Xa ndandilungiselela isemina yokugqibela ekufundeni kwelinye ilizwe, intetho yam ndaguqukela kuncwadi oluninzi, abantu abathetha isiRashiya, banikela kwingxaki yootata nabantwana beshiya indlwane yesixeko.
Izixhobo zokuthetha isiNgesi zahlulahlula-hlula imeko ibe ngamacandelo ama-2: amabhunga amatsha "angaphinda njani ekhampasini" kunye neengcebiso kubazali " Ukucingisisa ngesihloko esithi "Ngaba abantwana baya kuba belungele ukushiya ikhaya lomzali" alizange licinge. Kodwa ingxaki efanayo yayinengxaki yokuthetha isiRashiya. Abazali kwindawo yasemva kweSoviet ayisoloko bekulungele ukuyeka umntwana wabo. Ngexesha lomsebenzi kwiNkqubo ye-Worldpol, sajamelana neentlobo ezahlukeneyo zoloyiko lwabazali.
× 1. Umntwana akakulungelanga ebomini obuzimeleyo - andizukufumana ukutya, akuyi kufunda. Sasinebali elichwayithileyo xa uloliwe onomfaki-sicelo eza kwimizuzu eli-15 ngaphambi kweshedyuli, kwaye igosa lentlanganiso alizange lifumane umfundi kwixesha elizayo. Iyure elandelayo yayizaliswe yi-chime yovalo: Umsebenzi-ofisini-umama wenkwenkwe - iofisi kwisixeko sabo. Inombolo yefowuni yeziganeko ngokwayo icinyiwe. Emva kwethuba, umenzi-sicelo wafunyanwa eyunivesithi, apho wafikelela khona, ecela indlela ngabemi. Umama wayekwimeko yangaphambi kokudibana, wayeqinisekile ekungakwazini kwakhe ukuya kufikelela kwindawo ethile ngokuzimeleyo. Ngapha koko, abantwana abahlangabezana nobomi, nangona kukho amatyala akhethekileyo.
× 2. Umntwana akasayi kuba nako ukufundisisa ilizwe lomnye umntu (umzi womnye umntu, ngolwimi lomnye umntu). Ngapha koko, ukukhuthaza yinto entle. Umntu oye washukunyiswa bubomi bakhe bonke echaphazela isazela okanye uloyiko lwabazali, unokuva incasa engalindelekanga yokuqonda isayensi apho inomdla khona. Akukho mntu umi nge-Whip, akukho namnye wenza ukuba afunde "koku kuthi ga ngoku," Akukho mntu ubeka njengomzekelo kaMasha kwithala leencwadi lethala leencwadi kunye nobusuku . Akufanelanga ukubathanga abantwana ngamathuba okuzama kwiyunivesithi elungileyo ngokwenene.
× 3. Bazali boyika ukupheliswa kwabantwana, ukwaphula imbonakalo. Kufanelekile ukuzibuza, yintoni endiyoyika ukuphulukana nayo? Ukusondela ngokweemvakalelo ayisiyonto inganyamalala kwiinyanga ezintandathu. Ngokwesiqhelo abazali boyika ukuphulukana nolawulo. Sasinomzekelo xa utata wafumana indlu intombi yakhe, yena wafumana ummelwane ukuba aphile, ngokwakhe inyanga inyanga, eshiya intombi yakhe intlawulo yefowuni kunye ne-Intanethi. Ingxelo yam ikuloo moya ukuba ukuba ufuna ukufundisa intombi kubomi obuzimeleyo, kufuneka anikele kuthethwano, athi, Uzolile. Ke ayinangqondo, kubonakala ngathi kum, ukukhalaza malunga nolutsha lwabantwana kwaye ndiyathandabuza ukwenza imizamo kwaye ndiyeke indawo yokuthuthuzela. Nangona kunjalo, akukho mbambano, ukuthoba. Kwaye malunga nokusondela - apho kukho ubudlelwane obufudumeleyo nosondeleyo, akukho bungozi baphulukana nabo, baqala ukuxabisa ukhathalelo, uthando kunye nokuxhasa abazali ngakumbi, kukude kakhulu.
× 4. Ndingenayo ngaphandle kwakhe (ngaphandle kwayo)? Ngokwesiqhelo olu loyiko lusukela oomama. Apha ndicebisa ukuguqukela kumsebenzi obanzi we-PSYCHOLOLOGOLIRS. I-syndrome "engenanto" ifundwe kunye nangaphaya kwaphela ngawo onke amanqaku anokwenzeka. Ukuqukumbela apha yenye - Zifumane isifundo kwaye ukhuphe umntwana kubomi bakhe. Isisa, imidlalo, izinto zokuzonwabisa, ingqalelo yesatellite yobomi-akunakwenzeka ukuba wenze nantoni na esesandleni esikhulu xa abantwana benyuka, besaluphalo basakude. Ungazinikela ngokwakho kwaye wenze oko kwakuqhele ukuswela ixesha kunye nomzamo, endaweni yokulawula ukungalawuleki (jonga × × 3).
Musa ukubuthani abantwana ngamathuba okuzama kwiyunivesithi elungileyo ngokwenene
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× 5. Abantwana baya kuhamba, baya kungena ngenye inkcubeko kunye nengqondo, kwaye siya kuthetha ngeelwimi ezahlukeneyo. Kuya kuba kuhle apha ukuba uthembeke kuwe. Sithetha nabo ngeelwimi ezahlukeneyo. Abantwana bethu banayo i-iPhone ngaphambi koonobumba, babone umhlaba wonke njengelizwe oza kutyhilwa, lwazi iilwimi ezingama-2-3 kwiminyaka eli-17. Sifuna le okanye hayi, bahlukile kwaye bacinga ngenye indlela. Ngexesha labo akuyi kubakho ndawo yobuqhetseba esifuna ngayo, kukho ezo zithintelo nezithintelo ezazithintele ukuba ziphile ngendlela ofuna ngayo. Kodwa kuya kubakho ezinye ubunzima kunye neengxaki. Siza kuzama ukubamisela kwimanzi lethu, okanye uzame ukuva ukuba kuqhubeka ntoni kumaza abo.
× 6. Yahlulwe ekhaya umntwana uya kuwa phantsi kwesiphumo esibi. Ngokungathi sifuna ukukhusela umntwana evela kwi-gogo, umntwana wethu uya kudibana kungekudala okanye kamva ngecala lobomi esizama ukufihla kuyo. Ubukho bakhe buya kunxila okanye busebenzisa iziyobisi. Uya kubona abaxhasi nabafundi abakhathalelwe. Uninzi olunokwenzeka, uya kuwa ngendlela yentombazana yokuziphatha elula kwaye ihlambulukanga kumaqabane asezandleni. Kodwa yonke into ebesimfundise kangangeminyaka eli-17, kangangokuba wathanda usapho kuya kumnceda ukuba enze ukhetho. Eyona nto iphambili yindlela esinokumnceda ngayo umntwana wakho apha ukuze amthembe.
7 7. Kolunye uBomi obude babantwana, asiyi kuba nendawo. "Apho, emphethweni womde" asiyi kuba silunge ngakumbi kulwazi lwethu ngobomi nengcebiso. Amava ethu kunye negunya lethu phantsi kombuzo omkhulu. Yintoni esinokuzazi ngobomi kwidolophu yaseyunivesithi eCalifornia okanye kwiziko lophando kwisiqithi saseNorway? Andiceleli ivenkile, akukho bhinqa, asiyi kufundisa ukusebenzisana nomyeni wakho, ukuba ungumzali waseJapan, okanye nabazali benkosikazi yakhe, ukuba bavela eIndiya. Kukho ikhonkco phakathi ... kodwa sifuna abantwana hayi iingcebiso kunye neengcebiso. Abayi kumamela. Siyawadinga, njengangeentsuku zokuqala, ngenkxaso engenamiqathango. Ukuze ube kufutshane. Sukuphawula, hayi ukufunda izaziso, musa ukuvavanya isenzo sabo. Yiba kufutshane.
Ndandinamava amnandi xa ndafika kuNyana wonyana wam, ndifumene isitshixo "phantsi kombhoxo, nceda ungavakali kwi-birdak." Isitshixo sasikhona, kwaye igama elithi "i-bardak" lichaze into eyenzekayo eflethini. Wanele ukuba athi ndifumene imikhondo yezitya ezilungiselelwe mna ekufikeni kwakudala. Kwaye iyamangalisa indlela ebekunzima ngayo ukuhlala kum ukuze ndihlale ndingqwalasela. Njengoko bendifuna ukuthetha ngesihloko somxholo, ukucoca, ukugcina ukucoceka. Kodwa kuba akukho mntu undicelileyo ukuba ndiveze izimvo kule, kwaye ngokuchasene noko - babonisa ukuba kuya kuba kuhle ukuyigcina. Indoda endala uthatha isigqibo sokuba simdla ubomi, yintoni onokulichitha ixesha kwaye ifumene imali. Ndacinga ndagqiba kwelokuba ndicoceke. Cwaka. Andikwazanga ukwenza loo nto, akukho mntu ubuzayo le nto kwaye engandilindelanga, unyana wayeyonwaba nje ukuba ndingayichazanga ingqondo yam. Kodwa ndazisola umntwana, nomsebenzi wakhe, ndifunda noqeqesho ndagqiba kwelokuba ndimenze mnandi. Yayingumdlalo omkhulu kulwalamano lwethu. Ndiqondile ngokucacileyo ukuba, njengengaphezulu kakhulu, hayi ishishini lam. Ukuba andikhali, ukuba akukho mgudu kunye nezenzo kwelikholathiso, ukuba icebiso lam alindibuzanga kwaye ayisiyonto ishishini lam.
Ndibona abazali abohlukeneyo. Abanye bazama ukuphila ubomi babo: bakhetha ukukodwa kufundisiso, isixeko, indlu kunye nabahlobo. Abanye bakhutshwa kwimiqondiso yasimahla kwaye ngamanye amaxesha banombono obuthathaka kakhulu wento ephilayo. Abanye abazali abazi ukuba umntwana wabo akazange afundwe ixesha elide, uxhamle, kukho iidyunivesithi ezivumela ukuba zisuse ikhefu lokuthatha ikhefu okanye isiqabu. Kwaye ezinye zenyani kunye nezinto ezingathandekiyo ezizama ukufumana ukufikelela kwi-Dean ebonakalayo ukubona umfanekiso wonke. Sonke siyabathanda abantwana babo, kangangokuba sinako, kwaye sibanqwenelele. Kuyimfuneko ukukhumbula ukuba lonke uloyiko lwethu, konke ukukhanyela kunye nokungafuni ukuya ngaphaya komda weengcinga eziqhelekileyo kuchaphazela, abantwana bethu abathandayo. Izisombululo zethu namhlanje zibuchaphazela ubomi babo emva kweminyaka emininzi, kangangeminyaka emininzi, xa besingayi kuba njalo. Baza kuphila ngesonka kuthi, endaweni yokuqhubeka. Ngaba siyayifuna le nto?
I-Ekaterina Mikhalevich, uMemer -ur, iNtloko yemfundo yamazwe jikelele ye-Mfundi