Mhlawumbi enye yeengxaki ezinkulu kubomi bomntu wanamhlanje kukungaqiniseki ngokwako ngokwayo, okukhokelela ekungazinzini okunzulu ekunxibelelaneni nabanye. Ukungakwazi ukwala xa isindululo siphikisana neminqweno yakho, kunokuba ngumqobo wokwenene kubomi obuvisileyo kwaye kunokukhokelela ekuphazamiseni kwengqondo. Nangona kunjalo, kusenokwenzeka ukuba kusombulule ingxaki, kwaye saqokelela iindlela ezisebenzayo.
Musa ukoyika ukuthatha ixesha lokucinga
Ukuba awukwazi kwangoko ukuba icacile "hayi", akufuneki woyike ukuthatha ixesha ngengcinga. Uninzi lwabantu luthanda ukumangala, ukuze umnxibelelanisi anike impendulo ngaphandle kokulinganisa yonke into "ye" kunye "no." Funda kwi-parry kwaye unganikezeli ekuvuseleleni, kwaye ngale nto kufuneka uyenze icace into yokuba impendulo yakho ayinakukwazi ukungqinelana nolindelo lomnxibelelanisi. Ndixelele ukuba ufuna ixesha lokucinga, ke iqabane lakho kuya kufuneka lijonge imisebenzi ethile, kwaye uya kuba nexesha lokuqulunqa impendulo oyifunayo.
Akukho sidingo sokuthintela iingcinga zakho kwabanye
Rhoqo sihamba ngokuvuma, njengoko sicinga ukuba ukwala kwethu kunokuchaphazela ubudlelwane nendoda eyabhengeza kuwe. Ngenxa yoko, thina "sisemqaleni" ngemigaqo yethu, ngokufuthi esenza into esiya kuyithanda, kodwa sithanda omnye umntu. Siyaqonda ukuba asifuni ukwenza le nto, kodwa iingcinga esinokuphulukana nomnye okanye omnye umntu ngenxa yokwala kwethu, unokusityhalela kwizenzo eziyimfuneko. Khumbula: Akufanelanga ukuba ubhekise kwezinye iingcinga, mhlawumbi umntu, onjalo, akulinde ukuba wenze inyathelo uze wenze isicelo sakho.
Musa ukuwabela ezinye iingcinga zakho kwabanye.
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Soloko ucacisa izicelo
Ubomi bakowethu bakhona umntu oqhele ukuthatha naziphi na iinkonzo ngokusekelwe kwisimo sengqondo esihle kunye nokungabikho kwabanye abanye ukuba bangavumi. Ke ungaliva ibinzana elivela kuye njenge: "Ndifuna ukuya kwivenkile indlela entsha ... kodwa ukuza kuthi ga ngoku ... kwaye andinazo iimoto ... indlela yokubangela imvakalelo yokuziva unetyala rhoqo, kwaye ngoku uhamba kunye kwivenkile yakho, jikelele, musa. Musa ukusabela kwiindlela ezinjalo zokubangela iimvakalelo ezingathandekiyo kuwe, khumbula ukuba awuzange ungomnye.