu bethu. La awona magama akhwazayo, kodwa olona loyiso, kuba kude kutshanje, nokuba ukubethwa kwiqabane kwakujongwa njengokwamkelwa "ngokukhumbula okungenani amazwi athi:" Khumbula okungena " umfazi ngegolide. Ukuba isibongozo somntu samkelwa njengeso sithuba ukuya kuthi ga ngoku, kuthetha ntoni ngokuthuka, ukuthotywa kunye nobundlobongela beemvakalelo, ezingashiyini "izinto" zemvakalelo? I-ALOS, kodwa iindlela ezingezizo zomzimba zokulawula kunye nefuthe kwiqabane azikajongwa njengento eyoyikisayo. "Cinga, ukukhwaza, eyona nto iphambili ayikhathazeki," uhlala enomona kwaye wayengonwabanga, "uhlala egxeka, kodwa kucacile, ndingatsho Yiba ngcono "-yinxalenye yekoteyishini kuphela evela kumaxhoba eentshaba ezibizwa ngokuba ngabaxhaphazi (ukusuka ekuhlaselweni kwesiNgesi -" isibheno "senkohlakalo"). Ndikhawuleze ukukuphoxeka: akukho ziimvakalelo ezinkulu apha kwaye azihoyi. Ke kutheni le nto sicinga ngenye indlela, asiboni okanye singavumi ukubona into yokuba singamaxhoba? Sikuqonda!
1. I-rushes
Ukuba iqabane lakho, umntu osebenza naye okanye umzali uhlala evumela ingxelo engafakwanga kunye neziqhulo ezinqabileyo kwidilesi yakho - isilumkiso! Oku kunokuba ngumnxeba wokuqala.
2. Ulawulo
Umnqweno wokugcina isandla sakho kwipulse kwaye uhlala ulawula, izenzo zakho, izisombululo, uhlahlo-lwabiwo mali luphawu oluqhelekileyo lwe-aduzer. Sukungalungisi: ayikhathali, kodwa imfuneko ebuhlungu kuphela yokungaphantsi.
3. Kubanda
Ingxabano yakho ifana ne-Classian Kalian Chicalian Chicalian, kwaye ihlaselo lomona-ngamanye amaxesha lothuke, kodwa kungenjalo iqabane lakho lihlala livakile kwaye lingafikeleleki, ngaphandle kovelwano nemfesane.
Ubundlobongela abusoloko buyimbali malunga nefuthe lomzimba, amagama amanxeba, kunye noxinzelelo lwengqondo luya kutshintsha kakhulu isazisi sethu
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Ithiyetha yeDatha
Okokuqala, kuyimfuneko ukuqonda ukuba ngoobani, sele ebizwa ngokuba ngabaxhaphazi. Azikhoboka lezinto ezibiziweyo ezibizwa ngokuba yityhefu-ubukho bezithuthi ezinjalo ebomini bethu bokoqobo ityhefu. Kwaye okokuqala, impembelelo enjalo ayisebenzi, ke inqanaba lomdlalo onyukayo, kwaye xa uqonda ukuba kukho into engahambelani nesicwangciso, ukuphuma kwiinethiwekhi ze-absurger kwaye kunzima kakhulu.
Awu, kodwa abo baqhelisela ukucinezelwa kwengqondo kunye nenkohlakalo nxamnye nenkohlakalo, hayi kancinane. Ngapha koko, phantse iipesenti ezingama-pesenti zalowo uqhawulo mtshato owaqhawule umtshato waqonda ukuba waziva amaxhoba obundlobongela emtshatweni. Umxhaphazi unokuthi: umhlobo wakho, ummelwane, umhlobo osondeleyo okanye umyeni wakhe. Kwenzeka ntoni ukuba umntu oqhelekileyo ujika abe yingcuka kulusu lweegusha?
Abantu abathambekele kugonyamelo lweemvakalelo, phantse ipesenti ikhulu elakhe lalisinda. Eyona nto inokwenzeka, ebuntwaneni, xa abazali, endaweni yokuba bengumthombo wonqabiseko, kusasaza ukungazithembi komntwana amandla abo, ukungathembani koxolo kunye nokuvuma. Ukuba ngumntu omdala, umntu onjalo akanako ukoyisa i-neurosis yakhe kunye nezinto ezinzima, uloyiko kunye nobukrwada ziya kumba, ujonge indlela yokuphuma. Ngokwesiqhelo kukho ezimbini-okanye zi-autiagity, oko kukuthi, iintshukumo ezonakalisayo ezijolise kuzo, okanye ukuhlasela kwabanye, zihlala zibona bantu basondeleyo. Rhoqo, amaxhoba abazali abanetyhefu, abantwana abakhulileyo, jika ityhefu yabo ngokuchasene nabo.
Ebudlelwaneni, iimvakalelo ezivaliweyo zivaliwe ngokweemvakalelo, zisuswe, azikulungelanga ukuthetha, ukuza kudibana. Nawuphi na umzamo wokuseka unxibelelwano, bamisa ibinzana elicekisekayo ("musa ukundenza i-brains" - yenye yezona zinto ziqondakalayo). Babonakala bengakhathali kwaye kubanda xa kuziwa kwinkxaso yeemvakalelo kwiimeko ezinzima. Kunzima kubo ukubonisa uvelwano, ukusondela nje ukuziva iimpazamo zabo. Ngamnye, banesizathu esihle, kwaye nayiphi na imisebenzi yabo iya kuchaza ngokulula. Ukuhlukumeza ukuxhatshazwa akusayi kubakho-ngaphandle kwamagama.
Zonke iindlela zilungile
Uburharha bubonakaliswe njani ngokunxulumene nabanye? Khumbula, mhlawumbi kwindalo yakho kukho umntu ongenguye umntu - hayi uEwe kwaye wabiza intamo yemvakalelo. Emva kokunxibelelana naye, kwanethuba elifutshane, uyakuchaza imeko, inzondelelo kunye nesimo sengqondo esifanelekileyo sinyamalala, imvakalelo yokungaqiniseki kwimikhosi yakho ivela. Ewe kunjalo, akukho "vampirism" apha kwaye ayiphunga- phambi kwethu "iithonki" eziqhelekileyo, ezazimangalisa ukuba zikubethelelene ixhala kunye nokuthandabuza. Nangona kunjalo, oko kufuziselwe ukubiza indoda enjalo ngengcinezelo yegazi.
I-Abeasers ineendawo zawo zokwamkela kunye neendlela ezikuvumela ukuba ulawule. Yonke into yakhiwe kwintshabalalo yokuzithemba kwakho kwaye ilususe ukholo ngamandla akho. Kwaye apha unokwenza isiphelo esisengqiqweni: Umntu onesibindi, eme ngokuqinileyo emilenzeni, wazi kakuhle yonke into malunga nemida yakhe nakwimigaqo yakhe, kunqabile ukuba lixhoba lokuphathwa gadalala. Veza kuphela kwisikhokelo sakho semozulu yemozulu, uyeka amanyathelo anjalo kwingcambu. I-ALOS, kodwa zinempilo zinempilo ngokupheleleyo yabantu phantse akaze yenzeke, kuba sonke sithile kwiqela elinomngcipheko.
Ke, siphendukela kwizenzo ezithile ezenziwa ngamaqabane anetyhefu. Kunzima kakhulu kuyo ukuze ndilinde indumiso- zombini isesikweni neyokwenyani. Unokuqengqeleka ezintabeni, ube yintshatsheli yeOlimpiki kwaye unexesha lokulungiselela isidlo esikhulu sangokuhlwa esikhulu, kodwa ukungasebenzi gadalala kunye neempawu ezingapheliyo aziyi kuziphathe- kwaye oku kungcono. Ngokwesiqhelo impumelelo yakho, uloyiso kunye nezinto eziphunyeziweyo ziyagculelwa, ukhetho lobungcali luyaliwa, kwaye amaphulo agxekwa kwi-Fluff nothuli. "Ewe, ngubani ngoku obaphatha abantu, ufuna ukuhlala ucinga ntoni?", "Cinga ukuba, umphathi ophambili wenkampani, uthandana ne-villay nge-grenade" - inxalenye yesandla esiqhelekileyo se-piredist.
Ulawulo olukuwe yeyona njongo iphambili ye-aduzer
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Ukulungisa iimpikiswano zakho nangasiphi na izimvo zakho kunye nezigwebo. Ngaphezu koko, i-absurr ihleka nje kuwe (ndityholwa ngobubele, ehlekisayo, kodwa ndinokuhlala ndisiya nokungakhathaleli izicelo zokuyeka). Ukuba ukhubekisiwe, ngokuqinisekileyo uya kufumana umvuzo wemvakalelo embi kwaye uphendula kakhulu. Ngokwendoda enetyhefu, akanakuba uphosakele, kwaye ngenxa yoko awuphoxe. Ngendlela, ukuba uzama ukugculela kunye naye ngokuphendula, uya kufumana i-avanche yomsindo kunye nokungahloniphi. Siyathembisa: ixanda ngokubuyiselwa kwesidima esikhubekisiweyo sinikiwe.
Ukuba impumelelo yakho yoMdlwenguli iyayityeshela, ke ezo mpazamo ziya kwamkelwa ngabo kwaye ziya kuba ngumzekeliso ebantwini. Akukho zinkcukacha ziya kuphoswa ngumxhaphazi lowo-yonke into eza kugcinwa kuzo zonke iinkcukacha kunye netrafini.
Konke oku kukugculelwa, iziqhulo, ukudelela, kunye nokungakhathaleli ngokusisigxina- ngokukhawuleza okanye kamva kuya kukhokelela kwinto yokuba ukuzithemba kwakho kuya kuqala ukuwa ngokukhawuleza. Ngamaxesha athile, uyakuyeka ukukholelwa oko, ukusebenza ngemisebenzi emithathu, ebandakanyeka ebantwaneni kunye neNdlu, ukuzixhasa kwimilo kwaye kuyazama ukunxulumana ne-tox engapheliyo, yenza into ekhethekileyo. "Akukho nto yokuba neqhayiya ngawe, wonke umntu uyamelana nale ..." - owona myalezo uphambili womdlwenguli, ngoncedo oluqalayo ukuba lulawule ngempumelelo nobomi bakho.
Ngendlela, ukulawula wena yeyona njongo iphambili ye-aduzer. Indoda eyayinengxaki yokuzithemba engaphantsi komhlaba isetyenziselwe ngokulula kwaye ngenxa yokuba emva kwezi zicoci zingentla, umdlwenguli weemvakalelo "zibandakanya" i-artillery enzima. Umzekelo, iqabane linokuqala ukulawula imali yakho, imfuno yemfuno yokunika ingxelo ngemali echithwe, igxeke ukhetho lwakho lweempahla okanye iimveliso, olujonga ukuba uvumela kakhulu ukuba uvumeleke (funda "awufanelekisi. Izigqibo Ezithathiweyo Ngaphandle kolwazi lwakhe kunye nokuvunywa kuya kuba phantsi kokuthintelwa, kwaye uya kuba netyala ngokungahloniphi. Ke, kuya kufuneka ulungelelanise neqabane elinjalo uhambo lokuya kwi-cinema, kwi-cafe eneentombi, nkqu nakwivenkile. Nabani na wezenzo zakho ozimeleyo unokugqalwa njengesenzo sokungathobeli-kwaye uya kuba sisizathu sokwenza ukuba ungalunganga. Ngokubanzi, iilebheli ezixhonyiwe, zincama imidlalo kunye nemizamo yokuzikhethela imvakalelo engapheliyo yetyala - abamakishi abaqaqambileyo apho bakufumanisa khona ukungabikho komtshato. Enye into oyiphawulekayo kukungasebenzi okanye ukuthanda ukuthandabuza ukucela ukuxolelwa. Soze. Ungaze Nam ke Ngaphandle kokuba enye: Xa umdlwenguli evakalelwa kukuba uvele kwi-hugs yayo yokuthenga.
Ngamanye amagama, ndifuna ukukhankanya indlela yeklasi esetyenziswa ngabantu abanetyhefu, obizwa ngokuba yigesi. Eli gama lafika kwi-psychology kwi-cinema: Kwifilimu "ukukhanya kwegesi" yowe-1945, kuhle umlindi, ukuba ingumntu ongumntu, ngobuchule, chaza ukuba uziva uphambene. Ngokwenyani, oku kubandakanya ityiwa yeendlela. Iqabane elinobukrakra liyalivuyisa iimvakalelo zakho kunye namava akho, ndinyanzele ukuba ndithandabuze ubunyani bazo. "Kubonakala ngathi", "Zonke izinto uzenzekile, oku akuzange kubekho!", "Ndiye ndakhwaza,", "ndivutha" , "Uyathanda ukugqithisela", "Ewe Ewe, akukho nto ibaluleke kakhulu" - ukuba uyawava ezi binzana okanye amabinzana avela emntwini wakho, lumka, kukho isizathu sokucinga ukuba bayakuthuthuzela. Ukukhanya kwegesi yenye yezona ndlela zingabonakaliyo, kodwa ezonakalisayo kwi-arsenal ye-ABUZER. Ukuba uhlala uthandabuza ngezenzo zakho kunye namagama, uyoyika ukwenza izigqibo, veza iimvakalelo, ucela uxolo, ngokuvakala, izakhono zizukiswa.
Ingqondo-inyathelo lokuphiliswa
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Kukho ukuphuma
Ungaba njani ukuba ufumene wena embindini wobudlelwane obuthile? Akulula ukwaphula umanyano oluyityhefu, kuba idini ngokuqinisekileyo liyimfuneko kumsindo. Akukho mntu uza kukuvumela ukuba uhambe nehlabathi, kwaye apha zimbini iindlela.
Ukuba uyaqonda ukuba ilungu lomxhaphazi kwinqanaba lokuqala lo nxibelelwano kwaye usenamandla engqondo kunye nokholo kuwe, ungazama ukugqibezela ubudlelwane. Zilungiselele ii-chasters, umona, ukhuphelo lwenyama, izithembiso zothando kwibhokisi, imizamo yokudlala kwimvakalelo yetyala kunye nemfesane. Umdli ongumntu oqonda ixabiso lokuncamathisela kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo uya kusebenzisa olu lwazi ngakuwe.
Ukuba akukho mandla, akukho mnqweno, akukho thuba lokugcwalisa ubudlelwane nobuphathi, iqabane elinetyhefu ngumzali okanye umntwana wakho, kufuneka wenze amanyathelo aliqela. Thatha umthetho kanye ngeveki ukuze wenze into ngokwam, ngaphandle kokubeka iqabane elingacwangciswanga kwaye ungazithembi isigqibo sakhe. Sukuyiya malunga ne-tox ekukhunisweni, khumbula umdla wakho kunye namabhongo. Yazi ukuba akukho mntu uya kubandezeleka kwinto oyithethayo ngeminqweno yakho nemida yakho.
Ngendlela, malunga nemida, zisikhumbuze ngokwazo. Qonda ukuba akasamkelekanga kuwe ongayi kunyamezela ukuba kufuneka uyeke ngoku. Qhagamshela le nkcazelo kumxhaphazi kunye nolwazi ngeziphumo zokuhlangana kwemida yakho kunye nokuphula imithetho. Qiniseka ukuba uyayikhumbula inkxaso abanabahlobo abanokuba nayo, kunye namaqela oncedo lwengqondo. Kubalulekile ukuba wazi ukuba uyathanda kwaye uyayixabisa.
Sukuzama ukutshintsha umxhaphazi wakho. Into onokuthi uyenze ayisiyonto yokungenisa i-zungul kwaye imbonise enye imodeli yovavanyo. Kodwa ukondla ithemba lokuphiliswa komsindo ovuthayo alufanelanga- obu bubomi bakhe, kwaye awunaxanduva lwayo.
Kwaye okona kubaluleke kakhulu: kwingcambu inyanzela imvakalelo yokuba netyala phambi komoni. Akukho sizathu sobundlobongela kwindlela olwaluko unokugwetyelwa. Amaxhoba o-raid anengxaki yokukholelwa koko bakufaneleyo isimo sengqondo esithambileyo. Ngubani onokukuxelela, kufanelekile ukukhumbula ukuba ungumntu owodwa ubomi obomi kakhulu.
Ukuba umxhaphazi nguwe ...
Ukwamkelwa-inyathelo lokuphiliswa. Abantu banotyekelo lwe-monstaligical yengqondo ayisiyiyo i-Sonsters, hayi izilo, kunye nokuchaphazeleka kwengqondo, amaxhoba oxinzelelo, ubugxuwa nokungathandi. Zithabathe ngokwakho kunye neempawu zakho, zama ukukhumbula ukuba indlela yakho kadlwengulo yaqala.
Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuqala ukuhlalutya izenzo zakho, ukuzama ukuqonda ukuba yintoni i-trigger, oko kukuthi, okuphepha ubundlobongela. Zibuze imibuzo: Kuya kwenzeka ntoni ukuba awukhwazi / ukuthuka / i-ioine / vuka kwi-pose kuyakhubekisa? Isimo sengqondo esifanelekileyo sisitshixo sempumelelo.
Kuya kufuneka umamele amaxhoba akho ngaphandle kwalo naluphi na "kodwa", ulungelelaniso kunye nokucaciswa kobudlelwane. Umsebenzi wakho kukuma endaweni yomntu obandezeleka kwinkohlakalo yakho, kwaye uzame ukuziva kule ndawo. Kwaye kwakhona: Qiniseka ukuba ucela uxolo kwabo bakhubekileyo, njengawe. Kwaye uxolo!