I-Ajolter, ukuvuthwa kweqabane- isiganeko esingathandekiyo, kodwa sixhaphake, ngakumbi kwiintsuku zethu nakwimibutho yethu, engaphantsi kwemilinganiselo yokuziphatha yemveli.
Kodwa kungekuphela nje kotshintsho, kunye nendlela esijonga ngayo ingxabano iyatshintsha: Hayi ngoku asibubungqina bokuba bubungqina bokuba, hayi ulwaphulo-mthetho, kodwa luphawu lobukho bezingxaki kwisibini.
Ukongeza, abantu abaninzi, batshintsha iqabane, bazisole ngokunyaniseka lo mthetho kwaye banqwenele ngokukhawuleza ukuxolelaniswa kwakhona, ukubuyisela ukuzithemba. Le yokugqibela ibaluleke kakhulu. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, isikrelemnqa asilunganga kangako njengentembelo elahlekileyo. Ukuba iqabane alikuthembeli, aliboni i-satellite ethembekileyo kuwe, eli linyathelo lokuqala ukuya esiphelweni solwalamano.
Ngaba kunokwenzeka ukuba ubuyisele intembelo yeqabane emva kokuvukela?
Kubalulekile ukuba uqonde ukuba kungekuphela iqabane elitshintshile kufuneka licinge, "Ndingaqala njani ukuthembela kwakhona?", Oko kukuthini ukwenza umzamo omkhulu, ukuzama ukuzama ukuzisa ukuthembana kweqabane. Ewe kunjalo, ukuba ubudlelwane bumela ixabiso kunye nokuvukela-isiqendu.
Rhoqo, oochwephesha bezengqondo bacebisa isibini esiqulunqe umbubuso omnye okanye omabini amaqabane, hlala phantsi kwaye uthethe zonke iingxaki, ufumanise oonobangela. Oku, kunjalo, kubaluleke kakhulu kwaye icebiso elifanelekileyo, kodwa kuyimfuneko ukuba baqonde ukuba ngabantu abanomdla kuphela kwaye bajonga ubomi, kunye "nerves yentsimbi" bakwazi ukuqalisa iSeminar yengqondo . Uninzi lwabantu lusabela ngendlela eyahlukileyo: Uloyiko, ukumangaliswa, emva koko ubundlongondlongo, ukuziphindezela, ukungazithembi. Abanye babaleka ngokungxamisekileyo ukuze bazitshintshe, ukuze bangenzi buhlungu. ", Abanye bayakhwaza okanye babetha, abanye bayayishiya okanye" ukushiya umama. " Le yindlela yokuphendula yendalo ngokupheleleyo. Kodwa ke lo mbuzo uphakama: indlela yokuphila ngayo.
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Kwaye apha kuyacetyiswa ukuba ushukumise inyathelo ngenyathelo, ukuba esi sibini sagqiba kwelokuba singayiphathi.
Inyathelo lokuqala lokubuyisela ukuzithemba -Ukuvuma kwenyani yokuphononongwa kunye nokwaliwa komgca ongalunganga wokubonisa iqabane lesibini ukuba linetyala kule ngcambu. Siyavuma, abaninzi bagula yiyo, bayakhusela, bahlasela kunokwahlula isikhonkwane kwisikhonkwane solwalamano. Ungathi zikho iingxaki, kodwa awunakugxeka iqabane lesibini kwinto yokuba yayinguye okanye indlela aziphethe ngayo eyabangela ingcambu. Imbali yesibini iya kunceda, isindiswe ngempumelelo ngala mava ahlabayo.
Inqanaba elilandelayo -Ukulayisha umgca wokuziphatha onjalo ukuze iqabane liqale ukuthemba kwakhona. Kufanelekile ukubonisa ingqalelo enyusiweyo, ngaphandle kokulibaziseka emsebenzini ", kangangexesha elithile-kunye neentlanganiso kunye nabahlobo ababonisa ukungabikho kokungaziphathi kakuhle ngokuziphatha okungahambi kakuhle malunga nokungaziphathi kakuhle.
Kwangelo xesha, akunyanzelekanga ukuba ufihlwe ukuthoba phambi kweqabane lesibini, cela uxolelo ngamadolo kunye nokunye. Ayizukukunceda ukubuyisela ukuthembana, kodwa kunokuba kukubonise umntu onomdla, umculi onamandla ayo nayiphi na imithambo, ukufezekisa oko kufunwayo.
Isimo sengqondo esihle sinokunyanga nawaphi na amanxeba. Kwaye ke kuya kufuneka ulibale ngezikhalazo malunga neqabane malunga nengeniso encinci okanye engahlanjwanga. Zama ukubonisa ingqalelo enkulu, ukuthembeka okuphezulu, yenza izinto ezintle, kodwa ukuze ungachukumisi ukuzama ukuhlawula: bathi, kwi-iPhone, kwaye ugqibe ukuthetha ngayo. Ezo ndlela ziyasebenza kuphela ukuba iqabane lakho likuvumela ukuba uvale amehlo akho kwinkanuko yokutshintshiselana ngezinye izibonelelo-imali, imeko yentlalo, njalo njalo.
Kubaluleke kakhulu ukubonisa ukuba umntu ovuthayo akathethi nantoni na, wavela kuphela ngaphandle kwendawo kwaye ehamba naphi na. Obona bungqina bubalulekileyo boku buya kuba ngumxhasi opheleleyo onomntu, kwaye kufuneka ubonise ukulungela kwaye uyeke emsebenzini, kwaye uqhubeke nendawo yokuhlala ukuba iqabane lakho lesibini lithandabuza ukuba iintlanganiso zimi uthandabuza ukuba iintlanganiso zithandabuza ukuba iintlanganiso zithandabuza ukuba iintlanganiso zithandabuza ukuba iintlanganiso zithandabuza ukuba iintlanganiso zithandabuza ukuba iintlanganiso zithandabuyekezo.
Kwaye enye into: Ewe, ukuvutha kwenzeke ebomini bomntu wonke, kwaye sisigqibo sakho kuphela kukuxolela okanye ukuwela umntu ebomini bakho.
Ukuba emfanekisweni wakho wehlabathi nyani ayonwabanga ngokupheleleyo, ufumana intlungu eqinileyo yeemvakalelo kwaye ungasondeli kwindlela, nokuba nexesha, musa ukubandezeleka. Kuba ngamanye amaxesha kube lula ukuyoyisa emva kokuhlulwa kunexesha lonke lokuphila kwintlungu yokungcatshwa (ukuba ukuvukela kwakho malunga nokungcatsha).