"Wonwabile, kufuneka ufumane indoda eya kukuthanda umntu oza kuba ngumthandi obalaseleyo kunye notata onenkathalo, aze emva koko enze ukuba abathathu abahlangani ..."
Isicatshulwa ayisiyoqobo, kodwa ilusizi kakuhle isihloko kweli nqaku.
Uninzi lwethu kufuneka luphupha ngomntu wethu, malunga nesiqingatha sesibini, esiya kuthi sisigqithe ngokugqibeleleyo. Thatha imisebenzi esingafuniyo ukuba sithathe isigqibo kwaye sinikezelwe ngabom. Rhoqo ungayiva loo nto: "Ndinike ezo mvakalelo zilahlekileyo."
Umzekelo obalaseleyo zizibini ezingumzekelo, apho indoda ivaliwe njengebhokisi, kwaye umfazi unentyatyambo ecekeceke. Indoda ifumana, kwaye umfazi ubonelela ezi mvakalelo zimbini. Vumelana, umfanekiso unqweneleka kwabaninzi. Indoda ingumntu wase-sider, umfazi - umama nenkosikazi, ihempe ekhaya. Kwaye ngamnye 'kwikheyini' yakhe, ngaphakathi kwendima yakhe eqhuba izibophelelo zayo kunye nokuhlawula. Abafazi bamangalela abantu ukuba bayonakalisile inkululeko yabo, cinezela kunye namaTiranny, kwaye amadoda athabathileyo amababa abo benze yonke into kubafazi, kwaye abo bahlala bephoxekile kwaye bengakuqondi kakhulu kwigama losapho. Kwaye abo kunye nabanye baqalise ukuphupha ngothando kunye nokuthandwa, bahlala befumana nomntu wesithathu. Umfanekiso uqhelekile kakhulu.
Ke, ungaphuphi nothando? Ngaba kukho into engalunganga ekufuneni ukudibana nomntu wakho?
Akukho nto imbi kula maphupha, le yintsimi esempilweni kwaye eqinisekisa ngobomi. Nangona kunjalo, xa siphupha ngomntu wethu, kubalulekile ukugcina ukungazi ukuba akafanele enze nantoni na. Sukwenza ukuqhuba umthwalo wezemali okanye uphilise amanxeba adlulileyo eluthandweni. Xa amaqabane enza abanye nge-psychotherapists, aphilisa ngokungagungqiyo okanye athathele ingqalelo amava abuhlungu, interting phakathi kwabo iyakhula, kwaye inkanuko kunye nesondo kunye nesondo iya kuvusa. Esi sibini siba ngabahlobo abafudumeleyo omnye komnye, kodwa ubudlelwane bezithanda inyibilikisile. Kunye nokuphuma kwindalo-ukufumana omnye umntu ukuba azalise umngxunya ebomini. Iphupha le-heroine yethu lithetha naye ngale micimbi:
"Ndaya kuhlobo oluthile lomsitho woqeqesho, kukho abantu abanomdla, benzulu, kwaye badibana nendoda, nokuba ligama, igama lesizathu sikhumbula - max. Ngexesha loqeqesho, sadibana, ndaqhelana ngakumbi kwaye ndathandana. Xa kufikwa kuqhubekayo ukunxibelelana, ndatsho ukuba ndinomyeni nomntwana ukuba ngandlel 'ithile yaba ngamehlo kanti. Ngokucacileyo, incoko malunga nayo ayizange ivuke ngaphambili. Andikhumbuli nendlela, kodwa ndaba nenkundla yendalo iphela - kubaphulaphuli babantu, apho babekhona uqeqesho, - ndithetha ibali lobomi bam, njengoko kwakunzima kum ukufumana i-satellite ye Ubomi, babuhlungu kwaye bunomdla, kwaye bafumana isini kuphela. Ke ngoku umyeni wangoku wafumana umntu ondingqongile, kwaye yayiyinto epheleleyo into endiyifunayo. Ndiqala ngandlel 'ithile, yayikukuxelela yonke into, kodwa ngenxa yesizathu esithile ukuba siyimfuneko. Kwaye ke eyona nto ibalulekileyo yenzekile ukuba bendifuna - le nto i iyaqhubeka nokuziva iimvakalelo zikaThenda, kodwa sele ndiyithathe le nto, onke amabali am kunye namava am kunye namava am.
Kucacile ukuba ubuthongo ayisiyonyani. Ukulala umxelela ukuba uphupha uthando ebomini bakhe. Uthando ngamandla, uvuka kubomi omelele kunamanye amazwe amaninzi. Uthando sisifo ophuphayo ukuze ugule, njengoko ubhale i-irwine. Iphupha libonisa ukuba uphupha izithanda izinto ngaphandle kwemeko, ukuba uthandwa kwaye uthathwe njengabo. Imalunga noku "kwinkundla", oku ngokunxulumene naye kwenza intanda yentanda.
Ukulala kumphakamisa wolo thando kwintsilelo ebomini bakhe. Ngelixa efuna ivela kwezinye izinto, ebantwini. Kodwa akalele, abantu abadala, banokufunda ukuzithanda nawuphi na umntu.
Inqaku elihle. Ndiyazibuza ukuba uphupha ntoni? Thumela amaphupha akho kunye nemibuzo nge-imeyile [email protected].
UMaria Dyachkova, ugqirha wezengqondo, ugqirha wosapho kunye noqeqesho olukhokelayo kwiZiko loQeqsho loQhulelo loQeqesho lweMarika Khazin