Xa umtshato uwa, abantwana baphulukana nolomeleleyo. Baphulukane nentsapho kuphela, kodwa banobuchule bokhuseleko, kwaye xa kungekho mfuneko yokhuseleko, kubonakala ngathi umhlaba uphela uwa. Kwaye akukho zesangqa kunye neethoyi ziya kuba nakho ukugcwalisa le lahleko. Iinkcukacha-manani zeSurova: Abantwana abavela kwiintsapho ezingaphelelanga bafunda kakubi, banomngcipheko ophezulu wokukhulelwa kolutsha, utywala kunye neengxaki ezihlala zihlala zingapheli kangangexesha elingakumbi.
Kule mihla, inkolo yabantwana ivele ngamandla angenakufihlakeleyo. Umntwana ubeke entlokweni yekona kwaye wanyula ophambili kusapho kunye nobudlelwane. Kodwa kubalulekile ukuba iimfuno kunye neemfuno zomntwana zibaluleke ngakumbi kunezinto ezinomdla kunye neemfuno zeqabane, impazamo enkulu! Eyona nto inokuthi isebenze abantwana babo, ukuze bafunde ngolonwabo. Ufuna ukuba ngoyena Mzali ulungileyo - ube liqabane elihle kwiqabane lakho. Kuyinyani, akusoloko kunokwenzeka.
Kwihlabathi lokwenyani, abazali bayagungqa rhoqo. Yoyika nangakumbi kukuba amaqabane afumileyo akwazi ukugcina oqhelekileyo okanye, ubuncinci, ubudlelwane bobazali phakathi kwabo. Inani elikhulu labantwana okanye lihlala ngaphandle kwabazali okanye linyanzelekile ukuba lithathe ootata abatsha okanye umama kuba abantu abadala balula kakhulu ukuzivalela umntu odlulileyo ebomini. Kodwa yintoni umntwana okwimeko enjalo?
Bonke ubunzima obukhulu ngabantwana abavela kwimitshato yangaphambili (kwaye abazali abavela kwimitshato emitsha) baphakama ngenxa yokuba abantu abadala abakwazi ukuseka unxibelelwano kwaye bacwangcise amaqabane afanelekileyo kubudlelwane phakathi kwawo onke amaqabane.
Kwilizwe lethu, ukuziqhelanisa nakubantwana emva koqhawulo mtshato bahlala behleli nonina. Oku kuthetha ukuba indoda eza kuyakha ubomi bakhe nebhinqa elinomntwana ukuba linyanzelwe ukuba lihlale nomntwana kwelinye ilizwe kwaye sakhe unxibelelwano kunye naye. Kuya kubonakala ngathi abafazi abatshata nendoda abatshatayo abanale meko kulula, kodwa basebenza kwaye banengxaki yokuba ngumntwana wokuqala kunye nomfazi wokuqala.
Abantwana ngokubanzi kufuneka babe nako ukugcina ubudlelwane obuzinzileyo kunye nabazali bobabini.
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Nokuba ubudlelwane bobuqhawulo mtshato emva koqhawulo-mtshato, abantwana abaqhelekileyo kufuneka bakwazi ukugcina ubudlelwane obuzinzileyo kunye nabazali bobabini (ukuba abazali abaphelelwa ngamalungelo kwaye abaphikisi indlela yokuphila engekhoyo). Nokuba umntwana usele emva koqhawulo-mtshato, amaqabane akhe aya kufuneka avumelane nomnye kunye nokuseka imigaqo-nkqubo yemfundo. Makungabikho meko apho umntwana enosuku olunye kamama afunda iincwadi kwaye adlale ipiyano, kwaye notata-uSuku olujikelezayo luhlala kwikhompyuter okanye kwikhompyuter.
Ukhuphiswano ngelungelo lokubizwa ngokuba ngumzali ongcono, njengomgaqo, ukhulule nje ngengqondo yomntwana. "Ukukugcola" uPopu ngokupheleleyo kuluntu ekuhlaleni, umntwana akafuni kubuya kwihlabathi lemida nemithetho yokuba umama amisela kuye. Ngenxa yoko, ayikho kuphela igunya likamama, kodwa nomyeni walo omtsha, lucaphukiswa ziimbambano kusapho.
Imfundo esebenzayo yabantwana ifuna unxibelelwano olusebenzayo. Nokuba bendifuduse amaqabane kunye namaqabane abo amatsha awathandi okanye angavumelani nemicimbi emininzi, aya kuba liqela elinye xa kufikwa kwoonyana. Kubalulekile ukuba uvume: Amaqabane amatsha abo bafumileyo - abathathi-nxaxheba abapheleleyo kwinkqubo yemfundo. Impazamo enkulu iya kubakhuphela ngaphandle kwinkqubo yokuphakamisa okanye inciphise igunya labo, kunye nemfuno evela kubantwana kwangoko nokuthobela.
Amaqabane amatsha abazali abaphathelele abantwana kumtshato odlulileyo kubalulekile ukugcina iGolden phakathi: ukuba angamgatyanga umntwana, kodwa ungazami ukumkhohlisa ecaleni kwakho. Ubudlelwane kule meko kufuneka bube kusekwe kwimilinganiselo elula nefanelekileyo yomntwana: ingqalelo, ukhathalelo, ukuvulela, ukuthembana. Nokuba kwasekuqaleni akukho lula, kubalulekile ukufumana umntwana ukuba aqhele umntwana. Lo ngumyeni omtsha kamaMama - umntu esimthandayo kunye nomntu osondeleyo, kodwa umntwana useza kuthatha kwaye amthande, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha kufuneka ixesha elininzi. Kodwa ukuba oku kwimigaqo bekunokwenzeka, iqabane likapopu elitsha okanye iqabane elitsha umama makabe yinxalenye yosapho olukhulu oluqhelekileyo. Kwaye kubalulekile ukuba uqonde wonke umntu: Kwaye abo baza kuba ngumyeni wesibini okanye umfazi wesibini, kunye nabo baza kungena emtshatweni omtsha emva koqhawulo mtshato.