Sonke singamelanga ubomi ngaphandle kokuthanda, kodwa indlela yakhe kuye wonke umntu ngamnye wethu. Umntu unethamsanqa, kwaye afumana uthando lwabo ngokukhawuleza, kwasebancinci abancinci. Umntu uyafumana, aphulukana, kodwa akaphelelwa lithemba, kodwa akholelwa kwaye alinda, ngamanye amaxesha iminyaka emininzi, ulonwabo. Umntu othambeleyo ulinde ngokugudileyo, ukuze akhangele abe ngumdlalo onomdla kunokuzalisa ubomi babo. Kodwa kukho abo bafuna uthando abazekinye ngaphandle kokuphoxeka kunye namava engqondo. Oku kubandakanya, umzekelo, amantombazana akhawuleza aphulukane nomdla kumadoda athandana nabo.
Ekuqaleni, oku kusenokubonakala kuyinto engaqhelekanga: ukufuna ingqalelo yendoda oyifunayo kwaye iphulukane nomdla kuyo ngokukhawuleza kwakamsinya nje emva kokuba edibana nokuphindaphindwa. Kodwa enyanisweni, le ngxaki ifunyanwa rhoqo. Kukholelwa ukuba ubunyani bokuzingela bungaqhelekanga emadodeni, kukho inani elikhulu leengcebiso zamantombazana malunga nendlela yokuziphatha kunye nokugcina umdla wabo usebenzisa le ntetho inzima. Kwangelo xesha, eyona nto "yemvelo" ithetha ukuba umntu ungenisa ngokupheleleyo intsingiselo ngokupheleleyo, ukuthobela ukungazi, ukungazinzanga.
Ngaba intombazana ingaphantsi kwegunya lemveli elifanayo? Mhlawumbi xa umtshato (okanye ubukho bendoda ekufutshane) iba yeyona njongo ibaluleke kakhulu. Kule meko, nawuphina umntu, ngakumbi okanye ungaphantsi kweminyaka kunye nembonakalo, iba yinto "yokuzingela" (kwaye kwelona gama linzima, kukuzingela kwabo bangalunganga kwaphela). Intombazana iyadlala, itsala ingqalelo kuye, ngelixa ingayisusanga ngokukodwa nalowo uphambileyo. Yonke imikhosi iyathanda, kwaye ingayazi umntu, umfanekiso wendoda uhlala ungowokuhlelwa, uhlengahlengiswa ngemigangatho oyifunayo, kwaye yinyani-ivelisiwe.
Onke amakhosi entombazana aya eyokuthanda, engayazi into yakho
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Kwaye xa umntu oqaqambileyo ekugqibeleni utsale ingqalelo le ntombazana, unxibelelwano lwabo lusondela, ngequbuliso kuye kwenzeka ukuba yonke into ebikelwe ayiyonyani, kwaye ayifanelekanga. " Oko kukuthi, indoda iqhelekile ngokwayo, kodwa kumfanekiso owenziweyo awuhambelani. Kwaye oku kungangqinelani kudala ukuphoxeka - amandla amaninzi kuchithwa, hayi kuloo nto. Intombazana iphulukana nomdla kuye.
Imeko eqhelekileyo? Ngapha koko, imeko ingafani, kodwa iziphumo ziyafana: Ngokukhawuleza xa i-nye indoda ifikeleleke, inzala kuyo inyamalale. Kwaye rhoqo, ngokuchanekileyo ngenxa yomntu wokwenyani ayifikeleli kulindelo lwethu olufanelekileyo. Kodwa eyona nto inomdla kukuba akafanele aqonde, akazi ukuba uwele ngayo, kodwa ngaphakathi kuwe wawuvula umfanekiso. I-queumbele ezaphukileyo ihlala ihamba zombini - kwaye intombazana eyafumanayo "ayilunganga," kwaye umntu ongayiqondi into angayifuniyo.
Rhoqo, ukuzingela okunjalo kwindoda (indebe) -kukuyisela uluvo loMbutho "kufuneka sibe nendoda." Kodwa enyanisweni, intombazana ihlala isoyike okanye ayifuni ubudlelwane obukhulu. Kule meko, uqhekeza, uyafezekisa, kwaye afumene isiqinisekiso semvakalelo evela kwindoda, ilahlekile nawuphi na umnqweno wokuqhubeka.
Ukuthintela ukuphoxeka, akuyi kwenza inqabile umntu. Kungcono ukuqala okokuqala ukuba ithini
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Kwabanye, ukuzingela okunjalo luhlobo lokuphawula i-ego yakho, "ndikwazi". Kodwa kule meko, intombazana ayinasizathu sokudala ubudlelwane obude nobusekufutshane, ngumdlalo nje. Ukuziva ngehashe, mhle, unqwenela.
Uninzi luqwalasela indlela yokuziphatha yabasetyhini enjalo uphawu lokukhukhumala. Kodwa enyanisweni, ngokuchaseneyo, kwaye, kakhulu, le ntombazana ineengxaki ezithile zokuzithemba nokoyika ubudlelwane.
Indlela yokuphuma kule meko ayikho apho, apho kwaye khona kwaye umnyango ungafanelekanga! Akukho sidingo sokukhuthaza umntu ngokwakho, kwintlanganiso yokuqala ebonisa yona kunye nomtshato ogqibeleleyo, kunye nombala wodonga ekhitshini lwekhaya lakho, kunye nenani labantwana elizayo. Chitha amandla kunye nexesha lokufumanisa ukuba ngubani na phambi kwakho. Ukuziqhelanisa nokubonisa ukuba nkqu nokwazi okungaqhelekanga, incoko encinci, ngokuhlwa ichithwe kwinkampani enye kunceda ukuqonda, nokuba kufuneka uqonde? Ewe, ekuqaleni kolwalamano siyimfama yonke, ukuba bakhetha ukungabonisi kunyulo ukuba yintoni esingayithandiyo, kodwa akufanelanga ukwandisa le meko! Khumbula, awudlali hayi ngeemvakalelo zakho, kodwa nangeemvakalelo zendoda. Kwaye ayisiyiyo umdlalo apho uphumelele khona.