Wamkelekile iphepha lethu "lokulala". Ukulala-kuba apha sijongana nawo, siqinisekise kwaye sihlalutywe imizekelo yamaphupha akho.
Kule veki ndiye kum kwangoko iileta ezimbalwa ezinemibuzo malunga nokuba zeziphi izilwanyana ezidutyuliweyo.
Nanku omnye wemizekelo: "Ndikwilizwe, nentombi. Indoda endala ilungele thina, sikhulu kakhulu. Ecaleni kwakhe inja enkulu emnyama. Emva koko, onke amanani anyamalalayo, kwaye ndihlala ndedwa nenja. Ebomini, ndiyoyika kakhulu, andicingi, andiyeki, ungandivumeli ndiyeke. Kodwa ephupheni ndidlala nenja, ndibetha ngoboya, akandishiyi, akandilibali. Lo ngowona mzuzu ungalibalekiyo kunye nolangazelelo olukhanyayo. "
Indlela yeJungian yokufumana uhlalutyo lwephupha ukuba izilwanyana ezisishenxisileyo ziyinto yethu, inxalenye yendalo. Masingaze singene kwifilosofi ekhoyo yale ndlela, kubalulekile ukuba inxenye yemibono yethu ikwindawo yonke yabantu abaninzi.
Izilwanyana ephupheni zibonisa iinkanuko zethu, iminqweno yethu, iminqweno esisiseko.
Kwimizekelo yokulala, inja yeza indoda endala. Kuya kuba yinto enomdla ukuqwalasela umbutho wephupha malunga nalo mfanekiso. Mhlawumbi uyambumbuza ngolwalamano nomntu obathandayo. Kuba ulwazi malunga nalowo ulale alwanelanga, siya kunikela ingqalelo kwindlela yokuziphatha yephupha. Uyadlala kwaye agqobhoze inja, engazange yenzeke ebomini.
Mhlawumbi ngeli phupha alifundayo ukuba athethathethane ngobume babo, abe naye ekunxibelelaneni kwaye aphulaphule iminqweno yabo.
Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba inja inothando, iya kunxibelelana. Ayifanele iqeqeshwe okanye ikhutshwe. Unobuhlobo.
Iphupha lethu kufuneka limamele iimfuno zakho, lincinci ukufundisa idatha yakho ye-in ebanzi kwaye uzisebenzise ngakumbi njengekhadi lakho lexilongo.
Umzekelo, ukusuka kwindalo le ndoda icotha kwaye icinga. Mhlawumbi, wenzekile ukuva amanqaku e-caustic malunga nesantya "se-turtle". Emva kokulala obunjalo, kufuneka unikele ingqalelo kwizibonelelo eziza kwenza ntoni eli cala lecala lomdaniso?
Kuthekani ngomlinganiso wakho uxelele amaphupha akho? Ilinde amaphupha akho, esiya kuthi sikwazi ukugqiba apha kwindawo. Thumela amabali akho ngeposi - [email protected].
UMaria Zngqoskova, ugqirha wezengqondo, ugqirha wonyango kunye noqeqesho lokukhula komntu kwiZiko lokuRhweba uMarika Hazin.