Nokuba umthanda njani umntwana, kufanelekile ukuba uvumele umntwana wakho. Rhoqo, abazali bayangxama ngokugqithileyo: Abanye bacinezela ngokupheleleyo intando yendoda, abanye baphantse bahlakulele unyana okanye intombi yabo.
Musa ukubeka umntwana kwiNtloko yoSapho
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Ungayifumana njani igolide embindini?
Ukuphakathi, okuninzi kuxhomekeke kubudala bomntwana. Cinga ngamaxesha aphambili ukuba abe ngumntwana wakho.
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Ukusukela ngexesha lokuzalwa kunye neenyanga ezintandathu, umntwana ufuna umama kunye nokuhlala rhoqo kwicala lakhe, kuba ukusinda kwayo kuxhomekeke kuyo. Okweli xesha akunakwenzeka ukuba i-spawn: Ukuba umntwana uyalila, ngoko ke uxela ezinye iingxaki emzimbeni omele aphendulwe ngumntu omdala. Kude kube lixesha lokuba umntwana afune into, ngaphandle kokuba enokwenza, kusekude, ke ungatyesheli ungenelelo olubi-lufuna ungenelelo lwakho.
Ukuphakamisa kufuneka kwenziwe lonke usapho
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Umntwana wonyaka uqalisa ukufundisisa impilo egcwele iingozi, ke ukukhathalela umama ngeli nqanaba akufuneki kuthathwe njengemincili enkulu: Umntwana unokuqonda i-bitter evuthiweyo okanye etyhefu ngamanzi nge umgubo wokuvasa. Zama ukungayiniki, kodwa ukucacisela umntwana ukuba kutheni engafanele azichukumisi iimpempe kwaye athabathe into kubantu ongabaziyo. Ke awuyi kukhetha umnqweno wokwazi umhlaba, kodwa ulumkisa umntwana kwingozi esengozini, ngoko ke izithintelo kwezinye iimeko zihambelana kakhulu.
Ukusukela kunyaka ukuya kwiminyaka emithathu
Kulapha ukuba indawo yokutshintsha iyeza xa umntwana eqalisa ukukufumana-ukuzama ukuqonda ukuba angade kangakanani kubazali bakhe. Sonke sibona kwiivenkile zoomama ngelishwa nabantwana, ngokukhala kokufuna enye into yokudlala. Njengomthetho, aba ngabantwana beminyaka emithathu.
Uninzi lwabazali kunzima ukuthintela, kwaye bayakhalela ukukhala, kodwa le yindlela eya ngqo. Kuya kufuneka ube nethoni yezolo yokuchazela umntwana ukuba ngeli xesha ungakwaziyo ukuthenga, emva koko ukhokela umntwana kwi-adamusdd tyhuka.
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Kulula kakhulu ukucwangcisa kwaye ufumane ukulalanisa. Umntwana uyazi ngokupheleleyo indima yakhe yosapho kwaye uhlala eyithatha. Uyaqonda ukuba abazali banokuhlala bezalisekisa i-whim yakhe, uninzi lwabantu abaqhelekileyo sele lilayishwe kwimisebenzi eqokelelekileyo, ke umntwana wakhawuleza wacinga ukuba, njani "umama ukuba athenge loliwe olandelayo.
Umntwana omnye oneminyaka ubudala ufuna ingqalelo yakho
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Yeyiphi imithetho eya kunceda ekuxhaseni isimo sengqondo esifanelekileyo kusana kwaye singabi sawela kwizinto ezigqithisileyo xa ikhula
-Umntwana ayilombindi wehlabathi, akunyanzelekanga ukuba uzalisekise yonke iminqweno yakhe, kuba ulilungu nje lentsapho, njengomyeni wakho okanye omnye umntwana. Akufanelanga uye emva kwimicimbi yakho ukuba umntwana kufuneka adlale emva kokuba uchithe isiqingatha ngemini kunye naye kwigumbi labantwana kwimall.
- Onke amalungu osapho athatha inxaxheba kwimfundo yomntwana, ngakumbi umyeni wakho. Akunyanzelekanga ukuba usasaze, ukuba uthintele into okanye ngokuchaseneyo. Icacile, kwaye okona kubaluleke kakhulu - isikhundla sisonke kufuneka sibe phakathi onke amalungu osapho kule okanye loo nto.
-Ukuthintela into, unganikezeli kwaye ungahambi kakuhle umntwana - ungalandeli.
-Ndidumiseni umntwana ngezenzo ezilungileyo, vuye kwimpumelelo yalo: kule meko, uya kuba nesizathu sokuhamba.