Ngaba ucinga ukuba imvakalelo yokungaqiniseki kubuchule babo inokuba liqabane labantu abaphumeleleyo? Iingcali zengqondo zibiza le phenomeno "i-sanonjius syndrome" - umntu akakwazi ukuvavanya impumelelo yakhe yobungcali, nokuba ungamfumani kangakanani na ukudunyiswa nokwamkelwa kwakhe. Ngandlel 'ithile, le meko inokuthelekiswa nokugqibelela, kodwa abathandi bokwenza yonke into "ngokugqibeleleyo" bahlala beqonda ukuba bazabalazela ntoni na kwaye bangenakuthi "abakholisi".
"Ngaba" zizalwa "" abaziingcali zonyango
Iingcali ziyavuma ukuba ukungaqiniseki kwalo naluphi na uhlobo lokunika ubuntu bethu kusebuntwaneni bakhe: abazali kunye nabanye abantu abadala, izinto ezinombono, banokuzithemba ngokupheleleyo, esinokuqikelela kunye nawe. Njengawe, ubukhulu becala, uqaphele, kwimidlalo eyahlukeneyo yokuyila kunye nezangqa zemidlalo, umbono wokuba ngcono kakhulu kunabanye - ngale ndlela xa umntwana ethe yasiphakamisa umnqweno we-tops, rhoqo. Isebenza kude nakumntwana wonke, kwaye ukuba umntu uza kutyhala kubomi be-elbows, emva koko omnye umntwana uya kujika abe ngumntu okwimpumelelo kuwo nawuphi na umntu ophumeleleyo, kodwa nakweli tyala Umntu akanakukwazi ukwamkela ngokupheleleyo isiphumo - abantu abane-syndrome banovelwano kakhulu ekugxekeni.
Ngaba kunokwenzeka ukuba ulwe nemeko ethintela ekwakheni umsebenzi obalaseleyo
Kunzima ukujongana nemeko yokungaqiniseki yobungcali. Ewe kunjalo, kungcono ukufumana iingcebiso zengcali eya kuhlalutya amaxesha amaninzi kunye nawe, othintela wena ukuba uzithathele ngokwakho, kwaye ungazama ukuqonda.
Funda ukwamkela impumelelo yakho
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Zivumele ngakumbi
Ngamnye wethu unempazamo, kufuneka aqonde kwaye ayamkele - akukho mntu uhlala esenza yonke into ngokugqibeleleyo. Nje ukuba uqonde ukuba ukugqibelela kukho kuphela entlokweni yakho, uya kuba semkhondo we "Ulungiso", oko kuyakuqonda ukuba umsebenzi kufuneka wenziwe okungenani, kodwa kwakhona Ukugxekwa okunzima kufuneka kuncitshiswe, kungenjalo uyabeka umngcipheko ukongeza kwi-insusunsunity yokukhulisa imeko ye-neurotic.
Musa ukoyika ukuba nesabelo kunye nabathandekayo
Akukho nto inceda amava elona xesha linzima lobomi njengabaxhasa abantu abasondeleyo. Nangona kunjalo, kubalulekile ukukhetha ukukhetha abantu abasondeleyo ekuqinisekeni, ngaphandle koko iingxaki zakho zinokuba yindawo kawonkewonke ukuba umntu unako ukungakwazi ukugcina ulwimi. Kodwa umhlobo osenyongweni ngumphulaphuli ogqibeleleyo. Cela intlanganiso kwaye wabelane naye ngamava, mhlawumbi umhlobo wakho uya kunika isiluleko esinokutshintsha ngokulupheleyo isimo sakho sengqondo sikwimeko. Nangona kunjalo, zama ngokungabinakho ukulayisha izithandwa zakho- yazi umlinganiso kuyo yonke into.
Rekhoda onke amaxesha amnandi
Iingcali zengqondo zihlala zisetyenziswa kakhulu kolu buchule, ezivumela ukuba zigxile kwizikolo zabo kwaye ziqonde. Khetha usuku xa ungafuneki ukhawulezile naphi na kwaye uhlale phantsi ukuze wenze uluhlu: Khumbula onke amaxesha abalulekileyo ebomini bakho, okhethekileyo, khetha impumelelo yobungcali. Ngamaxesha apho uzakukhusela amathandabuzo, hamba ngezi ndawo ze-sticters kwaye uya kuqaphela indlela imeko yokungaqiniseki eya kuthi kwangoko iqale ukuya ngasemva. Zama!