Indoda ihlala ingumntwana ukuba akukho nto ibaluleke ngaphezu kokuzonwabisa neethoyi zakhe. Ke ngoko, ngaphambi kokuba uzame ukudlulisela kwenye okanye enye into, kufuneka ugxile kwezi thoyili, ukubonakalisa umdla onyanisekileyo, cela ukuba umamele imibuzo, cela eminye imibuzo ngokunyaniseka, oyingozi ( Kuxhomekeka kwimeko). Ukuthetha ngento esondele kuye, ndiyazibuza ukuba yintoni ayiqondayo, kwaye, ndinomdla wokwenene, uyaphumla kwaye athabathe njengomntu osondeleyo emoyeni.
Mhlawumbi ayisiyonto emnandi, engasoyiki, kuba ayisoloko inomfazi oya kuthi, afuna ukuthetha kwaye nangakumbi ukwakha ubudlelwane. Ewe, kwaye asisoloko sifuna umntu ukuba asenze silele. Eyona nto iphambili kukuba unaye kumaza afanayo, kwaye walungisa i-crane ngaphandle kwefenitshala, iphinde iphinde iphinde ifenitshala okanye inyibilikiswe kwimoto enekhephu.
Ukuba ufuna ukunikela ingqalelo ebantwini, kuba uyakuthanda nje, kufuneka, kufuneka ukhumbule ukuba le ndoda ngumntwana ofuna ukwamkelwa, uthando nenkathalo. Funa ukukholisa-yizise zonke ubushushu bakho, ububele kunye nobubele kuyo. Eyona nto iphambili kukungafuni kwaye ungabili. Nabantwana abangayithandi le nto. Ilizwi elithambileyo kunye noncumo olufudumeleyo oluqinisekiswe ukuba uthwala ingqalelo yakhe, kwaye ukulungela ukumamela ngononophelo, uya kuba nombulelo kakhulu kuwe. Kwinyani yokuba ukuba uyathetha, unokufunda ulwazi oluninzi oluluncedo ngawe.
Kwenzeka ukuba ukuqonda okuzimeleyo kulahlekile ngababini ebekuhlala kunye ixesha elide. Ukuphila ixesha elide, abantu abazokuthandayo bayalisebenzisa, basuka komnye nomnye kwaye ukuba abathethi ngexesha - baya kuba bebodwa. Abantu abahlala kuphela komkhwa. Ukuthintela oku, kufuneka utshintshe ixesha lokuziphatha. Kwaye, amaxesha ngamaxesha, tshintsha iinwele, indlela yempahla yokunxiba, lungiselela izitya ezitsha, yenza imvume yefanitshala, hlaziya izigqibo zekhaya okanye ngokulandela ulungiso oluyindawo yokuhlala. Kwaye kuzo zonke ezi ziganeko zibandakanya iqabane labo, kungekuphela nje njengombhakisi, kodwa njengomntu othi, kwithiyori, ayenzeka, kwenzeka ntoni kumfazi okanye indlu yakhe. Nokuba sele ugqibe kwelokuba yonke into, kufuneka ucetyiswe ukuba unxibelelane neqabane lakho, ngamanye amaxesha ucele isigqibo esithile, umzekelo, apho abantwana bakhe baya kufunda khona, apho uza kuphelela khona ehlotyeni t. d. mphulaphule kwaye uphulaphule. Kuya kufuneka avakalelwe kukubandezeleka kwakhe, imfuneko kunye nentembeko ayisiyo kuphela, kwaye ingabi kakhulu, ngenxa yokuba yonke into okanye ihlawule, kuba ixabisekile, kuba eyindoda. Ngaphandle koko, ukungabi nangqondo kuya kuphulukana kuphela, kodwa nendoda ngokwakhe. Kwaye oku akunakuvunyelwa, ngaba yinyani?