Abafundi abanomdla kwaye abafuna ukutolika kwamaphupha sele befunde amaphupha abo. Uhlalutyo olungeyonyani, utoliko kwi-freud okanye i-gestalt yonyango lokuhlalutya oko ukuphuphayo. Umxholo wephupha unokukutyhalela kwimifanekiso eyahlukileyo, kodwa ikho enye impahla yokulala, esingazange sithethe ngayo. Ayinxibelelani ngqo nomxholo wamaphupha, kodwa kufanelekile ukuba uxelele ngaye.
Kudala ndaziwe ukuba ukulala yimeko ekhethekileyo enokuchaphazeleka, akumangalisi ukuba kukho umkhombandlela wokufunda iilwimi zasemzini ephupheni. Siyababona ke ngoko asingeni, kodwa sikhumbule imifanekiso, ukulungiselela oko, i-hemisphere elungileyo inoxanduva, kwaye oku kunokwenzeka ngenxa yokuba xa silala ukhuseleko lwethu lube sikulala. Asithethi nje ukuba "ayinakwenzeka", kuba iphupha lilizwe onokuthi uliqonde into ongayi kuyo indawo yobomi bemihla ngemihla.
Ke, singasebenzisa iphupha lomnye umntu ukuze simzisele into angayivanga kubushushu bengxabano okanye ungquzulwano.
Inyani yile yokuba isikhundla selungelo layo lilizwe elixakekileyo. Akululanga kakhulu ukuba nenxaxheba ngeli lungelo. Abantu baxakeke ngohlobo oluthile lwembono ekwaziyo, ukungqina umbono wabo. Khumbula i-propaganda yezopolitiko esebenzayo okanye iingcebiso zesizukulwana esidala kwimfundo yabantwana, okanye iingcebiso ezingenazimpawu. Inkalo nganye ibalulekile kuzo, yonke into icocwe kwiinkcukacha ezincinci, akunakwenzeka ukuba ube nesikhundla sabo. Ukuthambisa yimeko yokholo olungaboniyo kwinto yokuba into ichanekile into enye, akukho sikhundla.
Ukunyanisa kuhlangabezana nathi rhoqo: kuthando lwentlungu yentlungu kunye nokholo lokuba "ngaphandle komntu, andizukuthula," okanye kuxhomekeka kwi-nicotine notywala. Akukho zindleko zeholide ngaphandle kokusela. Zama ukunikezela nje ukuthetha-owona magumbi arhabaxa abakwindlela yokuphila esempilweni baya kuphosela kuwe kwaye bafuna utywala. Kwaye kuthetha ntoni ngokutshaya. Eyona nto iphambili kubo, banomdla wokukhangela izihlalo, ixesha, bala inani lecuba kunye nokubakho okufutshane nokulibaziseka. Oku kuninzi okugqithileyo! Kodwa ayisiyiyo yonke le: I-Doollism, ezemidlalo ekuxhelweni, ukutya okungqongqo, ukutya kubantwana, kwizifo zakho kunye nonyango ...
Kolu hlobo lwamazwe, indlela esicinga ngayo ifana nokukhwela kumjelo. Asiqapheli nantoni na eya kuthi ithole kule khosi yeli cala kunye ne-teaner. Kumazwe anjalo, kunzima kuthi ukuba sifikelele kufutshane (okanye im-thina) kwaye sidlulisela amava abo, iimfuno zabo kunye neengcebiso zaboni, ngaphandle kokuba zifake isandla ekuthinteleni.
Ngendlela, esi sifo sikwayinto ethile. Njengomthetho, esi sifo siphucula njengempendulo yoxinzelelo, ukothuka kwengqondo. Kodwa abantu abayiphathi, kodwa imiphumo yoko siyithathile emzimbeni. Ngamanye amagama, ukuqaphela kubonakaliswa kumayeza kunye nonyango, endaweni yokusombulula ingxaki yokuqala.
Kwaye ukulala kuza kuhlangula. Ebuthelweni obunzulu, siphumla, ukulawula kunye nokusebenza. Siyakwazi ukuqonda umhlaba ngaphandle kokukhusela okunzima. Kuba ungathetha nabathandekayo bakho xa belele. Ngokuzola ukuhlala phantsi kwaye uthethe ukuba awunakudlulisela kubo kwimeko yokuvuka.
Nantsi eminye imizekelo:
-Ukuzitywala abantwana banokuthetha nomzali ngento eyenzeka nabo, njengoko bebandezeleka kwaye befumana into eyenzekayo, kuba yonke le nto ihlala ingaphandle kwemida yembono;
"Umama unokuthetha nomntwana ogulayo esigula sisifo, uya kujamelana kwaye aphile." Into agulayo ukuze iphile uxinzelelo oluthile awazange ahlangabeze ngenye indlela. Umzekelo, yagula, ayiyi egadini, kwaye uxinzelelo kukuba asabela kumsantsa nonina, ngokungathi uyala. Ngapha koko, oku akunjalo, uyathanda, umama uyamthanda kwaye agcwalise ukunxibelelana naye ngokuhlwa;
"Ungathetha nomyeni wakho ngezinto ezikhathazayo ukuba kubushushu bexatyiwe eqhelekileyo yonke into iphela ngokulinganayo kwaye ayifumaneki kumacala omabini.
Eyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu ngeli ncoko iguqukela kumphefumlo womntu kungenxa yenjongo yokufumana ukuthanda kwakhe, kodwa ukuze kungenelwe yena kunye nezithandwa zakhe.
Zama, ulinge!
Kwaye ndilinde imizekelo yamaphupha akho kwi-imeyile [email protected].
UMaria Dyachkova, ugqirha wezengqondo, ugqirha wosapho kunye noqeqesho olukhokelayo kwiZiko loQeqsho loQhulelo loQeqesho lweMarika Khazin