1. Indumiso. Yenza izincomo. Thetha ukuba mhle kangakanani, ububele, smart, omeleleyo, unesisa. Ukuba oku akwenziwanga, unokuphulukana nayo yonke iminqweno yokuba yeyakho. Ithini into, ukuba awuxabisi? Ndivile kwenye yeentombi endithumezelayo umntu 'ukuba akwazi "ukuba ayeke" kwaye azikhulise kakhulu. Kodwa ndiyakuvumela ukuba ndingathandani ngokungavisisani- Ndiza kukuxelela ukuba akunakwenzeka ukuphatha.
2. Musa ukoyika ukubuza. Intanda ithandabuza xa ibuzwa. Kwaye enye enye yokubonisa amandla abo? Ukuba unazo zonke, umntu unokuziva engafunekiyo, kwaye akukho mntu ufuna ukungabinamsebenzi. Ewe kunjalo, ukuba sithetha kuphela ngezipho, indoda inokuthi irhane inqwelwana kwinqwelwana kulwalamano lwakho. Kuyimfuneko ukubuza ngokupheleleyo yonke into: Yithi, Nika ingcebiso, phakamisa into enzima, qinisa ingubo. Nokuba nezinto onokukwenza ngaphandle kwawo.
3. Abantu basoyika kakhulu izithintelo kwinkululeko yazo. Ukuba, umzekelo, isetyenziselwa ukudlala ibhola okanye ukunxibelelana nabahlobo ngeMigqibelo, kwaye uthi ngoku ngeMigqibelo uneenjongo onokuthenga iinjongo, ungoyike kakhulu. Ukuba uthatha isigqibo sokujoyina ubomi bakhe, kokwenza ngokuthe ngcembe: Buza xa kufanelekile ukuchitha ixesha kunye nawe, ndixelele ukuba ufuna ukuya kwenye indawo kwaye uhambe ngqo naye. Masenze inkululeko ephezulu, kwaye unokuthi: Ewe, baphi abahlobo bakho? Kwaye kutheni ungonwabanga? Ndikholelwe, ufuna ukuba nawe ngakumbi.
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4. Zama ukufumanisa imikhwa kunye nomnqweno womntu, kwaye uzisebenzele ngokuchanekileyo. Umzekelo, uyathanda ikofu ngaphandle kweswekile, emva koko kwikofu oyilungiselele, iswekile ayifanelanga ivele. Okanye akathandi xa ufowulwa ngokuqaqambileyo, kuthetha ukuba ayifanele ipeyintwe ngayo. Ukuba uyawuthanda umyalelo wendlu, kuya kufuneka ube nendlu ecocekileyo. Ngokubanzi, kuya kufuneka wazi iimfuno zabo kwaye ubavale.
5 Zama ukuba ngomnye, kodwa ingenguye iqabane. Sukuzama ukusombulula imibuzo yeshishini lakhe okanye umncede kule meko ongenakuthatha inxaxheba ngenkcazo. Kufuneka aqonde kwaye azi ukuba kulwalamano lwakho uyona nto iphambili, kodwa, ngokuhambelana noxanduva lwentlalo-ntle yakho kuyo. Abafazi abaninzi bagqiba kwelokuba le ndoda ingakwazi konke.
6. Soloko ukhumbula ukuba amadoda nabafazi bacinga ngokwahlukileyo. Kufanele ukuba ibe. Ke ngoko, yima njengeebhinqiwa. Sukucinga nokuthwala ibhegi enzima. Awunakho, kwaye kunjalo. Ukuba imoto yakho ihla, biza indoda yakho, mayisombulule ingxaki. Kwaye yonke le nto ngemvakalelo elungileyo. Ngokulula: "Sithandwa, kukho ingxaki enjalo, kufuneka isonjululwe. Andikwazi, uyazi. "
7. Amadoda makabe eqinile, ayifunile. Ngoku uninzi lwabasetyhini luyoyika ukucela into, ukubonisa ubuthathaka, kwaye le yimpazamo enkulu. Njengoko benditshilo, ukuba amadoda akabuzi kakhulu kwaye rhoqo, zimbini iindlela: umntu othile aza kucinga ukuba akakwaziyo kwaye ngaphandle kwento yonke into eyenye. Akayi kubona nje umfazi kuwe. Kwaye ukhetho lwesibini: Indoda iya kuphumla kwaye iyeke ukwenza into, kuba une-super-scung, enokufumana yonke into. Andicingi enye yezi ndlela ungazithandiyo. Ke ngoko, i-cilia entle kwaye iphindaphinda ibinzana: "Sithandwa, ungoyena unamandla, ndiyakholelwa kuwe. Uya kuphumelela. "