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Nangona kunjalo, ngamanye amaxesha uhlaselo lwabantwana lomelele kakhulu kangangokuba bazazisa abazali ukuba banciphise kwaye abanakuzola nje umntwana wabo. Yintoni onokuyenza kwiimeko ezinjalo? Indlela yokujongana nale meko? Masizame kwimizekelo yokuqonda le ngxaki kwaye sikhule ngeendlela ezininzi zokuzola umntwana.
Ke, into oyifunayo, kwaye akukho nto ayinakwenzeka e-histerics yabantwana.
Ukuba umntwana wagula ... ngokwemvelo, ukukhala kunokuba ngumqondiso wokugula. Ukuba umntwana ukhathazekile ngamazinyo, iindlebe, intloko okanye tummy, ngokuzithemba uya kukuxelela umthombo wentlungu. Kuyintoni kule meko ukunceda umntwana? Okokuqala, kufuneka uphelise izizathu zoxinzelelo lwakhe. Nokuba ungaziqondi kakuhle njani zonke iintlobo ze-SOSES, kungcono ukuba ubize ugqirha, kwaye ngaphambi kokuba ifike kuwo onke amandla ukulungiselela imeko ye-crumbs, ukuba inyukele umntwana, Mthobeleni.
Ngokwesiqhelo iimpawu ezibuhlungu zibonakaliswa luluhlu olupheleleyo lweempawu eziguqukayo, ubushushu okanye isicaphucaphu, urhudo, ukugabha. Kodwa ukuba akukho zimpawu zangaphandle, akufuneki uzityeshele izikhalazo zomntwana kwaye ucinge ukuba uyawulinganisa. Ngokwesiqhelo, abantwana beminyaka ye-preyCrial akanamsebenzi. Ke zama ukunyanga izikhalazo zakho zezempilo ngalo lonke ingqalelo yonke.
Ukuba umntwana wawa, wabetha, wenzakala ... umntwana unokukhala kwintlungu, ingqumbo okanye eyoyikisayo, kwaye kuyafuneka ukuba axhase. Kukho ubuchwepheshe obukhethekileyo kwengqondo, abantwana abanemfundo bajamelana neemvakalelo kwaye bakhawuleze bazolile xa bekhala. Ezi ndlela zahlukile kwiindlela zethu eziqhelekileyo zokuqinisekisa, kodwa zibanceda ngokufanelekileyo.
Ngoku makhe sicinge ngento ongayifuniyo ukwenza. Okokuqala, akufanelanga ukuba uthethe nomntwana ngelixa ekhala, kwaye nangakumbi ukuze akhulule okanye ayixele. Akufuneki uthi kuye "Hambani, ndiza kukusola," Okant kwaye uhlengahlengise ", njl. I-Gunny", njl. Okokuqala, iya kumnika umntwana ukuba afikelele kukhuseleko kunye nokuthenjwa kwakho. Okwesibini, vumela ukuba ujamelane nochulumanco kunye neemvakalelo zakho. Akunyanzelekanga ukuba udlulisele kumntwana wovuyo lwakhe kwigumbi lomzimba kunye ne-subnech, kufuneka umnike uxolo lwengqondo namandla. Ezi hugs zenza ukuba ikwazi ukuyiqonda ingxaki ngengqondo kwaye ayiyigcwalisile ngolwazi.
Sukubetha ngamanxeba, khawuleza uzame ukumnceda - ukuba kunjalo, akunjalo, hayi ukopha okanye ukwaphuka. Nge-chiske eqhelekileyo okanye i-abrasion, kubaluleke kakhulu ukunceda umntwana ngokwengqondo.
Akufanelanga ukuba ulahle ithoyi yomntwana okanye ipipi, uyitye njengomntwana. Ukuziphatha okunjalo kumnika isizathu sokutshintsha imeko kunye nokungena kwi-hssterics. Ngexesha elizayo umntwana awe, kwaye awuyibethile ngoloyiko lwakho, awuyi kuqalisa ukuncancisa kwaye ungashiyi, akanakuhlawula konke, kodwa uya kuhlangabezana nokuwa kwakhe. Uya kuphakama, anyuke, aqubude kuwe.
Okokuqala, hug mhle, ukumcinezela ngokuqinileyo kwaye edinisa kwindawo yokuwa okanye isigameko. Myeke avakalelwe ngumzimba wonke. Qala kakuhle kwaye uphefumla ngokunzulu, cinga ukuya kwishumi ngesantya esincinci. Uya kuqaphela ukuba ukuphefumla komntwana wakho, nokuba ulungelelanisa njani kwaye ubuyisela. KuBantwana, kwenzeka ngokungazi kwaye kubhetele- ukulungelelanisa umphefumlo phantsi komphefumlo womdala. Ungahamba nomphefumlo ngokukhanya okukhanya, imivumbo, ipateni-kwilizwi, ukufaka naluphi na ukhuthazo lwesikhumba se-Tectile. Kodwa zonke ezi ntshukumo zimele ukuba zilula kwaye zingathandeki, ukuze zingaphazamisi umntwana ekuqondisweni kwemeko. Sukuzama ukuphazamisa ukhalaza-abantwana, njengabantu abadala, ngamanye amaxesha kufuneka unikezele ngeemvakalelo ezineenyembezi. Unokuhlamba ngokulula okanye ucule ingoma ngaphandle kwamagama, ikwanceda ukuthambisa kwaye ukubuyisela ukuphefumla. Kwaye emva kokuba umntwana eqalisa ukuphefumla kwaye ayeke ukuphelisa imeko ngaphandle kwemeko ngaphandle kweemvakalelo: Ukubona ibali lokuwa kwakhe ngaphandle kweemvakalelo, ukugwetywa kunye nokuvavanywa. Umzekelo, "Uhambe, emgangathweni wabeka into yokudlala, ukhukhumeza malunga nokudlala, wawa."
Kwincopho yebali, umntwana, mhlawumbi, uya kuzama ukuphinda acaphuke, kodwa eli lilungelo lakhe - kufuneka aliphile kwaye aliqonde imeko, afunda nje ukuqaqamba.
I-hysteries zabantwana zihlasela ngokulila ngokukhala kunye nokucaphukisa imeko yemeko yokuqhwatywa kwemvakalelo. Le yindlela yokusebenzisana nabantu bomthonyama kubangelwe ngumsindo, ukucaphuka, ubundlobongela okanye ukuphelelwa lithemba. Ngaba esi sikhalothi sibaluleke kakhulu ukuzola abazali, njengokulimala kwaye ukuwa kulityelwe ngokukhawuleza ngokwaneleyo, kwaye ngenxa yezizathu ze-hysteria, umntwana wagxila ngokucacileyo. Ke ngoko, ayimfuneko ebalini ukuba inike iimeko okanye indlela yokuziphatha kovavanyo lomntwana nomgwebo. Akufanelanga ukuba umxelele into eyenzekileyo "Kungenxa yokuba uphose iithoyi", "Oku kungenxa yokuba woyika", njl.
Kwezi meko, akukho ngcebiso zingathandekiyo, kwimeko nganye kubalulekile ukufumana indlela yokuphuma kule meko. Kodwa zininzi iindlela zokuphumelela kootitshala nabazali abaninzi. NgeeHysteries kwiindawo ezixineneyo, iivenkile, kwisiza okanye izindlu zincedwe zizi ndlela zilandelayo:
Thatha ingqalelo yomntwana esibhakabhakeni, ibonisa ukuba kukho "inqwelomoya", ilifu okanye into engaqhelekanga, kunqweneleka ukuzama ukutsala kwabanye abantu abadala (bahlala bedlala). Iya kukunceda lula ukuba uphazamise umntwana kwinto ye-hysterical. Ingqwalaselo yabantu abadala, kwaye iqeqeshelwe i-quating, ivuselele kakhulu umdla kwaye uyeke i-hystester.
• Qalisa ukukhangela ifowuni okanye isiginali kumatshini, uzenza ngathi uyacula. Yazisa umntwana ukuba ufuna ukuphendula ngokungxamisekileyo, cima, uqhubeke ujonge emotweni, njl njl. Ndixelelwe kwifowuni, ndilinde wena ... " Okulandelayo-Gxila kwiimeko.
• Yenza umbono odandulukayo ngakumbi kunomntwana, kwaye kukukhathaza. Ngokwesiqhelo, abantwana bangxama ukuya kubazali abalile, balibele ngeengxaki zabo.
• Okanye, ngokuchaseneyo, qala ukucutha, thatha umntwana, wakhe ubuso, yenze ubumdaka, ngoku, nangayiphi na indlela, ngalo nangeyiphi na indlela, ngalo nangenzani ukuguqulela i-hysteria ehleka. Rhoqo le ndlela yobuchule inceda ootata, kuba banobuqhetseba kunye nomama ohlekisayo.
Kwaye ihlala inceda ekuthetheni nomntwana nomntu omdala, ndimcacisela yonke imeko njengoko injalo. Kuyimfuneko ukubetha nokukhwela umntwana - uninzi lwezihlazo zivela ekunqongopheni nasekuqwalaseleni, abantwana bazisebenzisa njengendlela yokutsala umdla wamama nopopu.
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