-URita, ndixelele ukuba kutheni namhlanje ibhinqa eliselula, elifundileyo, elinomtsalane, eligcwele amathemba amoyikeyo ukuphulukana naye, ukuze ahlale naye?
-Zininzi izizathu: Ngaphandle kothando kwinzala yezemali. Njengomthetho, indoda ozama ukuyigcina, inayo zombini imali nembonakalo. Kunzima ukugcina umntu onjalo, ngenxa yokuba ujikeleze imizimba emihle kakhulu, enomdla, ejonge amanye amantombazana, amadoda ahlala enezilingo ezininzi.
Nje ukuba lo mfazi azame zonke iindlela zokuseka ubudlelwane, kodwa akukho nto yancedayo, uhlala kwiNdlela enye ethembekileyo: Ukuguqula imikhosi yabantsundu, ngethemba lokugcina okanye ukubuyisela le ndoda. Kwiimeko ezininzi, iyasebenza, kodwa ihlala ineziphumo. Okokuqala, kuyabetha kakuhle, kusempilweni yendoda, iba likhoboka, amakhosi amnyama sele elawulwa phezu kwakhe. Kwaye yena ngokwakhe uthi: "Ewe, andiyifuni le ntombazana," kodwa kwintando yakhe ngandlel 'ithile yaphuka into, nemilenze iqhubeka nalowo wenza isigqibo.
Kukho ukutshatyalaliswa kweshishini, ngobudlelwane, uzama ukuzikhulula, ukuvumela le ngxaki, iqala ukusela, ihleli kwiziyobisi. Ngexesha lokuthathwa kotywala, kubonakala ngathi kuyakhutshwa, kodwa kunzima ukuphila nzima.
Kulungile, wamfumana, ngoku bakunye, kodwa loo mzuzu uza kwaye amandla amnyama afuna umrhumo wabo. Kule nto kufuneka uhlawule impumelelo, impilo, kwezinye iimeko ukungasebenzi ngokwesondo.
-Ngabakho izibini ezifana nale ndoda imangalisayo ihlala kuyo umfazi oqhelekileyo? Ngamanye amaxesha, ujonge esinye isibini, iingcinga zixelelwa ukuba ayikabikho nto ngaphandle kokuphazamiseka.
-Bonke ubomi bam buphila ngesiqhelo- ithi ngokuvakalayo, bobabini basebukhobokeni. Ngapha koko, amandla ale ndoda ayekholwa. " Kwaye nge-45-55, xa kufanele ukuba ibe ngamandla apheleleyo kunye namandla, kuye kwaphelelwa ngokupheleleyo, uhlaselo lwentliziyo luqala, imivumbo. Emva kokuba "phuma, akaphili, kodwa cwaka nje iminyaka yakhe.
Kodwa eli bhinqa liphumelele, ecaleni kwakhe njengenja elithembekileyo, kodwa akukho lonwabo kunye nempumelelo yokuthetha akunakuba njalo.
-Uphakama umbuzo: Ngaba lo mfazi akaqondi ukuba imiphumo isenokuba yingozi ukuba umntu uza kubandezeleka?
"Ibhinqa eligqibe kwelokuba lisipelo lothando yeyona ntshukumisa inamandla:" Ndiyamthanda kwaye yonke into kufanele ukuba ndiyifunayo. "
Akakhathali nokuba ingena into engalunganga okanye engathandekiyo. Akadingi ukuba ajonge emehlweni okhola ejikelezwe, alahliwe kwaye enganyamezeli i-mockery yeentombi zabo. Apha, kunjalo, i-Egosism ethunyelweyo isebenza.
Nje ukuba ndifunde ingxelo kaMonica Beyochi: "Ndisayiqonda kakhulu njengabafazi. Ukuba le yindoda yam, yoba yeyakho kuphela, akukho mntu uya kuyifumana. Ndiwathandile kakhulu la magama. Uhlala eneminyaka eli-17 ubudala ngebhazathi ye-vincect case, engadinwanga ukumangalisa indoda yakhe, kwaye ajonge. Ndiqinisekile ukuba uMonica Beluchichi akazange abhenele kuwo onke amakhosi.
Kwaye ndivumelane kakhulu naye: ukuze ndikhanyisele phambili ubudlelwane, ndibameleza rhoqo, indoda kufuneka imangaliswe yonke imihla, ukwenza ubudlelwane obuhlukeneyo.
-Makhe siqale ngento yokuba le yingxelo yomfazi olihlwempu. Lowo mfazi 'ulima' emsebenzini uphela ukuya kuthi ga ngentsimbi yesixhenxe kusasa kwaye unxibe yonke indlu ngokwawo, abantwana abanakuvuyela ukumangalisa iqabane lakhe yonke imihla.
Ngokuyinxenye, ndiyavumelana nawe. Umfazi "olima" ukusukela esixhenxe kusasa kwaye ahlalisa abantwana, usapho, yonke indlu ngumfazi ongenguye owongeziweyo ongenakunika intuthuzelo kunye nenkululeko yemali. Ayizukuqhuba kwaye izame.
Ukuba sithetha ngokungathandabuzekiyo, sithetha ngamadoda akhuselekileyo kwaye kwimfuno efumene impumelelo yemali, ubutyebi, udumo olunokubonelela ngomgangatho ophezulu wokuphila. Abafazi balwela amadoda anesimo esithile, impembelelo, umtsalane, kwaye kungekuko kunogada okanye impumelelo. Ngenxa yendoda enjalo, umfazi ngamanye amaxesha ukulungele ukuthengisa umphefumlo, kwaye ungayi kumthakathi.
- Kwaye xa esiya kumthakathi, yonke imbonakalo yobugqwirha kwiinkonzo zayo. Kutheni sinabalindi abaninzi kangaka?
Uninzi lwaba bruqukayo. Kunqabile ukufumana ithambo lokwenyani. Yonke into ihanjiswa kwizithuthi zeshishini, imali kule ndawo inkulu. Kukho imibutho yeMafia, ishishini elongamela ulwakhiwo oluthile. Kwaye ukuba babengabakhathali bokwenene, bonke baya kujongwa, ngoko sasinethamsanqa kangangokuba uninzi lwazo luqale.
Ubugqwirha sisiqwengana, umsebenzi ngamnye. Ukufumana umlingo wokwenyani kunzima kakhulu, njengommiselo, kunokukhululwa kuyo kuphela kwirediyo eyisanti. Ababhengeza kwi-Intanethi.
-Umazi, kwindawo yendoda enesibindi nenempembelelo, ndingacinga ngaphambi kokuba ndidibane nentombazana, kwaye ndinokucinga nangakumbi ngaphambi kokuba ishiywe. Iziphumo zinokuba buhlungu.
-Umthetho, akukho bantu badakumbile eMoscow. Bonke bawa phantsi kwempembelelo. Uxabisekile, kuba kukho umzabalazo. Abasetyhini abafuna ukufumana ixhoba, kakhulu, kunye namadoda ahambelana, ngelishwa, ngaphantsi. Bona ngokwabo bayazi le nto kwaye abaninzi benzela abakhuselekileyo kwishishini labo.
Kunokwenzeka ukuba umcebise ukuba angazichebi kwaye angadibana nawo nabani na ecaleni, ukuze aphile kwintsapho okanye kunye neqabane lakhe elisisigxina, akakho ngabom ukuba abeke ngokuthobeka, akakho abangcwele.
Kukho amantombazana amaninzi amancinci amancinci: umlindi, izicaka, oonobhala -Unobhala -Uyikani Ubunzima.
Amantombazana avela ezilalini, kwiidolophu ezincinci, akwenziwa kakubi, elungiselelwe, akukho nto iphantsi kubahlali bekomkhulu. Kwaye nabo akukhathali ukuba uthanda kangakanani, abafazi abasemthethweni okanye abantwana. Bayazi ukuba abamamkela kuphela umntu, kodwa nehlabathi liphela.
Xa intombazana imbulela kwindoda esisityebi kwinto enomdla, egcwele ilizwe lezinto eziphathekayo, emva koko liya kwenza konke ukuphulukana nalo. Kodwa ukuba ihluthwe kuye, ke ngamanye amaxesha yonke into iphele intsingiselo yayo. Emva kwendoda enje, awusafuneki ukudibana nomntu olula, uthelekiso alunakuthandwa.
-Unxibelelana nawe ukuba ubuyisele indoda enjalo? Kwaye ngokubanzi, zeziphi iingxaki oza kuwe?
Njengomthetho, banyangwa ziingxaki zosapho, xa ubudlelwane phakathi kwendoda nomfazi bayo bugqobhoza. Emva kokuba ndibona, kutheni le ntokazi ayikwazanga ukubamba iqabane lakhe, buza lo mbuzo: "Ngaba ungayitshitshisela?" Ndiyala. Ukwaphula i-fate kunye nengqondo yomntu-isono esikhulu. Andiyiguquli imigaqo yam, imbono yam, andikaze ndibangele imikhosi emnyama. Ndiyakholelwa ukuba kukho i-boomerang, kwaye ingemva kwaye indibethe. Andizukuzibeka wena kunye nosapho lwakho olunjalo. Kule meko, umsebenzi we-psychologist uqala. Ziveze izizathu.
Ihlala yenzeka rhoqo ukuba umfazi afumane indoda kwaye aphumle.
Ucinga ukuba wamkela unyana olindelekileyo, kwaye akayi ndawo kuye. Ibhinqa liyaphela ukumkhathalela, liyayeka ukuba yindoda enomdla.
Kwaye apha akunakwenzeka ukuba uphumle, kuba "abancinci nabalambileyo" baphaphazela emgodini, kwaye umyeni wakho unoba lixhoba.
I-ALOS, ngaphandle kokuqonda i-psychology yendoda kuya kunzima ukuyigcina, kodwa ithemba lokuba uza kuphila kunye nawe kwimfesane yomsebenzi nemfesane.
Ngokwemvelo, indoda ekwindle yanaphakade, uhlala ufuna ukuqhuba, i-adrenaline, i-sundoon yeemvakalelo, iimvakalelo ezintsha.
Kwaye umfazi oxakekileyo ngobomi nomntwana akasayi kuba namandla amatsha kwaye anike umntu oko akufunayo kwindalo.
Indoda yi-Pelygamen engapheliyo, uya kuhlala enikele ingqalelo kubafazi ababengaphandle. Kwaye ungacingi ukuba iintshaba zihlala zihlala ziselula, umfazi kunye nomdala unokulukuhla umntu.
Ndinika uninzi lokubonisana, ndisebenzisa ubuchule beparapsychological, ndibona, apho isizathu sokwenyani sisixa-mali. Apho, ukusilela kwakuqala phi kubudlelwane.
Ndiza kunika umzekelo: Omnye wabaguli bam ekumtshatweni wakhe waphosa umyeni, waphosa iintlungu kwaye ethuthuzelwa emphefumlweni wakhe. Ngoku le ntlungu kunye nokuthuka ihleli ngokuqinileyo kwi-subconsion. Iminyaka ihambile, wafumana iqabane losapho, kodwa ityala lihlala kwaye ngokuzithandela lichaphazela i-subconanstance. Wathiya kwaye enqwenela oku okanye akunjalo, kuchaphazela ubudlelwane nendoda yakhe. Umyeni uthoba ngokudibeneyo ngokudibeneyo nalo mqobo, ukwala kwaye awuqondi ukuba yintoni ingxaki. Umfazi xa esekumvisisane ngokupheleleyo, esebenza nzima, kwaye ezi zinxibo zitsala indoda.
Kwaye xa kukho ukwaphula umthetho ngokwazisa ingqumbo kwindoda, i-chakras yesondo ivinjelwe, amandla afanelekileyo eluthandweni avaliwe.
Ngenxa yoko, indoda ifumana isini, kodwa ayifumani, imvakalelo inombala, uqalisa ukujonga ngasekunene - ngasekhohlo.
Emva kokuzalwa komntwana, uEuphoria wanyamalala, kwabakho into eqhelekileyo, kwaye ithi: "Ndabona ukuba awunguye umfazi wam."
Kuninzi okuya kuhamba ngendlela eyahlukileyo ukuba bekungekho zibhloko zingaphantsi komhlaba, ukhubekise kwaye ukuphoxeka, ukubandezeleka kothando lokuqala. Konke kwenzeka konke okungenamava, baninzi abantu abatshatileyo baqonda ukuba abadalelwanga. "
Enye ingxaki enkulu ngenxa yoko le ntokazi yasasaza umntu osela omnye kwaye yafumana enye emnyama. Konke oku kubekwe kwi-subconsion, kwaye iingcambu zale ngxaki zithathwe kwasebuntwaneni. Umsebenzi wam kukubandakanya intuition, ukuze uchonge kwaye uyiphelise.
Kodwa ndisebenza nale nto, funda, ndinika ingcebiso, indlela yokuqhubeka nokuziphatha.
Ngelishwa, abafazi bethu balungisiwe kakhulu ngokwengqondo, funda iincwadi ezincinci apho kufundiswa khona ubulumko. Ngoku kukho uncwadi oluninzi olunokufikeleleka noluncedo kubudlelwane, kunyanzelekile ukuba wazi ukwenzela ukubona iimpazamo zakho ukusuka kwicala.
- Wena, ngokwahlukileyo kwiingcebiso kwiincwadi eziluncedo, ngaba ikhona indlela yombhali?
- Okokuqala, ndicebisa ukuba uhambe ukuze uxolelwe kwaye uguquke. Kunzima kakhulu-ukuxolela kwaye konke kwamkelwe. Ukuba iLifa leLifa Elingalunganga lidlulile kwintsapho yomzali, kwaye ukuba le milinganiselo ayithathwanga ngexesha, ke oku kukuthobeka. Nika zonke izithuko phezulu, uxolo kwaye ulibale. Okwesibini, wakhela ukukhohlisa ngobomi obuhle kwaye uzame ukuhlala, uhlala uwubonisa.
Yenza umfanekiso omtsha kwaye uhlala uzama ukuphila, ukucinga kulungile. Le ndlela inokuba "zikhupha" ngokwakho kwaye ususe yonke into yokufakelwa okungasebenzi kakuhle. Ndineengcebiso ezininzi ezisebenzayo ezingancedisi isibini esinye. Le yindlela yombhali wam esekwe kwimfundiso ngokubanzi yengqondo yengqondo kunye neparapsychology.
Indibaniselwano ye-psychology kunye neparapsychology isombulula iingxaki ezininzi engcambu.
Yenza isitokhwe, isitokhwe, isidlo sangokuhlwa kunye nekhandlela kunye nokubekwa i-stackert akunakusonjululwa yingxaki nendoda. Konke kulungile kwaye kuya kusebenza ixesha elinye okanye amabini, kuba ukufakelwa okungalunganga kuhlala kwaye akukho nto itshintsha.
Okokuqala kufuneka ususe i-subconating, ukuba ungakhutyekiswe ngabantu, ukuya kwimbangi, kubazali. Imvisiswano iza kunye nam, musa ukuba nxamnye nomntu ocinga ngeendlela ezimbi eziqingqiweyo zonke iindlela zonke. Kufuneka sivumele intiyo, isithsaba esidlulileyo, ukusilela, kuphelisa zonke iinkqubo ezingalunganga kwaye uqalise ukuphinda uphinde uphinde uphinde.