Ukugweba ngenani leeleta elaqala ukuza mva nje, ndibona ukuba uhlalutyo lwamaphupha luluncedo kubomi bemihla ngemihla.
Namhlanje, iphupha lomnye wabafundi liza kusinceda ukuba sikwazi ukuba yintoni esinokusinika umxholo onjalo njengezesondo kunye nokuxineka.
Ngexesha elinye, uSigmund Freud wagwetywa ukuba amandla ezesondo emntwini ngamnye yimvelo. Nangona kunjalo, eluntwini, esi sihloko asivumelekanga. Malunga nokwabelana ngesondo kuthetha kancinci, ukugqitha kwesihloko. Ke ngoko, uninzi lwethu luyazi nto malunga nengqondo yethu, zineengxaki ezininzi zesondo, ukuthintelwa, kwaye nokuba iqabane elinothando alikwazi ukuphumla.
Abafazi abaninzi akukho lula ukuziva bethandekayo kwaye banqwenelekayo. Ngaphandle kweenzame zangaphandle, izinto ezintle, izinto ezintle kunye nezithende ezinqabileyo, xa zinxibelelana namadoda, zihamba ngokulula, zineentloni, okanye zihlelele ukubanda kwayo phantsi kweMask kunye nokubanda.
Ephupheni, iindlela zokhuselo zengqondo yethu eyenza buthathaka, kwaye sivumele ukuba sizive enyanisweni ngakumbi ngokwesondo kwaye sinomdla.
Nanku umfundi wephupha ocele ukuba aqiniseke ukuba amxelele malunga nobuntu kunye nezesondo:
"Kuya kwenzeka kwiCawe apho inkonzo iza khona. Ndinikezela intombazana ethile kwenye kwaye imele imbonise indlela yokuhamba ikhampasi. Kodwa andikwazi ukuyenza, kuba kukho indawo encinci kwaye iguqule inkungu. Kwaye andazi ukuba. I-rite idlula, ndinamarhamncwa, apho ngexesha le-rite wamthatha, kodwa ndiyazithatha.
Emva kwexesha ndihleli kwisangqa kunye nabahlobo bomyeni wam ndithethe nabo, ndiqonda ukuba ayifanele ibe phakathi kwabo. Kwaye siyaxoxa. Kwaye ndibona umyeni osemva kweglasi, enesidenge kunye nenye, ngokungathi unxila. Kwaye ndibaxelele, ndijonge lo mfanekiso ndiza kuba nabahlobo bam abaya kuqonda ukuba ndingaba lapha. Okwangoku ndibona indlela umhlobo kanxilayo lomyeni wam ambamba kwaye afakwe kwiglasi. Kwaye ndiyakhwaza: "Hayi!". Ndiyoyika! Kwaye sele kwisiqingatha sexabiso ndithetha kwisangqa: "Ndifanele ukuba ndiphi".
Kwaye ngoku masiqonde ngakumbi.
Ukulala ngokugqibeleleyo kunokwahlulwa kuba ngamacandelo ama-2: "Icawe kunye ne-rition yokuqalisa" kunye "nesapda yabahlobo bomyeni".
Kukho iisimboli zokulala okuninzi kangangokuba kulula ukwenza ingcinga: icawe kunye nesiko lokunikezela. Ukulala kubonisa ukuba umfundi wethu kufuneka abe nokuzinikezela ku "fair". Ngaphezu koko, kufanele ukuba ibe nakho ukuhamba ngalo mbandela (uphawu lwekhampasi), kodwa ngelixa isihloko sikwinkungu nakwimihla ngemihla yendawo yakhe. Emva kwe-rite, uzithabathela ngokwakhe uphawu lobudoda (ubuhlalu).
Ukuba usenza isigqibo esifutshane, okwangoku, intombazana iza kuvumela ukuqola, ukufumana ukhokelo kunye nokuzithemba ukuba kukho ibhinqa, nangona kukho inkungu eninzi kwesi simo sengqondo sokuqola indalo yethu.
Inxalenye yesibini yobuthongo malunga nokuba ngumfazi phakathi kwabantu. I-heroine iqala ngento exoxa namadoda, engenakuba nayo. Nathi ivakalisa isicatshulwa esikujikelezileyo abaya kuyiqonda imeko yabo.
Ukunxibelelana nabantu, unokubona ukuba banoburharha, babudenge, ngokwahlukileyo. Kubalulekile kumfanekiso wendoda, kuba izinto ezothusayo zenzeka naye, emva koko iqhawe litshoyo ukuba likwindawo yakhe.
Mhlawumbi, owona myalezo uphambili kukuba i-heroine idlulisa ukwakheka kwakhe njengomfazi, kodwa akunakusebenzisa ngokwenene ukusebenzisa amandla obutshabhisi kunye nezesondo yedwa, kodwa kukwindawo yayo ", ecaleni kwendoda.
Kwakhona, ukulala kunokuthathelwa ingqalelo kwimeko yokuba nesini, kwelinye icala, kwinto emsulwa, enqwenelekayo (umfanekiso wecawe). Kwaye kwelinye - i-god, indalo, indalo, indalo (Imifanekiso yenkampani, imidlalo kunye ne-drounk irman).
Mhlawumbi iphupha liveza ukuba ibhalansi ayifumaneki emphefumlweni phakathi kweenkolelo ezahlukeneyo.
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Ndiza kubona kungekudala!
UMaria Zngqoskova, ugqirha wezengqondo, ugqirha wonyango kunye noqeqesho lokukhula komntu kwiZiko lokuRhweba uMarika Hazin.