Ukuqala incoko malunga ne-psychology yabantu abakhuselweyo, ebavumela ukuba bafumane inqanaba eliphezulu lobutyebi kwakhona, sixoxe ngemithetho emibini yokuqala-ukukhangela imithombo yengeniso kunye nenkanuko eyenziweyo. Ngoku makhe sithethe malunga nemithetho yemfazwe, engakufanelanga ukuyenza, ngakumbi xa inqanaba lengeniso liyancipha. Kule meko, ndithetha ukuba ndibukeka kakhulu Jonga ibinzana elithi "ukholo kummangaliso." Uyabona ukuba ukholo kummangaliso lubonisa umngcipheko omkhulu, malunga nentlalontle kunye nokucinga akunangqondo. Ke,
Umthetho wesithathu. Sukudlala ngekamva. Umntu okhuselweyo akanguye ophathekileyo kwi-Azart. Kubomi obuqhelekileyo kunye nomvuzo ozinzileyo, unokudlala i-casino okanye enze amaxabiso okutsiba. Enye into yile yokuba kunokonwaba i-adrenaline, uhlala eqaqambisa isixa ebenako ukuhlawula, kwaye, ukuthoba imithambo yakhe, abuyele kwinyani. Kodwa kwenzeka ntoni xa ingeniso icocekile kabukhali? Ngamanye amaxesha likho ithemba ngommangaliso kunye nomnqweno wokunqwenela ukwenza ummangaliso kunye nomnqweno wokuqinisekisa ukuba ikamva liselungile. Ndiyayazi indoda esele ikwixesha elidlulileyo lenze amaxabiso afanelekileyo, kwaye ndingayi kuguqula umgca, kwaye emva kokuba ilahle ingeniso eqingqiweyo, iqale ukuba ibe semngciphekweni omkhulu, ndizama "ukuba" phuma "ngekamva. Ngethamsanqa, waqonda ingxaki ngexesha kwaye wathumela amandla "umdlalo" wamandla "komnye umgca (kamva siza kuthetha ngayo). Ukuba iyimfuneko "qinisa ibhanti", umntu okhuselekileyo uya kucime kwinkcitho yokuqala kuzo zonke iintlobo "ze-adrenaline". Akayeki nje kwikhasino okanye kwihashe. Akayi kudlala i-lottery, axazulula ngokusengqiqweni: amathuba okuphumelela aphantsi kakhulu ukubala kuwo. Zonke izixhobo zayo zijolise ekubuyiseni ukungaguquguquki kwabo, zonke iintshukumo ziphantsi kwenjongo enye.
Umthetho wesine. Hlala ngeendlela. Umntu okhuselekileyo uyazi kakuhle ukuba yintoni imali mboleko. Kodwa ukuba ithatha yena, ke-kuphuhliso lweshishini, ukuba nombono ocacileyo wezinto ezinokwenzeka kunye neendlela zokuvuthwa. Ngowuphi umntu okhuselekileyo oqhelekileyo, ebomini kunye nenqanaba elizinzileyo lengeniso - akunjalo? Ayithathi imali mboleko yemeko yexabiso eliphantsi, kuba kuyabiza kwaye imeko. Ngakumbi ukuba une-analogue enexabiso eliphantsi ezanelisa iimfuno ezifanelekileyo. Lo ngumahluko kwi-psychology yentlupheko, xa umntu ethenga into mboleko "engayisebenzisi" ubuncinci kangangokuba azive inyathelo eliphezulu lezitebhisi zentlalo, kwaye iphupha, iphupha.
Awu, xa ingeniso yomntu okhuselweyo incitshisiwe kakhulu, inokufikelela kumgibe oyingozi. Kunzima kakhulu ukuba "qinisa ibhanti" kwaye wenze imigaqo-siseko emitsha yolawulo xa usenza isigqibo esifanelekileyo. Ingqondo kunzima kakhulu ukuhlengahlengisa, iyamelana: ngaphambi kwe "STOP" isiginali eninzi ukuya kwixabiso elikhulu. Izisombululo malunga nokuchithwa kwechiza zacwangciswa, wawunayo yonke into, oko kuthetha ukuba akukho zilingo. Sithini isilingo sokuthengwa kwexabiso eliphantsi, ukuba kunjalo nakuphi na ukungabi nawuphi na umzuzu? Ngoku, ngokuncipha kobutyebi, izilingo ziya ngaphezulu- kwaye umnqweno wokwamkela isisombululo seemvakalelo unamandla. Ndifuna ukufumana into ngalo mzuzu omnye, ukungqina ngokwakho ukuba usaqhubeka "ngokulandelelana" kwaye ungapheleli kwiindlela. Kwaye nantsi imvakalelo yokuba uzikhumbuze into ephambili: Uzama ukuhlawula le nto, kodwa ngenxa yemvakalelo. Ngamava ogcobo kunye nezipho kuye. Kwenziwe ntoni? Ukuzithoba kuwe kuyo yonke into, cula amazinyo akho? Hayi, akukho meko: ukuba akukho nto ibalulekileyo ngokweemvakalelo, iyakukhuthaza ukubuyisela indlela eqhelekileyo yokuphila. Isisombululo silula: Ufuna uhlobo oluthile lwesiko, ubuncinci isiqingatha seyure ukwanelisa i-whim encinci, kwiPilletion. Omnye umthengi wam, kwixesha elidlulileyo - i-accountant ephambili yekhonkco elikhulu levenkile, umsebenzi ophulukene noko. Ndifumene entsha, kodwa ingeniso, kunjalo, ayinakuthelekiswa nanto. Kwakufuneka ndihlaziye imigaqo edlulileyo yokuchitha, kodwa into ashiye ngabom: uqhubeke nokuthenga iintlobo zekofu oyithandayo kunye netshokholethi ebiza kakhulu. Rhoqo kusasa, njengoko ikhaya lalisele lalala, wahlala ngefestile ekhitshini, wasela ikofu yakhe ekhethekileyo kwaye wangena itshokholethi ekhethekileyo. Uyishiyile njengesikhumbuzo sobomi obudlulileyo, ukuvumela ukuhlengahlengisa ingqondo imihla ngemihla ekucingeni komntu okhuselweyo. Izipho ezo zinokubakho: iziqholo, i-tina, i-tina, i-jam, i-cream ... enye kuphela, apho ubomi bunxulumene nani. Iya kuba yimali eyaneleyo, kwaye le ntetho iya kwanela ukungaphumi-kwaye ungathenge kwingqumbo, ukucaphukisa kunye nokuziphatha okuhle kokuziphatha "zokudla ngokuziphatha". I-palaughter ivumelekile kwaye iyimfuneko, ayifanelanga ukuba ininzi kakhulu. Ekugqibeleni, abasakubetha entloko kwaye benze isipho sokungaxhathisi, ukuba akunguye?
Ngale mithetho, yintoni engafuneki ukuba uyenze. Kwaye malunga nento oyifunayo, masithethe ngexesha elizayo. Kwangelo xesha, kuxoxwe apho kuthumela khona amandla akhutshwe nguMdlalo, i-Azart kunye nokuzonwabisa.