-Kalkady Yakovlevich, kwi-Encyclopedia yakho ethi "Umfazi wakho ohlekisayo, athi, Likho ibinzana elinje ukuthi:" Bonke abafazi bafuna ukutshata. Kwanabo batshatileyo. " Kodwa kutheni amadoda amaninzi akhetha ukukhupha umtshato kwaye afumane zonke izizathu ukuze angatshati?
"Kungenxa yokuba umfazi ophupha umtshato uxhomekeke egxalabeni elinamandla, ufihla emva kwendawo enokuthenjwa kwaye uhlala ixesha elide kwaye ngovuyo." Kwaye kwindoda, umtshato unoxanduva, ukhathalelo, ingxaki. Phantse nawuphi na umntu ezama ukuhlala ejonge kuxanduva. Emtshatweni, njengakwi-Ohwow entloko, indoda inokutsiba ukuba kukho uthando olunxaxhileyo. Kwaye ukuba akukho thando, kukho kuphela isinamathiselo, isini, umkhwa, emva koko ukuqatshelwa kwendalo iqale indalo. Kwelinye icala, kuhle ukuba nosapho-uzakugoduka, umfazi wam we-Welding i-bitch, epeyinta i-titch, ihempe enkulu, ngoku i-thessing ephucukileyo enokusebenza ngokwakhe. Akwanele ukuba ngaphandle komfazi akasayi kutshabalalisa, usenokubasasaza iisokisi, apho wawa khona, ukuba azolile ngalo naliphi na ixesha ebusuku, afune. Kwaye akukho mntu uya kukroba esongalisayo. Ke ngoko, ngaphambi kokuba ungene emtshatweni, indoda iya kuxamba ixesha elide, ithanda, nomfazi, ukutshiza, kuya kwenye indoda.
-Kwakhona umfazi adlale indima ebalulekileyo ekufumaneni izandla neentliziyo zakhe zivela entanda yakhe?
-Ndisele nditshilo kuqala, luthando oluthandekayo. Kwaye idla ngokungqongqo yindoda: "Uphi uKhwela phi! Uyoyikeka, umlinganiswa uyacekiseka, akakwazi ukupheka ", kodwa unothando, kwaye akaboni nto. Ngomntu onjalo, uthandana. 'Ulahlekile'. Okwesibini kuxa indoda itshata ukubalwa, umtshato ngemali kwaye akukho nto imbi ngayo, kuba, ngokungaqhelekanga, umtshato wokubala yenye yezona zinto zingakholwa ngabantu. Okwesithathu - xa utshatile ngenxa yobudala kunye nokuthanda abantwana. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, iminyaka ithathe eyabo, iba nzima ngakumbi ekuhambeni, kwaye umntu ufuna ukuba nosapho, abantwana. Nokuba akathandani nebhinqa, usacinga: "Ilungisa, iya kuba njalo." Ezi zigaba zintathu zilula kakhulu ukuba zitsalele kwi-ofisi yerejista. Zonke ezinye izinto ezo mamimocles zingoonyana, okanye ihamba phambili ihamba kwaye ichithe amakhosikazi kuyo ngcono ayifanelekanga.
-Ngaba amashumi oonyana noKams aboyiki isizungu, ukanti abantu abaninzi besifa, besiya kungxama?
"Ewe, awuyi kuyithanda impendulo yam, kodwa ukuba umntu uziva ewedwa, uya kumthanda kakhulu ukuba afumane umfazi kunomfazi onendoda." Unokubambelela esitratweni, kwinkampani engaphantsi, emsebenzini. Unesithukuthezi kunye nomfazi, kodwa kulula ukuba asuke. Kukho imigca kwingoma eyaziwayo: "Sikhetha, sikhetha, njengoko ihlala ingangqinelani ..." Apha kule nto iphazamisayo, i-Inongokazi yabasetyhini ifihliwe. Kwaye le ndoda isebenza ngokulula: Kulungile, ayihambelani, ayihambelani, unokutshintsha uye kwenye, ungahlala kwindawo engaqhelekanga. OKO UNOKUTHINI NGALO MNTSI, uyanyamezelamisela ukulinda iqula lakhe lakhe kuphela, elihlawula isizungu.
-Uyithi, Lindela nzima. Uyazi, namhlanje abafazi abasekho qhalwa njengelikhulu leminyaka eyadlulayo. Banokufikelela kwinkampani okanye kwindlela engaphantsi kwaye ahlangane namadoda. Ngaba awucingi njalo?
- Andicingi. Ukuba umfazi uthatha inyathelo lokuqala ezandleni, ubonakala engasebenzi. Ibhinqa elinjalo alibangeli uvelwano. Ukuba indoda inamathela emfazini, iphumeleleleni, Ubiza imbeko. Kwaye ukuba umfazi ufuna ukuthatha "inkunzi yenkomo, umsebenzi wakhe woyikisa imisebenzi yakhe. Ukuba intombazana eza kunye neendlela ukubona umntu, iminxeba, usikhumbuza kuye ngokwakhe, ngoko nangoko uqala ukucinga: "Ukuba i onjalo ukuba likhoboka kweli nqanaba, yaye kuya kwenzeka ntoni xa sifumana kunye. Kuyo nje awuyeki. Ewe, kuse-Fig. " Kungenxa yoko le nto amadoda akhetha "elawula intshukumo" ngokwabo.
-Ukuvanda, unako ukuva kwabasetyhini ukuba akukho bantu baqhelekileyo, kwaye umfazi wale mihla akazange akwazi ukukhetha. Uluvo lwakho?
- Ndilapha, mhlawumbi, ndiyavumelana nawe. Andikwazi ukujonga amadoda ngamehlo omfazi. Ndibona abantu abaninzi abaqhelekileyo abaqhelekileyo, kwaye ayingabo bonke abalele phantsi kocingo, kodwa ndiyakholelwa kwabasetyhini. Kwaye ndiyiva ngakumbi kwaye rhoqo ukuba okanye akukho maqabane afanelekileyo, okanye yonke into eqhelekileyo sele itshatile. Ndiyavuma ukuba umfazi olihlwempu namhlanje kunzima kakhulu ukutshata.
-Uziva njani ngomtshato wesini esifanayo?
- Abantu basondela kakhulu bathetha ngale mibutho yabasebenzi: "Zonke iintyatyambo mazibe kusithiwa kwimeko yobomi. Kwanakwibhayibhile kwakukho umkhukula ngenxa yeSodom neGomorra. Namhlanje, ukusuka kwindawo yokujonga imbono, ayisiyonto iguqukayo, kodwa utyekelo lwebhayoloji lokuthandana nomntu wonke kwaye alunakuba yi-caraw. Kodwa ndothuka kwangoko ngomtshato ofanayo, kwinto yokuba abantu basetyhini bahamba ngendlela ye-Lesbia, kuba bengaphumi. Akukho kuphuma kuphela entolongweni. Kodwa kwinkululeko, kubonakala kum ukuba unokufumana ukhetho. Kukho naluphi na uhlengahlengiso lokwanelisa. Akukho mntu wayenokwazi ukundinqanda ngesondo nomntu, akukho mali.
- Ngokusekelwe kwinto yokuba bambalwa amadoda aqhelekileyo, ngaba ikhona indlela amadoda afundela ngayo ukuba aphile ngenkqubo ye-East yale? Indoda inabafazi abaninzi, yanelisa bonke, inikelwe?
Lo asindizo umbuzo, kodwa kubafazi, nokuba bayavumelana ngayo. Nokuba bayavumelana ukuba bazithobe ukuze babe ngumfazi wesine kwindoda yabo. Amadoda angamaSilamsi abhekisa kubafazi abo, babanika izipho ezixabisekileyo, baphume kwimpahla yokuphuma, babonelela ngezemali. Kodwa hayi ngokuziphatha! Ukuba indoda ayinamdla kumfazi kunye nezibonelelo zenyama kubalulekile kuye, ke le nkqubo inokulungiselela ngokupheleleyo. Kwaye ukuba weza njengebhinqa elithandwayo, kwaye umfazi okhulileyo uthi: "Ayikho intombi, namhlanje ayisiyonto yakho ukulala nomyeni wakho," le meko yintsimi. Kodwa ngenye imini, ukuba nencoko nomntu ohlala emtshatweni, ndafumana isityhilelo. Uye wathi kum: "Wena, madoda, ungathetha ngothando lomgubo othandekayo onothando oluzizidenge ezincinci. Kwaye thina, bafazi, sifuna ukuthuthuzelwa kunye nokubonelela. " Kodwa kubonakala kum ukuba le yindawo yokuthengisa ngobuchule bomzimba wakhe kwaye ayinanto yakwenza nothando. Ngapha koko, umphefumlo wasetyhini, ngaphandle kwentuthuzelo kwaye uqiniseke, usafuna uthando. Kwaye ukuba umntu uyathanda, uya kuba sisithandwa sakhe nesithandwa nentuthuzelo, kunye nelungiselelo.
-Ukuba indoda ithumela ikhontrakthi yomtshato phambi komtshato, ekubhalwe ngawo emnyama, ukuba emva koqhawulo-mtshato, umfazi wangaphambili akafumani nantoni na. Ngaba loo nto, ngokoluvo lwakho, nothando?
-Ukuba uyandicela, ukuba usayine imvumelwano yomtshato nomfazi ngaphambi komtshato, ndiza kuphendula ngokuqinileyo - hayi. Ewe, amagqwetha aya kuthandana nomntu ongasayityisi isivumelwano somtshato ukuba ungumntu osisiyo. Kodwa ngokoluvo lwam bukrelekrele, ukuba umntu uthembisa umntu obhinqileyo ukuba afumane inkwenkwezi evela ezulwini ngaphambi komtshato, kwaye emva koqhawulo-mtshato ithathe igumbi lakhe. Uziinkomo zokugqibela. Usebenzise iminyaka eli-10 yomzimba wakhe, ubuhle, amandla, kwaye lo mfazi ubuhle nobuhle bayo - lo ngumthombo wayo owodwa. Uyakonwabela, wadinwa, wakhathazeka, wawa naye wonke umntu wamsa, waphoswa esitratweni, kubonakala ngathi kum. Ndeva xa abanye abantu bethetha ngale meko: "Wayehle, ekonwabela, kodwa, ngokunyaniseka, umntu onesini ufuna okungaphezulu komfazi. Amanenekazi akunakulungela ukungavumeli ukuba abanandlela yokuhamba kwaye basebenze ngesonka. Ngayiphi na imeko, mandingafani namadoda, kodwa andibizi ukuba abafazi basayine ikhontrakthi yomtshato kwaye bazise kwangaphambili ngezantsi kweplinth. Okanye kwangoko uya kule thuba, kuba uyazi ukuba akukho thando, kodwa kuya kubakho inzuzo yomtshato. Kwaye uyazi kwangaphambili ukuba iya kuphela into esiya kuyiphelisa. Xa indoda eyayizayo imxelela: "Ndikuthambise kwisikhululo seKhrinta, ndinokuhlawula iindleko zakho, ukukhuthaza kwakho, kwaye kuya kufuneka usebenze yonke into." Olu lubambiswano lweshishini ngakumbi kunye nothando, kwakhona, alunawo ubudlelwane.
-Akukhathalekile kangakanani, isikhundla somfazi asilungelanga kuwo onke amacala. Ubhale incwadi eluncedo malunga nabafazi, nika nengcebiso, indlela yokwenza ubomi.
-Unokuba yintoni icebiso elapha. Ndinovelwano olunzulu kumfazi. Umfazi wam, xa wayezala, ndatsho ndatsho ukuthi: "Siza kuwaguqula" amantombazana ", kwaye woyika kakhulu ukuba babonakale nabafana. Kwaye ndonwabile kakhulu ngayo, kuba abafazi bahlala nzima. Thina, thina bantu, siphila ixesha elininzi! Asinalo olu thando luthambileyo, olwaluvuthuza uphahla "kunye nomgubo we-Ihuman uqala:" Umnxeba-awuzukufowunela? " Kwaye zithini izisu? Ngaba ubumbano lwamadoda? Kwaye i-mama ye-mama ilahliwe? Kwaye zeziphi iingxaki eziqala xa umfazi ethwele umsindo, ubuhle bakhe buyaphela kwaye uphulukana nowokugqibela? Ngokuqinisekileyo, uvelwano kuphela kwabasetyhini.
Ke, manenekazi amnandi, kumzabalazo wolonwabo lwakho lwabasetyhini, masibe zonke izixhobo zakho kwintshukumo: Ukudlala ngothando, ukuduma, umlingo. Musa ukoyika ukuba bitch!