Ngelishwa, akukho mntu unokukunika isiqinisekiso sokuba eyona ntsapho iyonwabe kakhulu iya kuba nakho ukugcina ubudlelwane ixesha elide. Ngaphandle kobukho babantwana, esi sibini sinokuthatha isigqibo sokuya. Ngamaxesha athile, kuza ukuze bafumane umntwana onesiqingatha sakhe sesibini, uninzi lwenza ukuba oomama, ukusukela kwiimeko ezininzi emva koqhawulo-mtshato, umntwana uhlala enomama wakhe kunye nolwalamano oluhle kunye nolona phawu lubalulekileyo Uphahla olunye. Ke indlela yokwenza intlanganiso yokuqala yenzekile emntwaneni kwaye ilulungiselele ngobunono ukuba umama ngoku akangodwa? Sijongene nalo mba.
Ayinguye wonke umntu ofanelekileyo ukuthandana nomntwana
Akusoloko kulula ukufumana umntu wam, ngamanye amaxesha kuya kufuneka "uhambe" ngeendlela ezininzi, de ekugqibeleni undixelele: '"Apha!" Nje ukuba uyiqonda, lixesha lokufumana intanda yakho. Eyona nto imbi kakhulu onokuyenza kukufumana umntwana nomntu ngamnye: abantwana baqhele abantu ngokukhawuleza, kwaye ke indoda yakho eqhelekileyo iya kuyeka ukuya ekhaya, kuba babelungile . Akukho mfuneko yokuba unyange iimvakalelo zomntwana ngokuqinileyo kwaye cwangcisa intlanganiso kuphela xa uqinisekile ukuba uza kwenza ulwalamano lwexesha elide nalo ndoda.
Vumela owuthandayo kwiqela
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Walumkisa umntwana kwangaphambili
Ndikholelwe, umntwana wakho uya kudideka yimbonakalo yendoda endlwini, ke ngoko zama okungenani iintsuku ezimbalwa ukulumkisa umntwana ukuba uya kuba neendwendwe. Ungatsho ukuba uza kuza kuwe "utata omtsha", hayi, ndixelele ukuba lo ngumntu obalulekileyo kuwe. Kananjalo, akufuneki uthintele umntwana kwangaphambili ukuba akangenzi i-hoolligan kwaye azikhokelele ngokungapheliyo- awuzijonganga, kwaye uyabazi abo bantu babini babaluleke kakhulu kuwe. Xa uhlala kunye, umntwana uya kuba nzima ukuhlala esebenzisa ngokundileyo, kufuneka ulungele le nto kwaye ungcono ukuba uyayibona kwangaphambili ukuba le meko ilindele ntoni kwaye ilunge kakhulu iya kuwaxabisa amandla akhe.
Sukuzisa indoda ekhaya
Kwintlanganiso yokuqala, kungcono ukukhetha i-cafe chempe okanye uye kuwo wonke umntu umsitho, ubonelela ngemisebenzi eyahlukeneyo ukuze umntwana nomntu wakho akwazi ukunxibelelana naye. Ukhetho oluhle luza kuba ludidi lwenkosi okanye nayiphi na imidlalo yeselula apho kuya kufuneka intanda yakho imanyene kwiqela. Phambi kokuba le phulo, libuze kwangaphambili, apho umntwana wakho uya kukhetha ukuya kwaye enze indoda ngokhetho AYENZIWA NOKUTHENGA.
Abantwana bafunda imvakalelo yakho ngokugqibeleleyo
Ewe kunjalo, kwimeko enjalo njengoko umntu okhe wathandana okokuqala uya kuba nexhala kakhulu, nangona kunjalo, ukhumbule ukuba umntwana nangaliphi na iminyaka uyayazi indlela osabela ngayo. Ngenxa yobudala, kuya kuba nzima kuye ukuqonda ukuba yintoni ebangele ukuba aphile, kodwa onokuthi aqhagamshelane nomntu omtsha ngalo mhla. Awudingi mntwana wakho ukuba adibanise nendoda yakho ngento engeyiyo? Ke ngoko, zama ukuzigcina ezandleni zakho kwaye ungavumeli intando yeemvakalelo eziqhwithi, emva koko yonke into iza kudlula.